Parents of teens...

[DisneyObsessed]

Do you wake your kids up in the morning or do they get up with an alarm clock? This is becoming a small problem in our house as my husband is stressing more responsibility, which I'm not saying is a bad thing. It started the other day when he blew an absolute nutty over the kids not picking up after themselves. He's right, but now I'm finding myself afraid to leave something "undone" which is cause me to be a bit bitter, but I can use the "push" sometimes too. However, the kids always get up before I do and now I have to drag my butt out of bed to get them up after he goes to work. So who is he really punishing, me or them? Or am I just being a lazy, spoiled brat? You can tell me. I'm a big girl. I can take it. I know they need to take on more responsibility. But my son just hits the snooze and wouldn't get up til noon. (He has sleep apnea which will hopefully be cured in a couple of weeks with surgery). I just ranted, didn't I?

 

[camper]

My teenager gets herself up with an alarm clock every school day.
However if the sleep apnea is the problem with him getting up than I guess that makes it a different story.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

My 2 teenagers each set an alarm. I think they would get up on their own but I get up first anyway so I always knock on their doors before I go downstairs. DS has to put on his contacts so he has motivation. And DD drives them both to school and wants to get there in time to get a "good spot" so she is motivated too. They need to have some motivation to get up. Like, meet the bus or walk.

 

[Lars624]

My DS & DD are 14 and they are tough to get out of bed. DS sets an alarm & still needs to be 'reminded' to get up. He turns it off with the intention of getting up but he dozes back off.
DD doesn't set one, her father just turns her light on & wakes her before he gets in the shower.
I get up with them every morning but they are still always running late.

 

[FOJMO]

Originally posted by DawnF316
However, the kids always get up before I do and now I have to drag my butt out of bed to get them up after he goes to work. So who is he really punishing, me or them? Or am I just being a lazy, spoiled brat? You can tell me. I'm a big girl. I can take it.

Well, I AM wondering why you are still in bed, when everyone else in your household is up and about? That's what would bring on the guilt for me.

In our house, we all get up at 5:30AM. Our alarm clock goes off and I go and wake our DD17. She's out of bed within 30 seconds and in the shower. My DH is out of bed within 1 minute.

I guess I dont' understand why you're still in bed? I would at the very least want to see my kids and DH off with a hug, kiss, and an "I love you, have a good day" before they left.

 

[grinningghost]

My DD14 could set 10 alarms and still not wake up. I have to wake up and turn on her light to shock her a little. Then she always begs for 10 more minutes, which I give her, since I set my own alarm early enough to allow for those extra 10 minutes.

I do hope she learns to wake up herself soon, as she plans on going away for college and I won't be there to get her butt out of bed.

 

[Keli]

I wake my dd Ashli up every morninng but she also sets an alarm for a few minutes later than I wake her so that she can snooze a minute or two every day. Ash is in college now and it's not a problem but during high school we had some rough mornings because Ashli wouldn't get up and get moving like she should virtually every day.
What I don't understand is why you have to be up with your children in order to keep your husband who has already left for work happy? Or am I missing something?
FOJMO, I'm not sure what shift the OP works but if it is an evening shift she might not be getting up as early as her children because she can't go to bed as early. My mom never got up with us (my siblings and I) after I was in about the 7th grade because I was old enough to handle the morning routine for myself and my younger siblings. My mom didn't work a job outside the home (with eight kids there was work enough for her at home, lol) but she stayed up pretty late in the evenings and liked to sleep until about 8 or so in the mornings.

 

[MICKEY88]

my 2 teens set their own alarm clocks, if one of them doesn't show up downstairs by a certain time the other will go waken them.....

if you waken your teens now, instead of putting the responsibility on them...what will you do if they go off to college,,,go with them...????

 

[Melora]

Ive got 2 teens in high school and they get up on their own and get out the door on their own. My DD16's boyfriend picks them up. But even on days that he cant and I have to drive them I expect them to be ready and leave on time.

I think I would expect that teens can be responsible enough to not need someone to hold their hand in stuff like this.

 

[Lewski709]

"I guess I dont' understand why you're still in bed? I would at the very least want to see my kids and DH off with a hug, kiss, and an "I love you, have a good day" before they left." originally posted by FOJMO


Working odd shifts would leave me still in bed!

