Parent Thread

[Lachesis00]

Old Mom/New Mom checking in! I am mom to a 16.5 year old boy and a almost 8 month old boy.

My 16yo told me today I am a cool mom. I am strict but not over bearing, breathing down your neck strict. Huh. go figure! LOL Oh well my mom was the cool mom back in the day

I'm gonna go do some back reading on this thread.

 

[RVGal]

I love the name "Fluffy"! That gives a great picture of quite a few moms I remember having to pull around when picking up DD from cheer practice years ago!

Fluffy just fits because she is. There doesn't actually seem to be any substance to her, just fluff.

She is also the mom that walks her kids (1 first grader and 1 Kindergarten) into school EVERY morning with their rolling backpacks dragging behind them.

1. It has been over 5 months. Your kids don't know where the class is YET?

2. Somewhere in all that paperwork they sent home at the beginning of the year was a "no rolling backpacks please" request. Apparently small children frequently trip over them.

The front door clique doesn't bother me. Really. I don't let other people, other parents, bother me. I do my own thing and I enjoy it. I enjoy my children. I think that is one thing that some parents miss out on. They do their duty, take responsibility for the child, provide for them, love them... but they never cross over into actively enjoying them. Or maybe I'm wrong. I just know a few people who only ever talk about the responsibilities and burdens without talking about the fun of kids.

The thing I find funny is that there is a "we're the GOOD parents" vibe surrounding Fluffy's clique. Like showing up an hour early to sit and chat with each other is really all for the kids. Pfffft. Yeah, right.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I have seen you around on the DIS and always assumed your name was Bob! Guess not? Who is Bob?

Bob Slydell is a character from the movie Office Space.

This is my second username. The first one (SteveH) got, ummm, asked to leave many years ago.

 

[Bob Slydell]

She is also the mom that walks her kids (1 first grader and 1 Kindergarten) into school EVERY morning with their rolling backpacks dragging behind them.

Funny, I was just talking to a friend of mine (a teacher) rant about parents who still walk their kids to the classroom by this point. I'm sure fluffy mom thinks she's being supermom. Meanwhile fluffy mom's children's teacher is probably at them.

My 1st grader would cringe if I even suggested that I would walk him into school -- besides, he loves taking the bus anyways.

 

[RVGal]

Bob Slydell is a character from the movie Office Space.

This is my second username. The first one (SteveH) got, ummm, asked to leave many years ago.

Ooooo... a trouble maker... a rebel... whatever...

 

[Mkrop]

Bob Slydell is a character from the movie Office Space.

This is my second username. The first one (SteveH) got, ummm, asked to leave many years ago.

Very mysterious

Funny, I was just talking to a friend of mine (a teacher) rant about parents who still walk their kids to the classroom by this point. I'm sure fluffy mom thinks she's being supermom. Meanwhile fluffy mom's children's teacher is probably at them.

My 1st grader would cringe if I even suggested that I would walk him into school -- besides, he loves taking the bus anyways.

I felt for Fluffy until she broke the rule about the rolling backpacks(I am a rule follower ) and this is why, although I HOPE this will not be the case for me next year.

I have DS5 who is very anxious about new experiences. Each year has been hard adjusting to the new school year, even with it being in the same building. This has been preschool. Although we muddled through car line there were a lot of tears.

Next year EVERYTHING will be different, new school, new friends, new teacher, the bus. We are currently developing a gameplan for how we are going to handle next year. I am taking him up there a lot more since DS10 is up there, we are going to make a picture book etc but I dont know how it is going to go. So I might be that mom walking DS5 into K, or things may be fine. I dont know. So I guess what I am saying is that maybe Fluffy has a reason. or should could just be "Fluffy"

Like I mentioned before I cant get him to go to Lunch Bunch.

Now DS10 totally different, he is my "later mom" kid

 

[PlutosFriend]

I looked her up and down, smiled, and said, "No. You were back there first. (pointing to where her car still sat parked) If you bothered to move your car with the line, you would be here first. (pointing to the ground beside my car) If you want to tell on me, go ahead. I'll gather up the other parents sitting in their cars and we'll just have a good old fashioned sit down with the school about it."

She huffed and muttered her way back to the front door Fluffy Club. I'm sure they spent many a minutes discussing what a horrible person I am.

I am surprised the school doesn't crack down on them doing that. Our line has to flow smoothly and no one can just park up front by the curb and get out. Some people!

 

[PlutosFriend]

Old Mom/New Mom checking in! I am mom to a 16.5 year old boy and a almost 8 month old boy.

My 16yo told me today I am a cool mom. I am strict but not over bearing, breathing down your neck strict. Huh. go figure! LOL Oh well my mom was the cool mom back in the day

I'm gonna go do some back reading on this thread.

Hey there! CUTE baby! Love his name too So, since you are the cool Mom, is your house a hang out? Mine seems to be, but no one has claimed me as cool yet

 

[PlutosFriend]

Bob Slydell is a character from the movie Office Space.

