parents, would this upset/bother/disturb you? UPDATE pg 4

[Planogirl]

Maybe it would be best to keep the photo under wraps until you get your own place someday. Parents get a little creeped out about things like that even when it's totally innocent.

But again, when it comes right down to it, it's completely your decision as to whether it was the right thing to do in the first place. You just have to be prepared for your parents to possibly voice disapproval and if they do, be kind about it. They're still your parents even if they can't really tell you what to do any more.

JMO.

 

[Stacerita]

First off, the sweetpea is only 10 so I have quite a few years before she is the same age as you. For the most part, it probably wouldn't bother me. If I saw the picture and it was as tasteful as you say. I dont believe is taking pics or anything like that generally. You never want to have nakie pics or vids of yourself just in case you may want to run for office one day. But with all that said, if she wanted to hang it it my home, I might be bothered by it.

 

[Maridw]

As a former amateur model, there is a way to do the exact type of photo you are describing without being topless and if you end up being uncomforatable telling someone that you were topless, you could always tell them that you had on a tube top, unless it is a full back shot. If you can just see the top part of your back and your face then this could have easily been done with a tube top on.

I went to have some pictures done at a modeling agency and we were told to wear a tube top and shorts/pants/whatever. All the pictures were cropped just above the tube top so that you do not see it at all.

I think that since you are an adult and it does not show any private parts, you should be proud of the picture. Talk to your parents and explain to them that this was probably a one time deal. It sounds like it was done very tastefully. Since it was a good friend they might not have too much of problem with it.

I have a 19 yo DD and have a couple of close friends who are professional photograhers. I know that they would never do anything without discussing it with me, but then I know that my DD would never do anything without discussing it with me either. One took her out recently to the beach and had her jumping waves in her jeans.
She was glad she had taken a change of clothes with her.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Ok I go to school very close to Washington DC (hence the cherry blossoms...). We went back to my apartment after dinner. No public nudity I am definitely not for that .

OK, phew, just checking. I also live near Washington DC so I sure had an image of looking at the cherry blossoms with my teen boys and having them get an eyeful. You could have made their day!!!

 

[froglady]

I've just recently found out that DD (22) made some extra pocket money by modeling (nude) for studio art classes at college. Not what I had hoped my DD would do, but not worth getting upset about, either. I know I did things at that age that my mother didn't approve of.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

First off, no, I wouldn't have any problems with it. It's just your back.

It did remind me of someone I knew as a child though. Her mother was very artsy and free-spirited. I remember (now) going over to her house and being amazed at the B+W photos of her mother, naked!

There were several in her bedroom and they all acted like it was no biggie! I'm talking full-frontal nudity here, folks! Tastefully done, but still...

 

[MrsPete]

To be honest, if you were my DD, I would have a problem with it. (and BTW, I'm forty-ish).

I'm just wondering why he couldn't have taken a photo of you with your top on that "takes your breath away".??

Ditto. Even if the picture only shows your back, it's obvious that the rest of you was naked at the time the picture was taken too. Parents (and future boyfriends who might see the picture displayed on the wall) may know that you've probably been naked in front of people, but they don't like to be reminded of it, regardless of how tasteful and lovely the pictures may be.

If you love the picture, have it blown up, but put it into an album instead of on the wall.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I just think you should ask your parents if they'd mind because it's their house.

 

[va32h]

The topless part doesn't bother me (you are an adult, you weren't coerced, you feel good about the experience, etc).

But I would feel odd about putting a photo of myself - just myself, no one else in the pic - in my own room. One the occasions I have had a picture taken of me alone, it was to give to someone else.

 

[FroggyinArk]

ok dads turn. we have a 21 yr old dd, we found out back in august that the reason we hadnt heard froom her in a few montyhs was that she had taken a job as a prfessional dancer. ( and i dont mean on broadway) We have encouraged this girl for yeras to at least attempt to break into modeling, she is very photogenic and a beautiful girl. we have no problem with her dancing, she is making a good living, we know she is not doing anything further than dancing, and if this kid that had a low self esteem for her entire teenage years is now confident enough to take her cloths off, then m,ore power to her. she has also appeared in a local girls of rock radio station promo swimsuit calender, and i have that photo hanging in our living room. she is an adult. its her body, and if showing it makes her feel better about herself, then let her. so to the op. if i was your dad, and you told me what you stated in this post i would be understanding that this made you feel goood about your self and have no problem alowing it to hang in my house. ( ok i might give you a hard time for a while, but in the end, if it made my dd happy then i would support her in what ever happened.)

