Parents: Don't You HATE It When Someone

[DisneyMomOK]

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[Stacerita]

Some people should just mind their own business. I dont think you paying for your DD's out of state tuition. You are being her parent and doing what is right for both of you. She is doing well in school and Im sure she appreciates it. Its not spoiling IMO.

 

[lucyanna girl]

When someone asks about money or any other subject that is not their business just smile like you know something they don't and change the subject. Just keep doing this until they give up. Drives 'em crazy!

 

[DisneyMomOK]

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[BuzznBelle'smom]

You could always say something along the lines of, "I consider her education to be one of the best investments I can make." and then change the subject. People make all sorts of different choices--I can't tell you how many times I internally roll my eyes at things like cc debt or other choices that I would consider frivilous if not downright stupid. But hey, people have the right to make them, right? But in your case, if you DD is doing fine, why should anyone else care? I dont' know, maybe you should try to temper your reaction-if you know you're doing the right thing, does it really matter if they think differently? They're probably thinking that they could "better" use the tuition money to finance more of their own debt--sorry, but I'm with you that an education, especially the RIGHT education for the person in question,is a much better place to put your $$.

Try not to let them get to you.

 

[DisneyMomOK]

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[Maleficent13]

My parents paid for me to attend a small liberal arts school in another state, along with all my living expenses. I graduated cum laude, became employed within a month of graduation, and have been on my own since.

I am eternally grateful for their generosity and support, as I am sure your DD will be too.

 

[LindaR]

Good for you!

I have had the same experiences with my daughter! I am a single mom and people assume that she will go to a local school. I want her to go where ever SHE wants to go! This is her life and the start of her making her own life decisions.

I think some people take issue with this because there are alot of kids who just get stuff thrown at them. Material items don't make up for lack of parenting (just watch some of the shows on television!).

Obviously, YOU know YOUR daughter and feel that you are doing the right thing. Don't worry about others. You can't change their minds anymore than they can change yours!

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

Paying tuition and allowing your responsible good student to go to the college of her choice - is NOT spoiling!!!!! People need to mind their own business!

 

[Syrreal]

what you are doing for your dd is wonderful! Both mine and my dh's parents paid for our college educations at very good schools. We are thankful every day that they did that because it 1. helped us focus on studying instead of having to work and 2. allowed us to go to schools and be taught by professors that we wouldn't have been exposed to otherwise.

Don't listen to people that try to get you down about that. It is perfectly fine if community college is working well for their kid but each one is different. When I first started college I wanted to be a marine biologist so I got to go to the #1 school at the time for that major. If I had gone to community college I would not have started on my major right away and just gotten the core done to 2 yrs later try and transfer when after 2 years of actually doing the work and being involved in it I decided that this was not the path for me. It would have taken me 4 years to find out what I did in 2. I later changed majors and was the happiest student you have ever met!

Never feel bad for giving your children the opportunity to study where they want to. Dh and I want to be able to give the same gift to our children when we have them and when it's time to go to college. School is going to be their job.

 

[Nancy]

Paying for her education is a good thing! It really is no ones business how you spend your money.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I've just learned to tune people out the second they question how I spend my money.

 

[we3disneygo]

we put dd12 into private school this year .....there are some very vocal mom's at the ice rink that have told me what a waste of my money, I could be paying for her college with the tution were paying out now...how dumb????? when did it become your business......I'm learning how to deal with these types....usually i just walk off....

 

[swilphil]

People should mind their own business when it comes to parenting decisions. Paying for your child's education is a WONDERFUL thing, in my opinion.

 

[swilphil]

we put dd12 into private school this year .....there are some very vocal mom's at the ice rink that have told me what a waste of my money, I could be paying for her college with the tution were paying out now...how dumb????? when did it become your business......I'm learning how to deal with these types....usually i just walk off....

Ahhh... the Mommy Police. They should be required to wear uniforms, so we can avoid them.

 

[laurie31]

My parents paid for me to attend a small liberal arts school in another state, along with all my living expenses. I graduated cum laude, became employed within a month of graduation, and have been on my own since.

I am eternally grateful for their generosity and support, as I am sure your DD will be too.

Ditto for me

My friends who graduated with huge student loans moved back in with their parents as they couldn't afford an apartment. I know some people who live with their parents are freeloading, but most wish they didn't have to and want to start their adult lives.

You are giving your daughter the ticket to adulthood and a debt-free life. I am deeply grateful to my parents and my grandparents (who gave me bonds for Christmas every year of my childhood) that I graduated without debt. I was able to start putting money in my 401K as soon as I started working. I read that if you save from the time you're 20 until you're 30, and then stop saving, you will have more money at retirement that someone who started at 30 and invested until retirement. I plan to pay for my dds' college as well. In fact, I started saving for it before they were born. I know not every parent is able to pay for college (and not every child should go to college) but I consider it my responisbility to educate my kids, now and in the future.

Laurie

 

[delilah]

I wish my parents had been in a position to "spoil" us a little bit when we were in college. My sibs and I paid our own way with scholarships, loans and grants. I am still paying off my medical school loans, and probably won't be done until my son hits university age. You can bet I am socking away money in a 529 to pay for his college. Nothing is too good for my son when it comes to education.