Party For A Bride, Including Stripper...EWWW

[Saphire]

A co-worker is getting married and another co-worker wants to host a get together with food (pot luck) and fun before the wedding date. (the bride already had a work shower) I was planning to go, but then heard the hostess wants to hire a male stripper to stop by her home for entertainment. UGH. Not my style or my idea of 'fun'. I would never be comfortable, and will not be going now. My question is: should I tell her why, or suddenly be 'busy' with other plans?

 

[Jennasis]

Umm...this would be the equivalent of a batchelorette party. Relatively normal. If you don't feel comfortable going, just decline. Giving a reason is unnecessary.

 

[C.Ann]

Not my style either.. I would just politely decline.. It's not necessary to explain why..

 

[luvmy3]

My answer depends on why you want to tell them why. If its because you want them to know that you think having a stripper is morally wrong or gross, then no don't say anything. If you just want to tell them because they are your friend and will wonder why you won't be there, sure tell them that you would be uncomfortable with a half naked man in excellent physical shape gyrating and grinding against the women guests and you wouldn't want to be caught in a compromising position..........................

 

[jen0610]

A co-worker is getting married and another co-worker wants to host a get together with food (pot luck) and fun before the wedding date. (the bride already had a work shower) I was planning to go, but then heard the hostess wants to hire a male stripper to stop by her home for entertainment. UGH. Not my style or my idea of 'fun'. I would never be comfortable, and will not be going now. My question is: should I tell her why, or suddenly be 'busy' with other plans?

Just for the new rule.

My answer depends on why you want to tell them why. If its because you want them to know that you think having a stripper is morally wrong or gross, then no don't say anything. If you just want to tell them because they are your friend and will wonder why you won't be there, sure tell them that you would be uncomfortable with a half naked man in excellent physical shape gyrating and grinding against the women guests and you wouldn't want to be caught in a compromising position..........................

Or another suggestion.

Go, have a good time and when and/or IF a stripper shows up, excuse yourself to another room, the back patio, or make your exit.

I have known people to do all of these. The reason I said IF, is because I have been to a couple of parties that the hostess had hinted at there being a stripper there, when in fact none have showed up. Would have been a shame to miss out on the fun, based on the possibility that one will show up.

 

[bored]

Come on ladies, you all know you love a sweaty man in a banana hammock!

 

[krcit]

Come on ladies, you all know you love a sweaty man in a banana hammock!

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

Come on ladies, you all know you love a sweaty man in a banana hammock!

 

[luvmy3]

Come on ladies, you all know you love a sweaty man in a banana hammock!

I'm not sure about sweaty, but I'd take oiled up

 

[The Mystery Machine]

A co-worker is getting married and another co-worker wants to host a get together with food (pot luck) and fun before the wedding date. (the bride already had a work shower) I was planning to go, but then heard the hostess wants to hire a male stripper to stop by her home for entertainment. UGH. Not my style or my idea of 'fun'. I would never be comfortable, and will not be going now. My question is: should I tell her why, or suddenly be 'busy' with other plans?

Agree with PP and just excuse yourself to the bathroom as an option.

Of course this sounds like a drinking party with more raunchy on the side so you might want to be "busy" if you don't want to go.

Oh and "banana hammock"?

 

[mhsjax]

I wouldn't mind an oiled up guy in a banana hammock, if they could find one that isn't a "pretty boy". that is why I have never been to a male strip show. I like men and look like men, not long flowing hair, and no body hair anywhere else. My rule of thumb, if you shave or wax your underarms and or legs,and you are a man, just get away, you gross me out big time.

 

[bumbershoot]

If you want to go for the other part of the party, I would go, and then if the stripper shows up, just go outside. I was part of a bridal party that had a stripper (and it was someone they knew from their small town, yuck)...since I was a bridesmaid I felt that I had to be there for part of it, so I waited until he went around the room once (stopping in front of each of us...I just handed him a dollar before he started his moves) and then I excused myself. Saw a very pretty sunset in central WA by leaving the house.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I was part of a bridal party that had a stripper (and it was someone they knew from their small town, yuck)...

OMG!!!! I am sitting here with images of Betty White and the stripper in that movie where Sandra Bullock goes to Alaska.

 

[FireDancer]

Most of my friends have either gone to strip clubs or had strippers for their bachelor party. I don't go to those places normally but since it isn't about me, it is their party, I do what they want and don't whine about it.

I'd just go and have a good time. You don't have to get a lap dance (or whatever male strippers do) or even give him any money.

 

[Liberty Belle]

If you don't want to go, don't go. Tell her you're unable to attend. Don't tell her why, it may be offensive to her.

But you might want to reconsider. I never had any desire to go to a "male dancer" show a la Chippendales, but I went once with my friends. Thought I'd hate it, but it actually was a lot of fun. Really it's more about the atmosphere (or it was for me, anyway) than about a supposedly sexy man dancing in front of me. Everyone was laughing - it was just plain fun.

 

[castleview]

People still do bachelorette parties? An old boss sent a stripper to co-worker' office for her birthday - very professional, I know- and everyone was amazed about how cool and unembarrassed she was about it. She told me the next day that as soon as she realized he was gay, she was fairly relaxed.

 

[Kae]

I think someone found the stripper

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2537661



Kae

 

[JR6ooo4]

Is it because it is a male stripper?

they are all bulgy and ugly, now a nice curvy lady on the other hand...

Mikeeee

 

[Tinkermommy]

Most of my friends have either gone to strip clubs or had strippers for their bachelor party. I don't go to those places normally but since it isn't about me, it is their party, I do what they want and don't whine about it.

I'd just go and have a good time. You don't have to get a lap dance (or whatever male strippers do) or even give him any money.

Way to take one for the team FireDancer.

Honestly though, if it's a big issue then don't go, but don't get on a soapbox either.

If you do go, just excuse yourself while the performance is going on.

On a related note, I had a teacher in HS who was single and we were always trying to set her up and get her dating. At the end of the year the entire class (all girls) invited her out to dinner and we hired a stripper who posed as a cop. He said he was going to arrest her since some of us were drinking and were underage. Handcuffed her, gagged her with his tie and everything.

All the years later, I still laugh. I can't believe we did that! She was a good sport about it. I think she was happy she was not getting arrested.

 

[ICF]

Most of my friends have either gone to strip clubs or had strippers for their bachelor party. I don't go to those places normally but since it isn't about me, it is their party, I do what they want and don't whine about it.

From one guy to another---

Way to suck it up and be a friend to go hang out with them and the naked ladies in order to celebrate their big day. I'm sure it was hard, er difficult rather, for you to make the sacrifice!

The things us guys do for buddies!!