Parent Thread

[Lachesis00]

Let me tell you guys, I am really blessed. My older son LOVES my youngest. They are 15 years, 11 months apart. Baby looks up to big brother and has big brother wrapped around his finger. Daily I hear big brother say "I love you..." Baby's eyes constantly follow big brother his voice if not what he is doing.
I did ask the 16 year old if this was 'good birth control' and if he'd be waiting for a long while. He said no. LOL When the right time, right girl ect ect.... *eeek*. I told him at least 6 more years, minimum LOL.

Jessica:That depekote is a wicked drug. I took it for 5 years and my gums recessed SO bad They said they should have looked 21yo, they looked 68yo. I mean it did it's job, but man oh man. I wonder why they use it for long term use.

 

[babytrees]

Let me tell you guys, I am really blessed. My older son LOVES my youngest. They are 15 years, 11 months apart. Baby looks up to big brother and has big brother wrapped around his finger. Daily I hear big brother say "I love you..." Baby's eyes constantly follow big brother his voice if not what he is doing.
I did ask the 16 year old if this was 'good birth control' and if he'd be waiting for a long while. He said no. LOL When the right time, right girl ect ect.... *eeek*. I told him at least 6 more years, minimum LOL.

Jessica:That depekote is a wicked drug. I took it for 5 years and my gums recessed SO bad They said they should have looked 21yo, they looked 68yo. I mean it did it's job, but man oh man. I wonder why they use it for long term use.

ahhh how sweet!!!!

 

[momofeva]

RVGal,

When I had my seizure, they also did an ultrasound of my heart to make sure that all the valves and chambers were correctly formed, they are. After 3 years on Dilantin, I was weaned off and have been fine and seizure free for 11 years. They never did find a reason.

My niece also has seizures and had the heart ultrasound and had her migraines tracked for triggers. Apparently some migraines might trigger a seizure. Her cause has not been found, but has been under control for more then a year and she was able to get her driver's license for her 20th birthday present!

Above all, remember that if you don't understand what the doctor is saying, ask him to explain it in layman terms. Don't be afraid to ask questions, the more informed you are the better you will be at detection and helping your son. Explain it all to your son, he has to live with this and needs to be able to tell his friends what can happen and what they should do if it does happen. Let him know that he has done nothing wrong, that this is just something he has that makes him unique.

Good luck, I'll add you guys to my prayers!

 

[Lachesis00]

It really is...!

My 16yo has been in Alaska living w/my dad. He has anxiety issues, along with what I thought was bi-polar (now I wonder) and some other health issues. He and Aiden didn't meet until Aiden was 4 months old. We were here in Alaska from 4 to 6 months old, and again here recently (my Gram passed away).
Aiden and he get along like bread and butter. They love each other! It is like no time ever passed. I am taking Joey home with me as I feel he would do better down south.

I need to d/l my photos off my little camera. I took a bunch of the brothers today Well I have been since I got here.

Who wants to hear a funny??
My dad , bless his heart, does not do puke or poop. Well guess who pooped while Joey and I went to the store My dad called me asking where diapers are. When I got home, Aiden was in a depends and a huge kids swimming diaper At least Poppy tried huh???

ahhh how sweet!!!!

 

[RVGal]

Thanks for the hugs and all the experiences and suggestions. They really help. Particularly, thanks for the heads up that they may actually try to trigger a seizure. It makes sense, but it is something I never would have thought of.

My son is on Dilantin. I've read warnings of rapid gum growth, where they have to be trimmed? Doesn't sound pleasant.

I know that I am hyper-sensitive to everything he does right now, but he seems to have to think longer to complete a thought than he used to... and he'll tell me, "I forgot" in answer to some of my questions. Maybe it's normal. Like I said, I'm watching his every gesture these days. I try not to hover, but the best I can do is to watch without really looking like I'm watching. At least I try to not look like I'm watching. I probably don't pull it off.

 

[Mkrop]

RVGal

GL with all you have on your plate. I think it is normal to be watching every move and gesture.

My DBro28 had a seizure when he was 17 from a combo of low blood sugar (he had not eaten all day) and then he went to the mall and played a certain video game with these strobe lights.

He has a seizure right there in the mall, and they took him to the hospital by ambulance, the hospital is literally right across the street from the mall.

It was a one time incident, he never had anything before or after, he was on the anti seizure stuff for like 3 months, then they weaned him off.

It was very weird

 

[DMickey28]

Tricia -
Rachel - Aiden is adorable. I love the cheeks!
Babytrees - Yeah Marching band. I am hoping that our kids get into Marching band and music. My DH is hoping they get into footbal!
Hi Mary

Can I join? I am a SAHM to one DS, almost 9 months. I can't believe he is already going to be 9 months. I have no idea where the time went. I thought I had this SAH thing down but the last month or two have been challenging. Now that DS is mobile there is no longer time for me to do anything unless he is sleeping. He is cutting his 8th and 9th teeth right now so he is miserable in general. Yes 8 and 9. He has four on the top and three on the bottom. The next two are working on the bottom.

