Parent Christmas Gifts

One of the best gifts we have gotten for the parents has been a digital photo frame that we can send photos to without being there via email.

Just make sure you connect it to their wifi so they don't have to fool with it and can just enjoy the photos of the family.
Frameo has a really easy app for their frames -- you just take a picture on your phone and upload it to the app, the app downloads it to their frame. I preloaded my mother's frame with a bunch of pictures of the whole family and her nieces/nephews.
 
Several years ago my mom was thinking about getting a cellphone but was on a limited budget. We put her on our plan and that's her gifts for the year. We upgrade her phone whenever we upgrade ours. She loves it and uses her phone more than we do.

A couple of years before my dad passed (parents were divorced) he had gotten to where he couldn't physically manage the yardwork. I found someone to cut his grass and that was his gifts for the year. In SC we have a long mowing season. He appreciated that more than anything and it took a burden off his plate.
 
Every week you spend 48 hours at your parents house? Showing love without saying a word. You are a great kid (no matter how old you are).
I really don't know how to interpret this since the responses were laughing emojis. If it was sarcastic I'm not sure why. Tone is sometimes hard to read so I'm giving the benefit of the doubt.
 

Frameo has a really easy app for their frames -- you just take a picture on your phone and upload it to the app, the app downloads it to their frame. I preloaded my mother's frame with a bunch of pictures of the whole family and her nieces/nephews.
We bought both the moms a Skylight frame-it’s great because you just email the pics to an email address you set up with the frame so no app download needed.

My
Mom is a quilter-has money to buy her own whatever but we are a big gifting family and I can’t imagine her not having anything to open. I usually buy her a new quilt gadget and a gc to her favorite shop, some clothes, cooking items. Earrings. My dad loved donations to food security organizations and Blue La music, so we’d usually get him a CD or t shirt and then make donations in his name.
 
I really don't know how to interpret this since the responses were laughing emojis. If it was sarcastic I'm not sure why. Tone is sometimes hard to read so I'm giving the benefit of the doubt.
I believe the laughing emojis were directed toward the bidet party comment.
I think it was a very genuine compliment.
Yes, yes it was. I bet almost every older person wishes they had someone that could come over even an hour or two every week to do some household thing. Our DS and family comes over almost every Sunday. Those are the days I'll say, " can you bring this chair upstairs , can you take this case of water to the basement, etc."
 
I bet almost every older person wishes they had someone that could come over even an hour or two every week to do some household thing. Our DS and family comes over almost every Sunday. Those are the days I'll say, " can you bring this chair upstairs , can you take this case of water to the basement, etc."

I agree. in fact a non profit group I was involved with actually figured this out when they had a fund raising event/auction and the most activly bid on items were a set number of hours of 'man power' that one of the local fraternal organizations donated. the donors thought that they would be called upon to do 'heavy lifting' kinds of things like yard work, dump hauls and such when in reality the older folks who won these auction hours just wanted simple tasks like you speak of done or some light furniture rearranging, a fridge moved so they could clean behind it or batteries in a ceiling smoke alarm replaced, bulbs in a ceiling fan...it really opened the eyes of the donors to a whole new aspect of service they could offer free of charge to members of their community :thumbsup2
 
I agree. in fact a non profit group I was involved with actually figured this out when they had a fund raising event/auction and the most activly bid on items were a set number of hours of 'man power' that one of the local fraternal organizations donated. the donors thought that they would be called upon to do 'heavy lifting' kinds of things like yard work, dump hauls and such when in reality the older folks who won these auction hours just wanted simple tasks like you speak of done or some light furniture rearranging, a fridge moved so they could clean behind it or batteries in a ceiling smoke alarm replaced, bulbs in a ceiling fan...it really opened the eyes of the donors to a whole new aspect of service they could offer free of charge to members of their community :thumbsup2
So true, a few months ago, middle of the night, one of our 7 smoke detectors starting beeping. After finding which is was, climbing the three steps on a step stool, I thought "what would DH do, he can't climb a ladder". I bet he would use the "take broom and whack away" method.
 
