Parents, Stop Giving In To 'Picky Eaters'!

[binny]

Final Thought from the OP (climbing out of the trenches to wave the white flag...)

My original post was well-intended but came across as rude, pushy and judgemental. Something about what a person said in another thread really rubbed me the wrong way, and I reacted immediately to it with that post. I should have edited the post a long time ago, and I should probably still do that. To those of you who took offense, I can now completely understand why you did.

As one poster just said, parents are constantly judged. And you can't always fight back in 'real life', but you can certainly do it on a chat board. I can't blame you for reacting the way you did, nor should I have taken offense to it.I can't say I wouldn't have reacted the same way if I had been in your shoes.

Even though this is a virtual community, it is a community like any other, and I now understand that should have worded my original post COMPLETELY differently.

If I am blessed with children, I will not forget this experience and hopefully it will help me be a better parent. As far as good food choices go, I can tell you that I am preparing a nice, big humble pie for myself.

Thanks, everyone. I hope you all continue to raise happy, healthy children, and I will forever be in awe of how you do this thing called 'parenting' day in and day out. I wish you peace and joy on the journey.

and you posted at the exact time I did LOL

thanks for the retraction we have all done the same thing, a knee jerk reaction to something we saw or read, learning from it is the most important thing

 

[rie'smom]

Final Thought from the OP (climbing out of the trenches to wave the white flag...)

My original post was well-intended but came across as rude, pushy and judgemental. Something about what a person said in another thread really rubbed me the wrong way, and I reacted immediately to it with that post. I should have edited the post a long time ago, and I should probably still do that. To those of you who took offense, I can now completely understand why you did.

As one poster just said, parents are constantly judged. And you can't always fight back in 'real life', but you can certainly do it on a chat board. I can't blame you for reacting the way you did, nor should I have taken offense to it.I can't say I wouldn't have reacted the same way if I had been in your shoes.

Even though this is a virtual community, it is a community like any other, and I now understand that should have worded my original post COMPLETELY differently.

If I am blessed with children, I will not forget this experience and hopefully it will help me be a better parent. As far as good food choices go, I can tell you that I am preparing a nice, big humble pie for myself.

Thanks, everyone. I hope you all continue to raise happy, healthy children, and I will forever be in awe of how you do this thing called 'parenting' day in
and day out. I wish you peace and joy on the journey.

I really do appreciate you being open minded enough to take a second look at your OP and seeing it in the way a parent might.

 

[FigmentFan77]

I would like to believe this true but feel otherwise.

Please elaborate?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I would like to believe this true but feel otherwise.

I feel it is genuine. I have the PM's to back it up. If she were not genuine, I'm not sure why she'd PM folks a personal apology when this thread was still in its infancy of doom.

 

[TheZue]

Final Thought from the OP (climbing out of the trenches to wave the white flag...)

My original post was well-intended but came across as rude, pushy and judgemental. Something about what a person said in another thread really rubbed me the wrong way, and I reacted immediately to it with that post. I should have edited the post a long time ago, and I should probably still do that. To those of you who took offense, I can now completely understand why you did.

As one poster just said, parents are constantly judged. And you can't always fight back in 'real life', but you can certainly do it on a chat board. I can't blame you for reacting the way you did, nor should I have taken offense to it.I can't say I wouldn't have reacted the same way if I had been in your shoes.

Even though this is a virtual community, it is a community like any other, and I now understand that should have worded my original post COMPLETELY differently.

If I am blessed with children, I will not forget this experience and hopefully it will help me be a better parent. As far as good food choices go, I can tell you that I am preparing a nice, big humble pie for myself.

Thanks, everyone. I hope you all continue to raise happy, healthy children, and I will forever be in awe of how you do this thing called 'parenting' day in and day out. I wish you peace and joy on the journey.

at least you figured out pre-kids that going in with very concrete ideals backfires My kids weren't going to have any electronic toys hahahahaha.......if I could go back seven years I might even point and laugh at myself.

