Parent Thread

[PlutosFriend]

Good morning,

We have had not such a great one. I thought I would come to ask for some advice. DD7 hates school. I mean she really hates school. I was a school hater myself so I can sympathize. I know school is important. I am trying to get her to understand that too. Anyone have any great answers that a 7 year old would care about or understand? I'm out of them and I am sick of arguing about it. So fire away if you can help.

Mary

Does she say what she hates about it? My dd who is almost 8, wen thru a stage of making a bunch of complaints about school. But if I would see her up there, and she not know I was there, she would looked to be having a great time. I guess it was all a big act for dear ole' Mom

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

The boards are so slow I don't have time to quote everyone so I will do my best to answer.

I had her vision checked last year. She is fine on that end.

She isn't being bullied. She does have a hard time fitting in. There has been drama in her class since she was in K. We are a one track school, so she always has the same kids. All of the girls, including my daughter, think that they should be the boss of everyone else. So sometimes there is a lot of "I'm not your friend" junk. This year they got two new girls and things have gotten much better. I will ask her when she gets home how things are going though. I think I might go in to the guidance counselor too. Maybe she can do a unit on bullying, and just being nice to each other. We have talked to my daughter about it before and sometimes she forgets that she can be part of the problem too. Maybe if the counselor can step in and help all the girls see that they all are part of the problem that might help too.

She seems to like the teacher. The teacher has been teaching since Christ was a boy, so she can be tough. The teacher can see the problems with the the girls too. She just tells them, "Just ignore it." Yeah, that is not working so great. It didn't really work when I was a kid either.

Her schoolwork isn't suffering. I check through her work all the time. She mostly get marked off for neatness. She missed 2 on her math sheet, not because the answers were wrong but because her equals sign was not straight across. She also missed another one because when she was showing her work the line that you draw to separate in adding with was not straight. Her answers were right, she was just in a hurry and got messy. Her reading is the same way. She will get in a hurry and get messy so she will get marked off. Sometimes she will read the direction wrong too, like instead of drawing a square around the answer she will just circle it. It's usually the small stuff that gets her. I talked to her teacher two weeks ago to see if she thought there was a problem. She said the only problem that she saw was that Kathleen needed to figure out what to focus on. She said that she is always worried about what everyone else is doing and not doing her work. It's that whole I want to be the boss thing.

I think she has the general dislike of society. She told me today that school was stupid. It's not a big deal, I am just tired of saying, "You have to go because I said so." I just didn't have time to ask her how school was this morning.

Mary

 

[mickeyboat]

Dork - 2nd grade is when all this "I'm not your friend" garbage really gets going. It was so bad in last year's second grade that the guidance couselor had a meeting of all the 2nd grade girls and a second meeting with their parents to see if she could help straighten it out.

My girls are both in 2nd grade this year, so I don't hear much of that since they always have someone to play with who is forced to love them. (Emily asked me last night if parents HAVE to love their kids - I told her no, but that we did and always would, no matter what she does).

Emily says there are some girls in her class who are mean, and I tell her to find someone else to play with - specifically the boys, because they don't do that kind of thing, they just want to play. I also make sure she understands that those girls are doing that because they don't feel very good about themselves, and are trying to make other people feel badly to compensate. Then I list all the great things about her, and remind her that how she feels about herself is in no way based on what other people say about her.

Hannah is clueless about all this stuff!

Denae

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Dork - 2nd grade is when all this "I'm not your friend" garbage really gets going. It was so bad in last year's second grade that the guidance couselor had a meeting of all the 2nd grade girls and a second meeting with their parents to see if she could help straighten it out.

My girls are both in 2nd grade this year, so I don't hear much of that since they always have someone to play with who is forced to love them. (Emily asked me last night if parents HAVE to love their kids - I told her no, but that we did and always would, no matter what she does).

Emily says there are some girls in her class who are mean, and I tell her to find someone else to play with - specifically the boys, because they don't do that kind of thing, they just want to play. I also make sure she understands that those girls are doing that because they don't feel very good about themselves, and are trying to make other people feel badly to compensate. Then I list all the great things about her, and remind her that how she feels about herself is in no way based on what other people say about her.

Hannah is clueless about all this stuff!

Denae

I had her play with the boys when she was in Kindergarten. She did great. Now the boys are at the stage where they hate the girls. So she can't really play with them either.

I like your explaination of how they feel about themselves. I will have to remind her of all the good things. Sometimes I forget to do that.

I wish she had a sister too. Her brother won't be of much help next year when he starts. He would love to play with her but, they will have different recess.

Mary

 

[babytrees]

I had her play with the boys when she was in Kindergarten. She did great. Now the boys are at the stage where they hate the girls. So she can't really play with them either.

I like your explaination of how they feel about themselves. I will have to remind her of all the good things. Sometimes I forget to do that.

I wish she had a sister too. Her brother won't be of much help next year when he starts. He would love to play with her but, they will have different recess.

Mary

I think your idea of getting the guidance counselor involved is a good idea. If the stuff isn't nipped in the bud now it will only get worse....believe me I see the effects in the middle school and high school You can tell which schools have good anti bullying/get along programs and which ones are just skating.

Of course there are just some kids that are always going to be like that....it's oh so much fun dealing with those who think they are in second grade still

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

I think your idea of getting the guidance counselor involved is a good idea. If the stuff isn't nipped in the bud now it will only get worse....believe me I see the effects in the middle school and high school You can tell which schools have good anti bullying/get along programs and which ones are just skating.

Of course there are just some kids that are always going to be like that....it's oh so much fun dealing with those who think they are in second grade still

These kids will all be together until the end 8th grade. That is the part that sucks. When she hits 9th grade she will go to the High School where all the schools merge.

