Parents of College Class of 2018 (A.K.A., "Is this the line to the poor house?")

[sk!mom]

I was pretty sure that DD wasn't thinking of us at all. We've had texts and a few brief phone calls in the past 2.5 weeks but not much. She's texted me three times to say, "Remind me again when Parent's Weekend is..." You know the day that's highlighted on MY calendar.

Well, tonight's the night that she and a friend venture into the city to see Jason Mraz and this afternoon I got this text,

"I just picked my outfit for tonight and I didn't have you to help me with the shoes!"

Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled that she has adjusted so beautifully and is loving every minute but it did my heart good to know that she does think of me now and again.

 

[madge]

Madge, are you not on the October rental thread this year??

NO. No one's fall break matched up to make it happen. Boo! Shooting for December. Fingers crossed.

I am desperately scrambling to put together a cheap quick weekend trip for DH & me before the end of the month. I am so, so sad about Off Kilter being fired. I'd really like to see one of their last shows.

 

[JeannieNM]

I've only posted a few times on this thread, but I have been following most of it.

This fall is bittersweet for me, since my youngest just started college and we are now empty nesters. My daughter is kind of shy and quiet whenever she meets new people, and she and her roommate barely spoke the day they arrived. I was concerned that my daughter wouldn't put herself out there, so to speak.

Well, yesterday I saw a photo on her Facebook page that her roommate posted. It showed the two of them with huge smiles and the caption "new best friends! ".

I was thrilled to see that! It made my day!

That is great, I'm sure it makes you feel good that they have connected so well.

That's wonderful, I can imagine how that lifted a big weight off your shoulders!!!
I finally saw a pic of my dd yesterday, and my first thought is wth is she doing with her hair LOL!

I too look for photos on facebook, my dd, rarely posts any but luckily a couple of the girls she has been hanging out with post all the time and I can see what they are doing. It is fun. I particularly liked the photo where another girl was wearing one of DD's dresses. DD brought enough clothes for a dozen girls so, I am glad they are getting worn.

I was pretty sure that DD wasn't thinking of us at all. We've had texts and a few brief phone calls in the past 2.5 weeks but not much. She's texted me three times to say, "Remind me again when Parent's Weekend is..." You know the day that's highlighted on MY calendar.

Well, tonight's the night that she and a friend venture into the city to see Jason Mraz and this afternoon I got this text,

"I just picked my outfit for tonight and I didn't have you to help me with the shoes!"

Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled that she has adjusted so beautifully and is loving every minute but it did my heart good to know that she does think of me now and again.

I hope she has fun on her adventure.

I wish we had a parents weekend this fall, ours is not until Feb. DD has a 3 day weekend in October and some friends have invited us to meet in AZ, I hope thier daughter and ours decide to join us.

I hear from our DD fairly often, I provide laundry support- how do I get red wine out of the white bando, how do I get highlighter out of my white shirt, followed by the comment that college has been hard on my clothes. I also provide tech support which is hard when I do not know the college internet system, finally convinced DD that there were people on campus that might provide quicker and better help then I could over the phone.

 

[elgerber]

NO. No one's fall break matched up to make it happen. Boo! Shooting for December. Fingers crossed.

I am desperately scrambling to put together a cheap quick weekend trip for DH & me before the end of the month. I am so, so sad about Off Kilter being fired. I'd really like to see one of their last shows.

We have a growns ups only long weekend in October for F&W, I can't wait!! I need it so bad! And then 2 days after we get home DD comes home for a long weekend!!!

 

[Bluestars]

I've only posted a few times on this thread, but I have been following most of it.

This fall is bittersweet for me, since my youngest just started college and we are now empty nesters. My daughter is kind of shy and quiet whenever she meets new people, and she and her roommate barely spoke the day they arrived. I was concerned that my daughter wouldn't put herself out there, so to speak.

Well, yesterday I saw a photo on her Facebook page that her roommate posted. It showed the two of them with huge smiles and the caption "new best friends! ".