I haven't read this thread too terribly much but I have a child on the autism spectrum and at seven he is finally ready to be pushed on food. Up until now he would actually LOSE foods if they weren't prepared right. He used to LOVE corn, until he grandma fed him frozen corn three years ago...now it makes him gag. Now he's an extreme case, but I know there are normal kids who have these issues too. Anyways we did the exact same intros for food with our new guy, and he eats so many things...loves chilli, pasta, salad, spicy food..it's amazing.

Anyways there is hope for parents dealing with their absurdly picky younger kids, tonight my oldest even ate some pasta, last night he ate steak...sounds minor but it's not. And just a tip for kids who have texture issues from my occupational therapist, start using an electric tooth brush...for some reason it normalizes everything for them and it really has worked for us

 

[robinb]

I feel it is genuine. I have the PM's to back it up. If she were not genuine, I'm not sure why she'd PM folks a personal apology when this thread was still in its infancy of doom.

I think the OP genuine too which is why I backed off when I did. And I don't even have any PMs from the OP .

 

[jamimb]

I really don't understand the hostility on this thread! She did not mean any harm and has said so many times. She was simply stating a pet-peeve of hers. If you truly think you are doing what's best by your kids I don't understand why some would be so upset. To me having kids really has nothing to do with it. It's common sense to me that feeding your kids in such a way that will promote healthy living is a no-brainer. Everyone is different and I am sure there are some things I do in raising my kids that is annoying to others. I completely agree with the OP's original statement. I understand there are children with certain disabilities and issuses to which this does not apply but I think as a nation we all need to truly understand the crap we are letting our children eat. Obesity, diabetes and heart disease are at an all time high. These things are easily fixable with dietary changes. I do care about what children are eating and not just my own. I think I may be channeling Jamie Oliver

 

[nancys]

OP, what a gracious reply! I think that your ability to rethink an original position and admit that it might not have been presented in the best way will prove invaluable to you if/when you do become a parent. Flexibility and understanding are great qualities for a parent to have.

 

[cheermom1]

I really don't understand the hostility on this thread! She did not mean any harm and has said so many times. She was simply stating a pet-peeve of hers. If you truly think you are doing what's best by your kids I don't understand why some would be so upset. To me having kids really has nothing to do with it. It's common sense to me that feeding your kids in such a way that will promote healthy living is a no-brainer. Everyone is different and I am sure there are some things I do in raising my kids that is annoying to others. I completely agree with the OP's original statement. I understand there are children with certain disabilities and issuses to which this does not apply but I think as a nation we all need to truly understand the crap we are letting our children eat. Obesity, diabetes and heart disease are at an all time high. These things are easily fixable with dietary changes. I do care about what children are eating and not just my own. I think I may be channeling Jamie Oliver

ITA with you..the op has tried really hard and as a mom i agree with her op. Plus she has had her mind changed on a few things. And if certain people can't recognize that then they are at the level they were accusing her of being in the beginning!

 

[catycatcat4]

I agree with op.
My mom will only let the little kids eat somthing else if she is making somthing that is really spicey.
Or if it has onions my 14 year old brother can get somthing else.
That kid has hated onions from the first time he was served somthing with them when he was like a year or two old. You could hide onion in somthing and he would find it.

 

[lillygator]

I feel it is genuine. I have the PM's to back it up. If she were not genuine, I'm not sure why she'd PM folks a personal apology when this thread was still in its infancy of doom.

Originally Posted by lizandjason
Thank you, dear. I guess some people never mentally leave junior high. Then then they have to go and BREED nasty little clones of themselves. It reminds me of the saying, 'hey you! Out of the gene pool!

Quote:
Originally Posted by robinb
My opinion? I too knew a whole hell of a lot more about parenting when I was the just "parent" of two cats like yourself than when I finally became the parent of a real child.

I hope your beautiful daughter doesn't inherit your nasty demeanor. My god.

This "really" sticks out. I felt she is backpeddling and not a sincere apology, obviously others feel differently. It does not make my feeling any less valid.