I'm not sure if anyone has said anything to the school about this class either. I know a few of the other mom's and I know it is not just my daughter that is having a tough time.

 

[babytrees]

These kids will all be together until the end 8th grade. That is the part that sucks. When she hits 9th grade she will go to the High School where all the schools merge.

I'm not sure if anyone has said anything to the school about this class either. I know a few of the other mom's and I know it is not just my daughter that is having a tough time.

then it is definitely time to speak up and nip this in the bud. It also sounds like it might be time for the school to look in to a anti-bullying/make friends program school wide...(why oh why can't the phrase I am trying to think of just get out of my brain)

 

[PlutosFriend]

Emily says there are some girls in her class who are mean, and I tell her to find someone else to play with - specifically the boys, because they don't do that kind of thing, they just want to play. I also make sure she understands that those girls are doing that because they don't feel very good about themselves, and are trying to make other people feel badly to compensate. Then I list all the great things about her, and remind her that how she feels about herself is in no way based on what other people say about her.

Hannah is clueless about all this stuff!

Denae

I like your advice Denae I try to remind my dd7, that "you don't want to play with kids that are mean anyway".
I too think talking to the guidance counselor about bullying is a good idea. Our school has a no tolerance policy on that.
I am glad they mix the kids up every year at our school. That way we aren't stuck with potential annoying kids, year after year

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

then it is definitely time to speak up and nip this in the bud. It also sounds like it might be time for the school to look in to a anti-bullying/make friends program school wide...(why oh why can't the phrase I am trying to think of just get out of my brain)

I saw a great program called Circle of Friends. I know what you meant, even if it wouldn't come out of your brain.

I wished they could shuffle them up but, we only have three schools in our tiny district. One is in a completely different town. I think they only have 9 second graders. The other one on the polar opposite end of the county as ours. They are closing it because it is so small, and they built it too close to the road for it to be safe anymore. We are supposed to vote on a new school in a few weeks. That will make the school double track so they can be shuffled up.

 

[Lachesis00]

Checking in, saying hi. I am in Alaska visiting my dad. I think I mentioned that??

My dad is such a hoot.
Tonight he said Aiden is one smart cookie and thinks he will be smart when he is older. LOL.
I am not sure how old kids are when they start imitating someone, but Aiden has learned to clap, how to "rolllllll it" (patty cake... patty cake... rolllllll it, and mark it with a "B"), do the "indian call" (where you run your hand over your mouth while making noise...?? ) and how to run his hand up and down over his lips LOL. PLUS when you sing old mac donald and get to the eiei-o he will go oooooooooooooooooooo when your doing the eiei-o. LOL. Oh and he'll go "Yeah" and throw his fists in the air. *rofl* It sounds more like "AAAAAAAAA" heheheee.

 

[RVGal]

I am not sure how old kids are when they start imitating someone, but Aiden has learned to clap, how to "rolllllll it" (patty cake... patty cake... rolllllll it, and mark it with a "B"), do the "indian call" (where you run your hand over your mouth while making noise...?? ) and how to run his hand up and down over his lips LOL. PLUS when you sing old mac donald and get to the eiei-o he will go oooooooooooooooooooo when your doing the eiei-o. LOL. Oh and he'll go "Yeah" and throw his fists in the air. *rofl* It sounds more like "AAAAAAAAA" heheheee.

My youngest LOVED the Old MacDonald song. He finally outgrew asking for it dozens of times a day, but he used to... when he was first making those word-like sounds... say E I O, which sounded more like, "eeyahyoh"... when he wanted to sing it.

We were riding in the car one day, him buckled into his carseat in the back, and I hear, "Eeyahyoh! Eeyahyoh!" So, I start singing the song. From the back, "No! No! Eeyahyoh!" So, I try to start singing the song again. Again, I get, "No! Eeyahyoh!"

I started looking around because he was getting very frustrated with me. You know, we parents can be so dense. I thought maybe he saw a picture of farm animals or something. We were at a traffic light, so I looked back at him and saw the direction he was pointing. It was at a McDonalds.

 

[Lachesis00]

I started looking around because he was getting very frustrated with me. You know, we parents can be so dense. I thought maybe he saw a picture of farm animals or something. We were at a traffic light, so I looked back at him and saw the direction he was pointing. It was at a McDonalds.

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

My youngest LOVED the Old MacDonald song. He finally outgrew asking for it dozens of times a day, but he used to... when he was first making those word-like sounds... say E I O, which sounded more like, "eeyahyoh"... when he wanted to sing it.

We were riding in the car one day, him buckled into his carseat in the back, and I hear, "Eeyahyoh! Eeyahyoh!" So, I start singing the song. From the back, "No! No! Eeyahyoh!" So, I try to start singing the song again. Again, I get, "No! Eeyahyoh!"

I started looking around because he was getting very frustrated with me. You know, we parents can be so dense. I thought maybe he saw a picture of farm animals or something. We were at a traffic light, so I looked back at him and saw the direction he was pointing. It was at a McDonalds.

When my nephew was about 20 months he started saying, "I wan' Taco Bell." He would say it every time we would drive by anything that was fast food.

My kids ask every Sunday after church, "Can we have McDonald's?" Not sure what it is about Sundays but, it starts before we even hit the parking lot.

 

[RVGal]

When my nephew was about 20 months he started saying, "I wan' Taco Bell." He would say it every time we would drive by anything that was fast food.

My kids ask every Sunday after church, "Can we have McDonald's?" Not sure what it is about Sundays but, it starts before we even hit the parking lot.

For awhile after my youngest started learning to talk, all fast food places were Burger King. He could say it clear as day, even when everything else was coming out as jibberish. You can imagine how happy they were to see us at Wendys with him screaming, "BURGER KING! Yay BURGER KING!" all the way through the order line.