I totally need to get off the couch and get some cleaning and organization done. I am tempted to just go nuts with the trash bag!!

DH is in the process of looking/interviewing for a new job. We are going to end up moving but have NO idea where or when or how. It's emotionally draining, I think that's why I haven't had the energy to do anything here.

Have a great day everyone!

 

[babytrees]

Tricia -
Rachel - Aiden is adorable. I love the cheeks!
Babytrees - Yeah Marching band. I am hoping that our kids get into Marching band and music. My DH is hoping they get into footbal!
Hi Mary

Can I join? I am a SAHM to one DS, almost 9 months. I can't believe he is already going to be 9 months. I have no idea where the time went. I thought I had this SAH thing down but the last month or two have been challenging. Now that DS is mobile there is no longer time for me to do anything unless he is sleeping. He is cutting his 8th and 9th teeth right now so he is miserable in general. Yes 8 and 9. He has four on the top and three on the bottom. The next two are working on the bottom.

I totally need to get off the couch and get some cleaning and organization done. I am tempted to just go nuts with the trash bag!!

DH is in the process of looking/interviewing for a new job. We are going to end up moving but have NO idea where or when or how. It's emotionally draining, I think that's why I haven't had the energy to do anything here.

Have a great day everyone!

tell hubby they can do both!! Well....not really at least not at the high school level. But there are quite a few of our athletes (yes marching band is a sport...they spend almost as much time on the field as the football team ) are dual fall sport kids. Mostly swimming, cross country and poms/cheerleaders.

 

[momofeva]

RVGal- When I was on Dilantin, I had to have my teeth cleaned every six months and the dentist checked for gum growth, I never did have to have them trimmed. The thinking harder and slower response is normal. The medication is slowing them down to control the seizures. As he gets used to the medication he will be able to think a little faster or at least it seemed like I did. Hover if that makes you feel better, we taught our oldest who was 3 at the time to dial 911 and our address and what to do if I ever had a seizure when dad wasn't home. She wouldn't leave my side!

babytrees and DMickey28- YES you can do both marching band and football. At least if the parents are willing to let the kids, you may not see your kid all summer. Talk to the band director and the football coach. The kid will play with the football team on game day and then march with the band at competitions. It can be and is being done!!

Caroldean

 

[babytrees]

babytrees and DMickey28- YES you can do both marching band and football. At least if the parents are willing to let the kids, you may not see your kid all summer. Talk to the band director and the football coach. The kid will play with the football team on game day and then march with the band at competitions. It can be and is being done!!

Caroldean

You are right it can be done...we just haven't had a kid do in the couple of years I've been with the marching band program. Although with the hoity toity band director he won't even let the kids have part time jobs or other after school activities so I think it depends on the school, band director and the kid.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

I know that I am hyper-sensitive to everything he does right now, but he seems to have to think longer to complete a thought than he used to... and he'll tell me, "I forgot" in answer to some of my questions. Maybe it's normal. Like I said, I'm watching his every gesture these days. I try not to hover, but the best I can do is to watch without really looking like I'm watching. At least I try to not look like I'm watching. I probably don't pull it off.

Been there, still doing that! One thing I am very careful about too is telling her teachers, dance teachers and freinds parents about her condition. Especially when she gets invited for a sleepover. I figure the more people that know, the more eyes are on her!

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Hi Christina. I love that picture of your boy too. I am feeling unmotivated too. It has been snowing and blowing like crazy here. I am feeling a little trapped.

Rachel, the story about your dad and the baby was funny. I guess he wanted to make doubly sure that he was covered. What great news about your son coming home with you. I hope that things go well.

Tricia, great news about the Nuero. I'm glad you were able to get in sooner rather than later.

Caroldean and babytrees, I have learned so much about band. My older sister did it in high school. I never payed attention. My sister loves to watch the competitions. I thought about taking her to the Rose Parade. I'm sure she would love it.

Have a great day.

Mary

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Hi Christina. I love that picture of your boy too. I am feeling unmotivated too. It has been snowing and blowing like crazy here. I am feeling a little trapped.

Rachel, the story about your dad and the baby was funny. I guess he wanted to make doubly sure that he was covered. What great news about your son coming home with you. I hope that things go well.

Tricia, great news about the Nuero. I'm glad you were able to get in sooner rather than later.

Caroldean and babytrees, I have learned so much about band. My older sister did it in high school. I never payed attention. My sister loves to watch the competitions. I thought about taking her to the Rose Parade. I'm sure she would love it.

Have a great day.

Mary

 

[babytrees]

I just remembered that my name isn't in my signature anymore.....

Hi my name is Theresa

the grandpa story had me I am so glad the boys have a mutual love. Does anybody remember Growing Pains?? One of my favorite episodes is the one were Mike's girlfriend told him he passed the Willy test because he was so good to her baby brother Your oldest obviously passed the Willy test.....what a sweet young man

 

[RVGal]

Again, I can't thank you guys enough for the thoughts and real life experiences. It is so good to read all the "seizure free" reports. It gives me lots and LOTS of hope.