I don't think you are being lazy. If you are being lazy, you are doing nothing more than going to work and coming home to sleep. Are you doing that?

As a teen, I didn't need anyone waking me up. In fact, I was in a terrible mood if someone did. Use an alarm. 1/2 the time, my folks were gone before I was.

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

I have always used an alarm clock.
My mom would stick her head in to make sure I was up if it wasnt getting late and she hadnt heard any movement.

Now at college you have to use an alarm clock because no one else will wake you up.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

I do work odd shifts. Thank you to those in my defense. And I would never let my kids out the door without seeing them off. I am always there to give hugs and kisses. The kids get up at 6:00 - 6:15. I like to get up about 7:00. That gives me 15 minutes to spend with my daughter, then I drive my son to school. I'm really not lazy, just tired from working late and not getting to bed until late. And I one of those who really requires alot of sleep.

Keli,

I have to get up to get the kids up because he won't wake them up before he leaves. That's why I feel like he's punishing me.

 

[Snowysmom]

My older son is good about getting up with the alarm. Now that he is in college, he has to get himself up. My younger son, 14, can sleep through just about any alarm. He does have his turned up high (I think they can hear it in the next town!) and will wake up after a minute or so. I always make sure he is up though since I am up and about early. DH sleeps a little later than me but if he were up early he would be sure DS was awake too.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My 12yo gets up with her alarm most of the time. We both try and set our alarms. That way if either one of us sleeps through it we wake each other.

 

[TIGGERSMOM]

2 teens in the house and I do ask the night before when everyone needs to begin their day. 99 percent of the time they are good but I have been known to listen for footsteps and car doors to make sure. One works and one in college so we have varying schedules.


Hey I sleep til noon every day - but considering I work until 7am I bet most of us who work odd hours get less sleep than most "normal" folk. FOJMO - could you function on 4 hours of sleep a day? I do and have for 10 years.

 

[Kitty 34]

Both my younger boys (14 & 16) get up to an alarm clock without me having to wake them up. I used to have to wake up my oldest DS when he was a teen. His roommate at college probably wakes him up now!!!

 

[Krisu]

These are teenagers we are talking about, not grammar school Do not feel guilty especially if you have worked odd hours.

 

[Evil Princess]

Originally posted by FOJMO
Well, I AM wondering why you are still in bed, when everyone else in your household is up and about? That's what would bring on the guilt for me.

In our house, we all get up at 5:30AM. Our alarm clock goes off and I go and wake our DD17. She's out of bed within 30 seconds and in the shower. My DH is out of bed within 1 minute.

I guess I dont' understand why you're still in bed? I would at the very least want to see my kids and DH off with a hug, kiss, and an "I love you, have a good day" before they left.

My mother was in bed when I got ready for high school. My alarm went off at 5:30 am as well. I was in my car at 7:10. There was no reason for my mom to be up at that time when I didn't leave for over an hour and a half. She always saw me off, but she wasn't up until about 6:30, 6:45ish.

I was a big girl, I could get ready myself. I would shower every morning, which is why I got up early. Even in college, I need to set my alarm at least an hour and a half before class. I'm a slow mover in the morning, it takes me awhile to get up and going. I enjoy my slow moving getting ready time, lol.

And to answer the original question, I ALWAYS got myself up every morning. My alarm is so annoying, loud, and obnoxious. The thing would literally make me jump out of bed out of fright each morning. After all these years, that alarm still scares the crap out of me.

I also put my alarm clock sort of across the room so I HAD to get out of bed to turn it off. Makes getting up easier if you're out of bed. Might want to try it, no one is going to wake up your children in college.

 

[Talking Hands]

Teens need to be responsible for getting themselves up with an alarm clock. If the don't learn now you will still be getting them up through college and then their first job. Let them learn now.
You also need to discuss this with your husband as to how you are going to deal with this. If you have to drive them to school in their PJs one time trust me they will never be tardy again.
Also in some schools if you are tardy you may not participate in after school activities.

 

[Talking Hands]

I wake up to a different type of alarm and although it is made for deaf and hard of hearing people it also works very well for my hearing husband. It is called a Sonic Boom clock with a vibrator. Has a very loud alarm, the vibrator shocks you awake and my lamp is hooked into the clock and the lamp flashes on and off.
Cost is about $65 but it is well worth it.