Parents of Children Read Please

[kerry34]

I also dont think anyone here was trying to hurt your feelings. You did ask for opinions on your comments and generally I think everyone here gave you just that. You certainly have a right to an opinion as does everyone else. I think that people were just trying to explain to you that something that may work for you may not work for everyone else. Keep in mind that you are posting to people who are older and have more experience when it comes to their children so they may not respond to you the same way that someone your own age will. Kids have temper tantrums for many other reasons beside being tired. They get in bad moods just like adults except they dont have the same capacity to deal with their emotions the way adults can. One of my kids has a very tough time dealing with frusteration and cries very easily. You may see her at Disney World first thing in the morning and she is upset because she doesnt like waiting in line for Dumbo. Taking a nap and coming back to the park will not change that. I certainly mean no disrespect toward you but just want to reiterate that sometimes things are as cut and dry as they may seem.

 

[madge]

It might not be things that were said. I am very very hurt by what you guys said up above. It is just my thoughts and you did not have to say some of the stuff you did. I am just saying what I think you do not have to give me Judge Judy's 3rd Degree. I am just beside myself at how rude yall are.

I suggest you visit the Teen board for more appropriate conversation, then.

Unless you are upset that your parents wouldn't let you go back to the room and take a nap on your last Disney vacation, and they might read how bothered you are?

 

[meandtheguys2]

Just wondering whether the answers given here would be in such a brusque manner if you were talking to your 16 year old niece, or girlfriends child. All 16 year olds make sweeping assumptions. I know I wouldn't answer in the harsh manner so many have if it were someone I knew.

Heck, at 42 I make sweeping assumptions about life at 60. Thankfully those that are there smile sweetly, and gently suggest my view might be off.

I am not, BTW, talking to those who have been gentle in their suggestions. (And many have.)

 

[catherines_mama]

I know one reason I try to stay semi-scheduled on vacation is because it IS vacation. You eventually have to go home, the kids have to go back to school. The closer you stay to the norm, the easier that transition back to reality is. A 4 yr old off kilter is NOT fun.

Personally, I enjoy doing a lunchtime break. Go back to the resort and take a swim, maybe rest for an hour. Refresh and head back. We usually go in the winter so parks close earlier, so we will usually stay til park closing, but then its back to our resort and to bed. We're morning people in everyday life and enjoy making early ADRs (is that the new PS), to get up and in early.

Sorry if you were hurt by responses, but you asked for peoples feedback, and on 1st read it looks as if you are an adult like the rest of us. I thought at 1st that this was a joke post.. someone bating parents to get upset. We all are entitled to our opinions, as much as we're entitled to conduct our families and vacations as we wish.

 

[abacobaby]

I must admit I did not read all the responses. What I do notice is that you are 16 years old and have NO kids. Since I do have a 2 year old DD and have been to DW with her before I can tell you one thing for sure: EVERY child is DIFFERENT!!!

When we go to parks, our DD takes her 2-3 hour nap in her stroller. We do NOT go back to the room for a nap. WHY? We go to DW at the time of year when the parks close early. We do not rush around in the morning to get to the park as it opens. We take our time getting ready, have breakfast in peace, then go to the park and spend all day there. Considering some of the parks close as early as 5pm, it would be a complete waste of time to go back to the room for a nap.

Basically, every child and every family situation is different. Please do not judge people by what you see from the outside.

 

[tjmw2727]

Just wondering whether the answers given here would be in such a brusque manner if you were talking to your 16 year old niece, or girlfriends child. All 16 year olds make sweeping assumptions. I know I wouldn't answer in the harsh manner so many have if it were someone I knew.

Heck, at 42 I make sweeping assumptions about life at 60. Thankfully those that are there smile sweetly, and gently suggest my view might be off.

I am not, BTW, talking to those who have been gentle in their suggestions. (And many have.)

Good point and I agree..... except that at first glance one would not have know that the OP was 16.

I almost replied and then decided to let it go and not waste my time defending what I think is right for my family. It wasn't until some of the subsequent responses that I realized the OP was a teen. I guess I wouldn't have expected someone that age to be giving parenting advice on the family board!

So, I would have responded earlier in a manner that I would not have now that I know the OP is 16. Just giving some of the original posters who responded the benefit of the doubt.