This is my second username. The first one (SteveH) got, ummm, asked to leave many years ago.

I have never seen Office Space. Hard to believe.
Uh oh, did you get yourself in to some trouble?

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Very mysterious




I felt for Fluffy until she broke the rule about the rolling backpacks(I am a rule follower ) and this is why, although I HOPE this will not be the case for me next year.

I have DS5 who is very anxious about new experiences. Each year has been hard adjusting to the new school year, even with it being in the same building. This has been preschool. Although we muddled through car line there were a lot of tears.

Next year EVERYTHING will be different, new school, new friends, new teacher, the bus. We are currently developing a gameplan for how we are going to handle next year. I am taking him up there a lot more since DS10 is up there, we are going to make a picture book etc but I dont know how it is going to go. So I might be that mom walking DS5 into K, or things may be fine. I dont know. So I guess what I am saying is that maybe Fluffy has a reason. or should could just be "Fluffy"

Like I mentioned before I cant get him to go to Lunch Bunch.

Now DS10 totally different, he is my "later mom" kid

I feel for you. DS5 is that way. He likes things the same. He gets really pretty freaked out if you change it on him. He recieves services (a whole 'nother thread) and they are starting his transitioning in February. He will go to school on Thursday afternoons. They are going to start him with lunch then he will go to recess. We have also talked about getting him a few visits in Music, Art, and Gym. Those are going to be where we are going to have to have some modification.

As for Fluffy, at our school there is NO Parking in the drive thru lane EVER! If you wan to get out of you vehicle you better put it in the parking lot. The other mom's will get let you know that too.

I am always the one to show up a litle late because I like to talk to the teacher. If I show up early then I have to wait my turn. I always feel rushed too. So I show up late because I want to have as much time as it takes to see how things went.

 

[Mickeyluver37]

Fluffy just fits because she is. There doesn't actually seem to be any substance to her, just fluff.

She is also the mom that walks her kids (1 first grader and 1 Kindergarten) into school EVERY morning with their rolling backpacks dragging behind them.

1. It has been over 5 months. Your kids don't know where the class is YET?

2. Somewhere in all that paperwork they sent home at the beginning of the year was a "no rolling backpacks please" request. Apparently small children frequently trip over them.

The front door clique doesn't bother me. Really. I don't let other people, other parents, bother me. I do my own thing and I enjoy it. I enjoy my children. I think that is one thing that some parents miss out on. They do their duty, take responsibility for the child, provide for them, love them... but they never cross over into actively enjoying them. Or maybe I'm wrong. I just know a few people who only ever talk about the responsibilities and burdens without talking about the fun of kids.

The thing I find funny is that there is a "we're the GOOD parents" vibe surrounding Fluffy's clique. Like showing up an hour early to sit and chat with each other is really all for the kids. Pfffft. Yeah, right.

I'm going to be the rebel here and say that I would have been ticked to get a note like that AFTER school started. A couple years ago, the rolling back packs were really in here, and my kids and almost all their friends had ordered the L.L. Bean ones, with their names embroidered, of course BEFORE the first day of school. Turns out the school wasn't really happy with the latest trend- only because they give them these teeny little hooks to hang their backpacks on, and all those rolling back packs didn't fit- but I don't think they actually forbid anyone from having them.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Uh oh, did you get yourself in to some trouble?

A little, but it was a long, long time ago -- I've been good (mostly ) since then.

As far as the rolling backpack thing goes, I can see both sides of it. If they didn't tell people about the rule until after school started, I'd be irritated if I had already bought bookbags.

On the other hand, does a kindergardener and and first grader actually need a rolling bookbag? Seriously, for what my first grader takes to and from school (except for gym day), be barely needs a backpack. He certainly isn't carrying so much that he needs wheels.

 

[Mkrop]

A little, but it was a long, long time ago -- I've been good (mostly ) since then.

As far as the rolling backpack thing goes, I can see both sides of it. If they didn't tell people about the rule until after school started, I'd be irritated if I had already bought bookbags.

On the other hand, does a kindergardener and and first grader actually need a rolling bookbag? Seriously, for what my first grader takes to and from school (except for gym day), be barely needs a backpack. He certainly isn't carrying so much that he needs wheels.

Wait until 3rd or 4th. I dont particularly like the rolling backpacks but some days DS10 brings home so many books, it insane. And that is when they seem to get more textbooks too.

 

[LaraK]

We got a letter in the mail before school started with the "appropriate drop off procedures"...you are to stay IN YOUR CAR at all times. You are NOT to open either door on the left side of the car. You are NOT to help your child out of the car, parent volunteers are there to help them. You are to move away promptly when done. If a child forgets lunch money or a signature on a permission slip, you are to leave the drop off zone and return only when your child is fully prepared to promptly depart the car on the right hand side.

Thankfully, I do before and after school care, so I don't have to interact with the "drop off police".