I was thrilled to see that! It made my day!

That's great! It's amazing how seeing a happy picture of your child can help stop the worrying.

 

[Bluestars]

I was pretty sure that DD wasn't thinking of us at all. We've had texts and a few brief phone calls in the past 2.5 weeks but not much. She's texted me three times to say, "Remind me again when Parent's Weekend is..." You know the day that's highlighted on MY calendar.

Well, tonight's the night that she and a friend venture into the city to see Jason Mraz and this afternoon I got this text,

"I just picked my outfit for tonight and I didn't have you to help me with the shoes!"

Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled that she has adjusted so beautifully and is loving every minute but it did my heart good to know that she does think of me now and again.

Those little comments can mean so much to a parent.

My husband and I are going to the family weekend in less than 6 weeks. I can't wait.

Today must have been better for my son. He texted me and said that he was the leader in his Military Science class and that he gets to report directly to the seniors. I am not sure what that means, but it made him happy, which made me happy.

 

[Pembo]

DS appeared on FB playing his guitar at a White Castle. A new friend videoed him and tagged him on FB. lol He is having a great time. He did come home for the long weekend and it was hard to drop him off but he was so excited to go back. This is such a weird time in our lives. I am so happy and excited for him and yet so sad at the same time. It's not that I want him home but I do. I'm finding this growing up and letting go thing is really hard for me as a parent. My dh says we just have to take one day at a time.

Glad to hear others are hearing good things from their kids too.

 

[sk!mom]

I too look for photos on facebook, my dd, rarely posts any but luckily a couple of the girls she has been hanging out with post all the time and I can see what they are doing. It is fun. I particularly liked the photo where another girl was wearing one of DD's dresses. DD brought enough clothes for a dozen girls so, I am glad they are getting worn.

I hear you! My DD rarely posts anything either but she has been tagged in a few pics and I've loved seeing them.

My DD also took a ton of clothes. She quite possibly hasn't needed to do laundry yet.

 

[madge]

the only time DS shows up on Facebook, it's because someone at the Honors College has tagged him. I can't remember the last time he even used Facebook for anything. He's mostly on Twitter & snapchat. I'm allowed to stalk his Twitter, but never tweet him for any reason or ask to follow him. Of course, he's put his account on lockdown this week because he's participating in fraternity recruitment. He has nothing to hide, nor does he tweet anything sketchy ... but he doesn't want anyone stalking him. Smart boy.

I got a very animated phone call earlier. He came back to his room tonight to discover his roommate moving out.

 

[elgerber]

the only time DS shows up on Facebook, it's because someone at the Honors College has tagged him. I can't remember the last time he even used Facebook for anything. He's mostly on Twitter & snapchat. I'm allowed to stalk his Twitter, but never tweet him for any reason or ask to follow him. Of course, he's put his account on lockdown this week because he's participating in fraternity recruitment. He has nothing to hide, nor does he tweet anything sketchy ... but he doesn't want anyone stalking him. Smart boy.

I got a very animated phone call earlier. He came back to his room tonight to discover his roommate moving out.

Oh my! Did he have any idea he was going to move? What was the reason?

 

[madge]

Oh my! Did he have any idea he was going to move? What was the reason?

he had no clue. he said he came back & roommate was there with friends, taking apart his loft to take it over to his new dorm.

the girlfriend lives in the new building, so I suspect that may have something to do with it. DS said they got along fine, had opposite schedules ... peaceful coexistence ... reasonably confident it didn't have anything to do with him.

I suggested DS move the furniture the way he wants it (roommate moved in early because of band) tonight ... they may move someone new in over the weekend. LOL

 

[JeannieNM]

he had no clue. he said he came back & roommate was there with friends, taking apart his loft to take it over to his new dorm.

the girlfriend lives in the new building, so I suspect that may have something to do with it. DS said they got along fine, had opposite schedules ... peaceful coexistence ... reasonably confident it didn't have anything to do with him.