Let me ask you this, my son came home from school with a form from the school nurse. Our school has a LPN/RN on staff. Anyway, the form is a "seizure response plan". Something they want filled out and signed by me, our doctor, and the school nurse. Is this something most schools do? I mean, I signed the form and then took it to the doctor's office for them to fill out. The front desk girl rolled her eyes and said, "Looks like somebody wants to make sure they got their butts covered."

I just figured they wanted to know exactly what to do if it happened again, but she made it seem like they want a signature on a form relieving them of liability.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Again, I can't thank you guys enough for the thoughts and real life experiences. It is so good to read all the "seizure free" reports. It gives me lots and LOTS of hope.

Let me ask you this, my son came home from school with a form from the school nurse. Our school has a LPN/RN on staff. Anyway, the form is a "seizure response plan". Something they want filled out and signed by me, our doctor, and the school nurse. Is this something most schools do? I mean, I signed the form and then took it to the doctor's office for them to fill out. The front desk girl rolled her eyes and said, "Looks like somebody wants to make sure they got their butts covered."

I just figured they wanted to know exactly what to do if it happened again, but she made it seem like they want a signature on a form relieving them of liability.

I had to set one of those up with the health aide when my DD started at her current school, and review it at the beginning of each school year with the health aide and DD's new teacher. Since the health aide is not an RN (our district has 1 RN assigned to about 6 schools, but health aides in every school), it was imperative. It is designed to get your son the help/care he needs if he has a seizure at school. As far as the front desk girl rolling her eyes and making that comment, that smacks of unprofessionalism to me. Yes, the form could be perceived as a CYA for the school, but the receptionist at your Drs office was wrong for saying that to you.

Since we are weaning DD right now, the dose she gets at school is not what is on the prescription bottle. And while the health aide trusts me (I've only been working with her for the last 3 years! ), she asked for a fax from the neuro's office showing the change in dosage. Neither I or the neuro's office had any problem with that. The neuro's office volunteered to fax it to the school before I finished asking!

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Good morning,

We have had not such a great one. I thought I would come to ask for some advice. DD7 hates school. I mean she really hates school. I was a school hater myself so I can sympathize. I know school is important. I am trying to get her to understand that too. Anyone have any great answers that a 7 year old would care about or understand? I'm out of them and I am sick of arguing about it. So fire away if you can help.

Mary

 

[babytrees]

Good morning,

We have had not such a great one. I thought I would come to ask for some advice. DD7 hates school. I mean she really hates school. I was a school hater myself so I can sympathize. I know school is important. I am trying to get her to understand that too. Anyone have any great answers that a 7 year old would care about or understand? I'm out of them and I am sick of arguing about it. So fire away if you can help.

Mary

Is there something specific she hates/dislikes about school?

We only have gone through the hating school for a teeny bit and it wasn't school as much as it was the bullying she was getting (both of them at different times). Once the bullying was addressed school wasn't hated anymore.


If it's tangible things that is fueling her dislike those are easier to fix than "I don't know".

Have you talked to the teacher??

Gosh I have more questions than answers...sorry.

 

[mickeyboat]

My DD7 says she hates school sometimes, too, but she can never tell my exactly why. I think it is because her sister loves school, and she wants to be the polar opposite. I also think she has picked up some of society's general dislike of schools - through tv, etc., so she thinks she should hate school too.

I try to tell her how much I would love to be in 2nd grade, and point out how much fun she seems to be having. She also gets excited about the science and social studies units she is doing, so I let her tell me all about them - Canada, Mexico, life cycle of a butterfly. Her teacher is amazing, too, and does a lot of neat things to make learning fun.

My kids actually use the word "hate" a lot - and we don't think of it as a bad word, just as a general feeling of dislike or resentment.

Sounds like your DD has something going on, though. Does she like her teacher? Does she tell you about what she is learning? Are you able to be involved at school at all?

Denae

 

[Mkrop]

Good morning,

We have had not such a great one. I thought I would come to ask for some advice. DD7 hates school. I mean she really hates school. I was a school hater myself so I can sympathize. I know school is important. I am trying to get her to understand that too. Anyone have any great answers that a 7 year old would care about or understand? I'm out of them and I am sick of arguing about it. So fire away if you can help.

Mary

Ask her what is going on, maybe it is something as simple as getting her seat changed bc the kid next to her is a pain in the neck, or maybe she is being bullied, ask her if the work is too hard, although you may be able to see it with her grades. Talk to the teacher, ask her to keep an eye of things.

DS10 was really stressing out last year and it turns out the class pain (sweet girl just very high maintenance, attention seeking) was sitting next to him and taking all his supplies bc she didnt have any or liked his pencil better. This was stressing him out big time.

I finally asked the teacher when she was changing seats and if he could get a new seat partner next time, she laughed bc she knew how much a pain T was and she thought Ds10 was handling it, so she switched him he was a much happier camper, and no other child lasted more than 2 weeks next to her, DS had the award of lasting 3 months.

Also another suggestion, make sure her vision is ok, if she cant see she might be getting frustrated.

GL