Parents, would you do this?

[AirForceRocks]

Thanks for clearing that up, Bob. Does that mean that I can continue to be intimate with my husband without fear of being considered a hypocrite?

 

[jrydberg]

That depends on what the definition of "is" is

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by AirForceRocks
Thanks for clearing that up, Bob. Does that mean that I can continue to be intimate with my husband without fear of being considered a hypocrite?

Depends -- did you tell her she can't have sex when she's in her 30's?

 

[Bojangles]

Originally posted by AirForceRocks
Does that mean that I can continue to be intimate with my husband without fear of being considered a hypocrite?

Yes, but only for the purpose of procreation.

 

[izzy]

Originally posted by tastelikecandy
Driving a car is not considered to be a bad thing. It is used to make time more efficient and save your feet. You don't pollute your liver evertime you get behind the wheel of a car. Bad comparason.

I don't see how having the occasional drink is a "bad thing" or considered "polluting your liver." Therefore, I still consider it to be a good comparison.

 

[Sandy V.]

Then by your logic, tastelike candy, a parent should never have sex, watch an "R" movie (or higher) or stay out occasionally until 4:00 a.m. because these are all things that we, under most circumstances, would be teaching children under legal age that they shouldn't be doing them. And if they do them, it's our own darn fault because WE as parents aren't setting a good example?!?!

I don't disagree that the parents here, just by what we see, have some fault in the situation. It would have been best to have the booze locked up.

But parents by virtue of BEING legal age have certain privileges and rights that kids don't have. To look down your nose at parents who imbibe in front of their kids (barring alcoholism and undesirable results therefrom) as setting a bad example and imply that they somehow deserve this to happen to them seems ridiculous.

(Added after I typed this but before I posted - looks like many stole my thunder!)

 

[tastelikecandy]

Originally posted by AirForceRocks
Thanks for clearing that up, Bob. Does that mean that I can continue to be intimate with my husband without fear of being considered a hypocrite?

I will not say you are a hypocrite but you might be a bit more cautious. For the record, I never walked in on my parents having sex either. There is one again a thing called a LOCK!!

 

[AirForceRocks]

Originally posted by tastelikecandy
I will not say you are a hypocrite but you might be a bit more cautious. For the record, I never walked in on my parents having sex either. There is one again a thing called a LOCK!!

Yes, there is such a thing as a lock. Funny though, when the kids are over at a friend's house for the night and I don't expect them back until the next morning, I'm not as careful as I would be when they are in the next room.

 

[tastelikecandy]

Originally posted by izzy
I don't see how having the occasional drink is a "bad thing" or considered "polluting your liver." Therefore, I still consider it to be a good comparison.

My point is different than most of yours. You don't want your children to drink until they are legal, I don't want mine to drink at all except wine with a meal which is all we do.

 

[Pete's Mom]

My son is 7. I don't lock the fridge so he can't get to alcoholic beverages (which I very rarely buy anyhow), I don't hide my purse so that he won't be tempted to steal money, I don't take the knobs off the stove so that he won't be tempted to play with fire, I don't lock up my cleaning products so he won't be tempted to sniff them, and I don't hide all my kitchen knives and scissors so that he won't be tempted to play with them.

What I do is to continue to teach my son that these things can be dangerous and he should leave them alone and I explain to him why and what might happen if he were to mess with them. I decided to teach him responsibility, not to "hide" or "lock" things away from him which I feel, would only stoke his curiosity. I want him to learn self control so that if goes to someone elses house to visit, he will know not to touch these things and why.

 

[bumcat]

My point is different than most of yours. You don't want your children to drink until they are legal, I don't want mine to drink at all except wine with a meal which is all we do.

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So you do drink wine in front of your child? That' still alcohol? Color me confused...

 

[workinggal]

tasteslikecandy, are you always this mean?

It seems to me that if someone doesn't agree with you or act the way you do, its a bad thing. And honelstly, hon, the way I see it, that's not the case.

 

[izzy]

Originally posted by bumcat

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So you do drink wine in front of your child? That' still alcohol? Color me confused...

Ditto

 

[tastelikecandy]

Yes, I do because wine with a meal is acceptable to me. However drinking just to drink is not. I am trying to teach my children that as well as SEX is perfectly fine when you are married!

 

[tastelikecandy]

Originally posted by workinggal
tasteslikecandy, are you always this mean?

It seems to me that if someone doesn't agree with you or act the way you do, its a bad thing. And honelstly, hon, the way I see it, that's not the case.

How am I being mean working gal??? I am merely saying what I think. I did not call anyone on this board a hypocrite, they just assumed I was referring to them. Don't know why.

 

[Snow Dog Mom]

Originally posted by Pete's Mom
My son is 7. I don't lock the fridge so he can't get to alcoholic beverages (which I very rarely buy anyhow), I don't hide my purse so that he won't be tempted to steal money, I don't take the knobs off the stove so that he won't be tempted to play with fire, I don't lock up my cleaning products so he won't be tempted to sniff them, and I don't hide all my kitchen knives and scissors so that he won't be tempted to play with them.

What I do is to continue to teach my son that these things can be dangerous and he should leave them alone and I explain to him why and what might happen if he were to mess with them. I decided to teach him responsibility, not to "hide" or "lock" things away from him which I feel, would only stoke his curiosity. I want him to learn self control so that if goes to someone elses house to visit, he will know not to touch these things and why.

ROCK ON Pete's Mom! What a great mom you are! I feel the same way.



Kim

 

[Bojangles]

Originally posted by tastelikecandy
I am trying to teach my children that as well as SEX is perfectly fine when you are married!

So you and your fiance don't have sex? Or live together without benefit of marriage?

 

[I_Know_You2!]

Why on earth would wine be any different than any other type of alcohol. Hypocricy reigns!

 

[4greatboys]

Originally posted by tastelikecandy
Funny how me and my brother never got a hold of my parent's liquior. Know why??? Because they were responsible enough to have a liquor cabinet with a lock on it!!!

I don't understand how some parents can drink right in front of their children and then say "No sorry you can't drink, we are adults." That would tell me oh so you are a hypocrite.

I think the parent is just as much to blame as the son. If she was going to keep liquor in the house than she should have thought., "HMMM maybe I should hide this just in case my son gets a wild hair and decides to drink it. There is more to parenting than just discipline after the fact, there are also ways to make these things less likely to happen, at least in your own home.

We have liquor in our home, NOT locked up, and my boys have never gotten into it.
I guess you need the same explantion that children need about things parents do that children are not allowed to do. Children=Parents---No they dont. As an adult Im allowed to drink if I chose, Im allowed to have a driver license and drive, Im allowed to vote. There are other things adults can do that children cannot do but you get the point. So I should not do anything my children cant do simply because they are to young at this time.
I dont have a problem with my children drinking occasionally and RESPONSIBLY--when they are old enough.
That doesnt make me a hypocrite because I can do things that my children--as children--are not allowed to do.

 

[tastelikecandy]

Originally posted by Bojangles
So you and your fiance don't have sex? Or live together without benefit of marriage?

Look, I am going to exit this post now because I said what I had to say. I will raise my children without being niave enough to assume that I CAN ALWAYS trust them. I would much rather be realistic and assume that yes MY CHILD is not perfect and if I can prevent an occurence before it happens rather than have to deal with the aftermath than good for me.