 

[MsLeFever]

Froggy - you are a great dad.

 

[marybet]

I used to work for a photographer. You need to make sure that the print is not copyrighted before you have it enlarged, (not blown up). Also 8 x10's are really not wall portraits, when you hang a portrait on the wall you should be able to view it from anywhere in the room without having to walk up to it so you can see it. Put it on your dresser or bedside table but don't hang it on the wall.

I have no problem at all with the photo. The best thing to do is ask your parents. We used tube tops also, you don't have to be nude to look nude. If you friend does not do studio photography he may not know this. And even though I have no problem with nude pictures, I would suggest that if you do this again that you do it at a studio with someone else there, that way you protect your self and your friend.

 

[jgmklmhem]

Ditto. Even if the picture only shows your back, it's obvious that the rest of you was naked at the time the picture was taken too. Parents (and future boyfriends who might see the picture displayed on the wall) may know that you've probably been naked in front of people, but they don't like to be reminded of it, regardless of how tasteful and lovely the pictures may be.

If you love the picture, have it blown up, but put it into an album instead of on the wall.

Being the dad of two young girls I don't have this worry yet but my sister is in college and I think this would be my big hang up. She (my sister)may or may not have been naked in front of a guy, but if she has I don't want the reminder staring me in the face whenever I enter her room.

 

[Forevryoung]

I used to work for a photographer. You need to make sure that the print is not copyrighted before you have it enlarged, (not blown up). Also 8 x10's are really not wall portraits, when you hang a portrait on the wall you should be able to view it from anywhere in the room without having to walk up to it so you can see it. Put it on your dresser or bedside table but don't hang it on the wall.

I have no problem at all with the photo. The best thing to do is ask your parents. We used tube tops also, you don't have to be nude to look nude. If you friend does not do studio photography he may not know this. And even though I have no problem with nude pictures, I would suggest that if you do this again that you do it at a studio with someone else there, that way you protect your self and your friend.

Print is not copyrighted... he told me it's all mine. And you are right, an 8x10 isn't a wall portrait... I can put it on my dresser instead.

I am going to show it to my parents and get their permission... I wouldn't do it any other way.

He doesn't do studio photography- he does nature shots for the most part

I think if I was wearing a tube top part of the effect would have been lost. In the picture you see my shoulder blades and then my spine.

It just worked out this way, unplanned and super comfortable (and totally out of character for me). The chances of there being a next time are slim to none.

 

[Marseeya]

First off, no, I wouldn't have any problems with it. It's just your back.

It did remind me of someone I knew as a child though. Her mother was very artsy and free-spirited. I remember (now) going over to her house and being amazed at the B+W photos of her mother, naked!

There were several in her bedroom and they all acted like it was no biggie! I'm talking full-frontal nudity here, folks! Tastefully done, but still...

Something similar here, only worse. When I was a teenager, I went to a family's house where the mom and dad were rather, um, loose. Former hippy loose. All throughout their house, they had pictures of their teenage daughters, topless and nude! They were "artsy" and not pornographic, but I was so disgusted to think that the dad took those pictures. I mean, can you imagine?

 

[darrose]

Did he spend the whole day requesting you to take off your shirt or just asked once before you did it?
Is the print not copyright material because he says it isnt? (And how well do you know this 30 year old man--ie how trustworthy is he?)
Do you like the picture becuase you know you are nude and that makes it special to you verus the other pictures before you took your top off?
Is his photos motsly of young women? (ie Is this his hook on how to find a woman to start a relationship with)?

 

[Forevryoung]

Ok, I needed to update!

I took the pictures home and showed them to Mom and Dad.

My Mom decided that she has never seen such great pictures of me and thinks they are so beautiful she wants 2 of them printed for her room

My Dad made the "You arent wearing a shirt are you?" comment and then shut up when I said "yes but aren't they beautiful?"

I am definitely getting them printed this week and will have them in my room at home. I still look at them and think "that's not me, she's too beautiful to be me" Thanks everyone!

 

[Stacey2grls]

As the mom of 2 girls, I can tell you that if one of my girls were 21, and had a photo of herself that she loved, and made herself feel good, than it would be great in my opinion. You are an adult, and if in your judgement it is tasteful, than go for it, and enjoy your beautiful new picture of yourself.

 

[FroggyinArk]

tolsd ya a good dad wouldnt care if they made you feel more confident.
we struggled with our dd not having any confidence for yeares, after she got into the dancing bizz her confidence level has soared and i would much rather knoiw she felt good about her self and the way she looks than see her constantly running herself down. stay beautiful. and use the pictures to remind you that you are.