She also started this thread when she knew how it would go down, she posted on the same subject a while ago which was "closed".

The funny thing, her DH coddles the cats and she herself has posted how he states "eww gross" and how he wouldn't eat anything off certain WDW menus and that he is a picky eater.

Me thinks she has much work to do in her own backyard.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Originally Posted by lizandjason
Thank you, dear. I guess some people never mentally leave junior high. Then then they have to go and BREED nasty little clones of themselves. It reminds me of the saying, 'hey you! Out of the gene pool!

Quote:
Originally Posted by robinb
My opinion? I too knew a whole hell of a lot more about parenting when I was the just "parent" of two cats like yourself than when I finally became the parent of a real child.


This "really" sticks out. I felt she is backpeddling and not a sincere apology, obviously others feel differently. It does not make my feeling any less valid.

She also started this thread when she knew how it would go down, she posted on the same subject a while ago which was "closed".

The funny thing, her DH coddles the cats and she herself has posted how he states "eww gross" and how he wouldn't eat anything off certain WDW menus and that he is a picky eater.

Me thinks she has much work to do in her own backyard.

She has since apologized and backed off.

To not accept someone's apology isn't nice. The person whom was the recipient of the not-so-nice comments in your above quoted post....has accepted her apology which was later posted AND reciprocated.

Yes there is much irony to her way of thinking--but time to move on. She has been lashed with the wet noodle and gets it now. All the people receiving her venom have forgiven her b/c we realize that she meant no harm and she realized the mess she stepped into.


The only thing we should worry about is if that wet noodle was 100% whole grain.

 

[lillygator]

She has since apologized and backed off.

To not accept someone's apology isn't nice. The person whom was the recipient of the not-so-nice comments in your above quoted post....has accepted her apology which was later posted AND reciprocated.

Yes there is much irony to her way of thinking--but time to move on. She has been lashed with the wet noodle and gets it now. All the people receiving her venom have forgiven her b/c we realize that she meant no harm and she realized the mess she stepped into.


The only thing we should worry about is if that wet noodle was 100% whole grain.

my mistake, the robinb and response should not have been in there - just the lovely gene pool one. I do realize she must have apologized to her. I had multi-quoted 50 or so posts and realized that was too many to respond too!

I was merely responding to my prior post.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

my mistake, the robinb and response should not have been in there - just the lovely gene pool one. I do realize she must have apologized to her. I had multi-quoted 50 or so posts and realized that was too many to respond too!

I was merely responding to my prior post.

That persnickety quote feature.

 

[Mono~rail]

I don't consider myself a picky eater but mac-n-cheese disgusts me. I don't get that being a fav of picky eaters.

And liver. OMG! *shudder*

 

[lizandjason]

I felt she is backpeddling and not a sincere apology, obviously others feel differently. It does not make my feeling any less valid.

She also started this thread when she knew how it would go down, she posted on the same subject a while ago which was "closed".

The funny thing, her DH coddles the cats and she herself has posted how he states "eww gross" and how he wouldn't eat anything off certain WDW menus and that he is a picky eater.

Me thinks she has much work to do in her own backyard.

HMMMM...oh, well. Not worth it.

 

[overlyspoiled4sure]

Goodness, this thread is sure generating lots of interest. Isn't it great there are so many opinions? If everyone in the world had the same ideas, it would be a very boring place to live.

I was fairly sure, OP, when you first posted, that you weren't speaking of all parents but those who cater to their child's every food whim.

I would have found that difficult because I'm not a short-order cook! Besides, if I would have catered to their food whims, my family would have given me tons of grief about it. As it is, I STILL get some grief for some of my decisions. I did, though, follow my grandma's advice--when I said NO I needed to mean it & should only say NO when I could be firm & follow through. Being wishy-washy can lead to the kids ruling the roost.

Enjoy your kitty cats, OP; our kitties did what they wanted when they wanted too. Think it's their independent nature.