TJ

 

[Tink215]

Ok Hun, First of all, if you asked for oppinions you have to respect peoples oppinions. I see that you are young so I will be gentle.......You seem very sweet to be so concerned for the children. But have you ever thought that maybe some of these parents and children are not staying on site!!! Or are there for the day,and not have the pleasure of going back. I did that one year, I took my DD1 at the time and it was just me and her and daddy and family went to Universal, I had to stay all day cause I could not take the bus back till nite time, we found a nice spot and took in a nap....... Also alot of children dont take 2 hour naps.....Mine havent taken a two hour nap since they were 5 months old......Please dont be offeneded, I have read the post and feel no one is being rude just honest.....I started working with children in a preschool when I was 15 and learned alot about kids, may I suggest maybe you can spend some time with children, and maybe just maybe you can see first hand just how hard it is.....We moms work hard to keep our children happy especially in the happiest place on earth!!!!

 

[meandtheguys2]

tjm, You are right, of course. I didn't catch it until someone pointed it out. I just think that sometimes people forget that the person on the other side of the computer is a real person.

I truly didn't mean to be harsh, either. As adult women we know that the presumptions made aren't fair or accurate. But I think it behooves us to be a good example. I would love to see the next generation of women stop the insanity of being overly judgemental and downright mean to each other.

 

[skiwee1]

Just wondering whether the answers given here would be in such a brusque manner if you were talking to your 16 year old niece, or girlfriends child. All 16 year olds make sweeping assumptions. I know I wouldn't answer in the harsh manner so many have if it were someone I knew.

Heck, at 42 I make sweeping assumptions about life at 60. Thankfully those that are there smile sweetly, and gently suggest my view might be off.

I am not, BTW, talking to those who have been gentle in their suggestions. (And many have.)

I haven't seen one post that was brusque or rude or anything of a sort! I figured she was young by her grammar. Sorry, but no one was being rude at all.

 

[flipturngirl]

Well it is just my thoughts. I have a little sister and I know what is like so yha.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Harsh is in the eye of the beholder, I guess. I wouldn't reply my nephew or niece the way some have replied to the OP. To each his own.

I continue to believe that only by example can we help the next generation.

eta: Then again...maybe snarky is appropriate!

 

[madge]

Just wondering whether the answers given here would be in such a brusque manner if you were talking to your 16 year old niece, or girlfriends child. All 16 year olds make sweeping assumptions. I know I wouldn't answer in the harsh manner so many have if it were someone I knew.

Heck, at 42 I make sweeping assumptions about life at 60. Thankfully those that are there smile sweetly, and gently suggest my view might be off.

I am not, BTW, talking to those who have been gentle in their suggestions. (And many have.)

I have a 16 year old son, and if he or any of his friends made a comment like the OP...without having specifics to back up their comments, I'd likely reply in the same manner as I did on this thread. IMO, it is inappropriate, not to mention disrespectful, for a 16 year old to offer suggestions like the OP did without knowing a thing about the situation they are speaking of.

Furthermore, if my son approached a group of strangers and tried to give them parenting advice? I would be mortified, for starters, and then I'd let my son know he better be ready to back up what he said and be prepared to handle the consequences He has gotten himself into a pickle before with comments he has made (not about parenting, LOL) and it was a lesson he has not forgotten. Not yet, anyway. ....

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Hi Gals! I'd just like to insert my .02 for what it is worth. I run a licensed daycare out of my home and (no joke) ALL 8 kids (3 of mine included) sleep anywhere from 2-4 hours at naptime. I guess that I just wear them out!! If I wake them up-woe be to me 'cause good lord are they GROUCHY- therefore they take LONG naps. My kids also get up early and go to bed late. My 1st grader has decided that his bedtime is 8:30 on weeknights, however. Boy, is he a funny guy! He is very independent and likes to do things his own way. But when my kids are on vacation, even if it is just a weekend in Indy, they want to get up at the buttcrack of dawn and don't want to go to sllep until like 11:30. My opinion??? It's vacation and from personal experience when vacation is ove my kids are more than happy to jump back into our daycare routine. We tried the midday nap at Disney and it wasn't good because with 4 children ages 6 and under none of us felt like going through the hassle of getting on the bus and going back to one of the parks. They were too excited to take naps. Heck, we had a hard time getting them to go to sleep at like 11:30 p.m.. And wouldn't you know it at 6 am they were all up on their own rarin' to "GO SEE MICKEY!!!" Our one daughter had a melt down ( she was actually having a problem with her asthma at AKL) and you wouldn't BELIEVE the rude looks and comments that we got from people assuming that we were bad parents or something. I think that people at the parks with rude thoughts should mind their own business, personally. To tell the truth I was pretty proud of my DC because we only had that one tantrum during a 7 day trip. Every child is different and if they take naps ot not -or go back to the resort at 7pm or midnight is their parents choice bcuase their parents know them better than a bystander. I am not trying to be rude but walk a mile before you comment on others.