BTW...my kindergartener uses the backpack for the pile of crap she brings home every day and insists we keep FOREVER!!!!

 

[Mkrop]

We got a letter in the mail before school started with the "appropriate drop off procedures"...you are to stay IN YOUR CAR at all times. You are NOT to open either door on the left side of the car. You are NOT to help your child out of the car, parent volunteers are there to help them. You are to move away promptly when done. If a child forgets lunch money or a signature on a permission slip, you are to leave the drop off zone and return only when your child is fully prepared to promptly depart the car on the right hand side.

Thankfully, I do before and after school care, so I don't have to interact with the "drop off police".

BTW...my kindergartener uses the backpack for the pile of crap she brings home every day and insists we keep FOREVER!!!!

I just threw a box of the "crap" out today. Trash men just took it.

DS10 had a bunch of it and I shoved it in a box. Well we were cleaning his room and I found the box and said can we get rid of it NOW. He finally said yes, he is in 4th grade

 

[PlutosFriend]

A little, but it was a long, long time ago -- I've been good (mostly ) since then.

As far as the rolling backpack thing goes, I can see both sides of it. If they didn't tell people about the rule until after school started, I'd be irritated if I had already bought bookbags.

On the other hand, does a kindergardener and and first grader actually need a rolling bookbag? Seriously, for what my first grader takes to and from school (except for gym day), be barely needs a backpack. He certainly isn't carrying so much that he needs wheels.

Good point! My ds is in 4th grade and that is the back pack he chose. I tried to talk him out of it Our school doesn't have any rules on them. The thing drives me nuts for some reason. Harder to store at home, and always wants to tip over

 

[PlutosFriend]

BTW...my kindergartener uses the backpack for the pile of crap she brings home every day and insists we keep FOREVER!!!!

I have to throw things away on the sly I keep some things, in a tote for memory sake. If my kids were to see certain things in the trash, they get all upset Sooo that is why I have to be sneaky about it

 

[RVGal]

On the other hand, does a kindergardener and and first grader actually need a rolling bookbag? Seriously, for what my first grader takes to and from school (except for gym day), be barely needs a backpack. He certainly isn't carrying so much that he needs wheels.

My son goes to a primary school... only K, 1, and 2 grades. That's it. Homework folders go home (in the backpack) on Tuesday. The homework folder is just a report folder that has "Keep" stuff on one side (6 to 10 pages of class work, art, etc) and "Return" stuff on the other side (weekly behavior report to sign, 1 sheet of homework, etc). There is never much sent home, there is never much that goes back. Oh, and you send lunch money or class trip money in the backpack. That's it.

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

We got a letter in the mail before school started with the "appropriate drop off procedures"...you are to stay IN YOUR CAR at all times. You are NOT to open either door on the left side of the car. You are NOT to help your child out of the car, parent volunteers are there to help them. You are to move away promptly when done. If a child forgets lunch money or a signature on a permission slip, you are to leave the drop off zone and return only when your child is fully prepared to promptly depart the car on the right hand side.

Thankfully, I do before and after school care, so I don't have to interact with the "drop off police".

BTW...my kindergartener uses the backpack for the pile of crap she brings home every day and insists we keep FOREVER!!!!

We don't have the drop off police before school, only after. We have them the first two weeks in the morning, but after that everyone gets it. I think it takes two weeks to give all the K parents a lecture. ::cop:

Our parking lot is not paved so we don't have a rolling backpack. It looks like too much trouble in the mud and snow. I'm not sure if there is a policy against them or not.

Steve, you were asked to leave? I wonder how many people rejoin after that happens.

Mkrop, after school do you bring your little guy in to the school? DS5 loves that. He always wants to go see the classroom he will be in. He wants to go to the Library too. Are you going to make a social story for him?

 

[Mkrop]

We don't have the drop off police before school, only after. We have them the first two weeks in the morning, but after that everyone gets it. I think it takes two weeks to give all the K parents a lecture. ::cop:

Our parking lot is not paved so we don't have a rolling backpack. It looks like too much trouble in the mud and snow. I'm not sure if there is a policy against them or not.

Steve, you were asked to leave? I wonder how many people rejoin after that happens.

Mkrop, after school do you bring your little guy in to the school? DS5 loves that. He always wants to go see the classroom he will be in. He wants to go to the Library too. Are you going to make a social story for him?

My aunt who is a guidance counselor recommended making a book for him with as many pictures of the new school that I can, teachers, building etc. DS10 goes to the school, it is a Catholic K-8 school so I pretty much know everyone so I think I will be able to get pictures or DS10 gets a yearbook so I can scan some pictures in.

They are having an open house on Sunday so we are going to that. We are making it a point to do many more of the family activities, like Family Bingo.

DS10 takes the bus and even if I picked him up there is the car line procedure.

I am going to talk with the principal and the K teacher soon and see if we can stop up after classes or something. Or talk to them about a gameplan too.