VictoriaT
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Apr 22, 2004
I am at my wits end with this , so I thought I would throw this out to all of you, and see what worked for you.
Warning- sorry for the long post ahead here! Oldest child, DD graduated college May 2020. She worked very hard and earned two degrees, one in marine biology and one in conservation biology. Needless to say, the job market in normal times for these is not great, and with the pandemic, there was nothing. Finally, after months of sending out resumes in her chosen fields with no response, she got a job as a mortgage underwriter. She has done very well, and is earning much more than she would be in her dream career path. She has been living with us since the stay at home order started for our state. Since she got this job, I have been hounding her to set up a budget plan, and stick with it. She was blessed to have no college debt thanks to grandparents and mom and dad, so she has never had to struggle, so she has been able to basically spend what she wanted without having to be an "adult". Yes, I know she is spoiled, but she is a very hard worker and good kid overall. She has been avoiding the budget talk for a few months now, and gets angry whenever I bring it up. I have suggested why not try and send out resumes again in her dream fields, since jobs are more available now, but she has been bitten by the money bug. She has now decided to get an apartment, to be on her own, instead of living with mom and dad and saving up her money, on a budget in the event that she eventually would get married or buy a house, or have money for grad school, if she chose to go that route, and would have a nice pot of cash to do so. DH lived at home after graduating, was able to save up and we had a nice down payment when we were getting married and house hunting, so he is angry about her decision. I am just worried that she will blow all her money, something will happen and need us to bail her out, which I do not want to do. Should I just let her do it, and learn the hard way if it comes to that? I am tired of all of us arguing about this. Thanks for any and all advice!
Warning- sorry for the long post ahead here! Oldest child, DD graduated college May 2020. She worked very hard and earned two degrees, one in marine biology and one in conservation biology. Needless to say, the job market in normal times for these is not great, and with the pandemic, there was nothing. Finally, after months of sending out resumes in her chosen fields with no response, she got a job as a mortgage underwriter. She has done very well, and is earning much more than she would be in her dream career path. She has been living with us since the stay at home order started for our state. Since she got this job, I have been hounding her to set up a budget plan, and stick with it. She was blessed to have no college debt thanks to grandparents and mom and dad, so she has never had to struggle, so she has been able to basically spend what she wanted without having to be an "adult". Yes, I know she is spoiled, but she is a very hard worker and good kid overall. She has been avoiding the budget talk for a few months now, and gets angry whenever I bring it up. I have suggested why not try and send out resumes again in her dream fields, since jobs are more available now, but she has been bitten by the money bug. She has now decided to get an apartment, to be on her own, instead of living with mom and dad and saving up her money, on a budget in the event that she eventually would get married or buy a house, or have money for grad school, if she chose to go that route, and would have a nice pot of cash to do so. DH lived at home after graduating, was able to save up and we had a nice down payment when we were getting married and house hunting, so he is angry about her decision. I am just worried that she will blow all her money, something will happen and need us to bail her out, which I do not want to do. Should I just let her do it, and learn the hard way if it comes to that? I am tired of all of us arguing about this. Thanks for any and all advice!