 

[skiwee1]

Harsh is in the eye of the beholder, I guess. I wouldn't reply my nephew or niece the way some have replied to the OP. To each his own.

I continue to believe that only by example can we help the next generation.

eta: Then again...maybe snarky is appropriate!

Again, who is being snarky? Going over my posts for the 4th time I can see nothing snarky about them. To be honest if it were my DD posting such stuff I'd say you all were being too nice. I would never allow my kids to judge how others live their lives, and especially how they vacation!

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Also we are go at the kids pace kinda parents so they rest through out the day at the parks. They like to sit on the benches and just enjoy the outdoors and the different people that walk by. I think that that approach is good in general. We spend like all day at our local childrens museum just doing what they want. Last month they all played in the water table are for like 45 minutes!! Oh, the joys of parenthood!! But hopefully my children will look back and remember how relaxed we were on special days and that we let them go at their own pace. For me vacation IS my kids having fun and enjoying themselves. I think that alot of parents feel that way though.

 

[tlbwriter]

Just wondering whether the answers given here would be in such a brusque manner if you were talking to your 16 year old niece, or girlfriends child. All 16 year olds make sweeping assumptions.

She's free to have whatever assumptions she wants. We've all been there and done that. And if we had scolded other people for the behavior based on our naive and baseless assumptions, as she did, we would have been dressed down quite thoroughly (I'm sure some of us have been there and done that too! ) If you're going to wander through life telling people what to do, you've got to expect a bit of flack.

 

[meandtheguys2]

skiwee, I never said you did! I don't remember your posts, quite frankly. I didn't even call anyone rude. I said some (not all, or even most, but some) seemed "harsh." Pure and simple. Frankly, I can't see why you are so defensive about it. Just attempting to nip the all out attack that occurs when someone screws up around here.

The snarky remark, was actually a reference to the OP's latest comment. She def. showed her immaturity. But was said with a smile, because most teens are immature. That is their job. It is our job as adults to guide them to better behavior, IMO.

Have a truly nice day.

 

[skiwee1]

skiwee, I never said you did! I don't remember your posts, quite frankly. I didn't even call anyone rude. I said some (not all, or even most, but some) seemed "harsh." Pure and simple. Frankly, I can't see why you are so defensive about it. Just attempting to nip the all out attack that occurs when someone screws up around here.

The snarky remark, was actually a reference to the OP's latest comment. She def. showed her immaturity. But was said with a smile, because most teens are immature. That is their job. It is our job as adults to guide them to better behavior, IMO.

Have a truly nice day.

Oops!

 

[We-Luv-Disney]

I think kids do need naps but a lot of young children will not nap out of there own bed. My DS was 17 months old on our last trip. We went back to the room the first day so he could take a nap. He was so excited about being in a new place that he would not go to sleep. We wasted almost 2 hours just sitting in the room watching TV. The next day we decided to stay at the park. About 12:30-1:00 he fell asleep in his stroller and slept about an hour and a half. A few times I picked him up and rode a few rides while he slept in my arms(boy do I miss those days ) He did fine napping in the stroller. Some children are not going to nap in the room or in a stroller because there is so much going on around them. what can you do?

 

[CleveRocks]

Hi! I have been to Disney several times. Each time I have seen kids screaming and yelling because they have not had naps. I personally think you need to have a 2 hour a day nap time and then go back to the park. The kids should be well rested to go back to the park and stay there till 11. I have seen so many families rushing back at 8 to get there kids to bed at 9. I think YOU ARE ON VACATION!!! Vacation is- when you are away from home, your daily scedual etc. Daily schedual means waking up go to work come home go to bed do it all over again. Just go with the flow. When I was little we did not have to go back to the hotel at 8 or 9 to get to bed we stayed up all night and got up at 5 or 4:30 and we were fine that is because we got naps. Please reply on what you think of this.

Ah, the theoretical musings of the uninformed ....

The OP sounds like a teenager. I'm 38, have two kids, 5 and 3. Thank God I don't follow the parenting advice I would have given myself 20 years ago!

-- Eric