I suggested DS move the furniture the way he wants it (roommate moved in early because of band) tonight ... they may move someone new in over the weekend. LOL

How odd that the roommate did not bother to tell your DS that he was moving.

 

[madge]

How odd that the roommate did not bother to tell your DS that he was moving.

well ... yes. that is true. LOL

interesting to see if DS learned any more last night.

 

[sk!mom]

Glad your son is OK with the sudden move out. Did he do room mate match or was it a random pairing?

DD's best friend went out of state and she has had a terrible adjustment from a stressful sorority rush to a bad room mate pairing. It was a random pairing and her room mate requested a switch at the end of the first week but not before sitting DD's BF down and telling her everything she disliked about her. It's all made for a very rough transition for her.

I will definitely recommend the matching process to friends and family going away in future. DD and her roommate did it and have been paired since last February. They had time to become good online friends and seem to have settled in to a peaceful coexistence irl.

 

[madge]

Glad your son is OK with the sudden move out. Did he do room mate match or was it a random pairing?

it was a random match. they ended up having some mutual friends, even though we live in central Kentucky and roommate is from southwest Indiana. my hunch is that it's 99% girlfriend motivated. he moved to the same building she lives in. no other reason makes sense -- 2 of his marching band buddies live across the hall, my DS gets up in the AM, goes to class, and only comes back to the room (during the day) to drop off his stuff. Roommate moved in first, so he had pick of which side of the room, etc. The few hours I was in the room with them left me with the impression that he was a pleasant young man who seemed a bit intense. Not uncommon for a music major. LOLOL

 

[elgerber]

The few hours I was in the room with them left me with the impression that he was a pleasant young man who seemed a bit intense. Not uncommon for a music major. LOLOL

So true!
I am grateful dd's school used the Facebook roomsync for the first time this year. My dd and her roommate are twins separated at birth and so far they are doing awesome! They do tons of stuff together outside of class, and get along wonderfully.

 

[tajz90]

Sometimes the students first choice isn't open at move in. After first week or two, the housing dept makes adjustments and allows students to switch.

 

[njmom47]

Ds is a baseball recruit so the coach assigned the recruits to room together if that's what they wanted. Ds and his roommate are both 6'5 right handed pitchers. Two goons (as ds says). The 3rd roommate/recruit never showed. Roommate is rather low-key to ds's machismo self so they seem to be good for each other.

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

So much for the college mail system where my son is at.

I sent him a package that said it was delivered on Tuesday, Sept. 3rd but he has checked every day and it's not there.
In the package is a card and probably a check from his Uncle for graduation along with some other things I sent him. I have no doubt that the brownies I made and put in the package are now garbage for sure.

Now I'm nervous about sending him his birthday package in two weeks. I think I'll just go that way to Disney World and drop it off with him personally instead of mailing it. It will take me a couple of hours out of my way but at least I won't have to worry about it not arriving in time or even at all.

I find it so annoying that I can't trust that packages will get to him. I'd planned on sending one a month. But now I don't know what to do. Sigh.

 

[Bluestars]

So much for the college mail system where my son is at.

I sent him a package that said it was delivered on Tuesday, Sept. 3rd but he has checked every day and it's not there.
In the package is a card and probably a check from his Uncle for graduation along with some other things I sent him. I have no doubt that the brownies I made and put in the package are now garbage for sure.

Now I'm nervous about sending him his birthday package in two weeks. I think I'll just go that way to Disney World and drop it off with him personally instead of mailing it. It will take me a couple of hours out of my way but at least I won't have to worry about it not arriving in time or even at all.

I find it so annoying that I can't trust that packages will get to him. I'd planned on sending one a month. But now I don't know what to do. Sigh.

That is very annoying. Has he mentioned it to the people working at the post office or has he just checked his box? Maybe it's sitting there in the storage room or something and somebody can find it.