A digital picture frame with pictures of the family. Set a reminder to load additional pictures every month.

A membership to a local botanical garden or art museum or zoo.

Gift cards to their favorite restaurant or coffee shop.
 
One of the best gifts we have gotten for the parents has been a digital photo frame that we can send photos to without being there via email.

Just make sure you connect it to their wifi so they don't have to fool with it and can just enjoy the photos of the family
My SIL got my inlaws a Aura version of this last year and I admit it is pretty awesome. All the adult kids, plus my inlaws, have the app on their phones to share photos. Seems like some share more than others, but it's definitely user friendly.
 
it's tricky with folks who receive SSI and other certain types of assistance. gifts of cash and gift cards that can be used to purchase food or shelter are supposed to be reported by the recipient and count dollar for dollar against their monthly amount (so $100 cash or gift card reduces another month's benefit by $100) and if they have resources close to the $2000 maximum and don't use the entire amount of cash/gift card in the month received and it takes them over that $2000 limit they can become entirely ineligible. when I worked for dshs I had several clients get caught up with this (and social security gets esp. harsh if they find people are not forthcoming in reporting these gifts). your lawn service gift was perfect b/c it would not have been reportable nor countable. I hated it when a well meaning relative would gift one of my clients monetarily and it ended up a wash with their benefit reduction :guilty: ,
That was my error. The get social security not SSI. It's their only income.
 
I believe the laughing emojis were directed toward the bidet party comment.

Yes, yes it was. I bet almost every older person wishes they had someone that could come over even an hour or two every week to do some household thing. Our DS and family comes over almost every Sunday. Those are the days I'll say, " can you bring this chair upstairs , can you take this case of water to the basement, etc."
I'm so sorry I took it wrong. It was a rough day with my dad yesterday and I guess I'm a little prickly. I appreciate you saying that. It's just been a tough week. Again, apologies for making assumptions!
 
I'm so sorry I took it wrong. It was a rough day with my dad yesterday and I guess I'm a little prickly. I appreciate you saying that. It's just been a tough week. Again, apologies for making assumptions!
Don’t think on it again. Sometimes our brains just get overwhelmed.

When my DH was in the hospital, I was spending 12 -14 hours there, come home , eat, sleep, shower, and back to hospital. After about a week, I’m driving back to hospital and I’m feeling I forgot something. Did I lock the door, did I remember my wallet,………did I put on pants?…. Yes, I thought that and touched my leg to be sure. By the way, I did remember pants.
 
Don’t think on it again. Sometimes our brains just get overwhelmed.

When my DH was in the hospital, I was spending 12 -14 hours there, come home , eat, sleep, shower, and back to hospital. After about a week, I’m driving back to hospital and I’m feeling I forgot something. Did I lock the door, did I remember my wallet,………did I put on pants?…. Yes, I thought that and touched my leg to be sure. By the way, I did remember pants.
Pants are important! LOL.
 
Parents are the hardest, they usually have everything. I have suggested numerous times with my parents let's stop exchanging gifts (we stopped years ago with DH's folks). My dad says we don't have to buy them anything but they are going to buy for us. And, it is usually somewhat extravagant (so we feel the need to recropricate). It's just hard finding stuff for mom who is 67 and dad who is 72, they are pretty much homebodies, and just enjoy walking and watching TV (already have all streaming services and used to buy them movies but everything is streaming now for movies even). I have tried gift cards to their favorite restaurants and they don't like that, "not enough thought into that".

So this is their gifts so far:
Mom:
4 piece serving of some cardinal winter dishes (dad got her a service for 4 which is all she needs but he thought I should get her a set too incase a piece breaks. I thought ridiculous, but it was a gift idea and I'm struggling).
Columbia winter boots
PJ's
Need to find some more stuff

Dad:
Saucony tennis shoes
Oakley sunglasses
Powerwasher soap
Phone case
Eddie Bauer shirt
probably have to find another item

Then I might get them a combined gift of some soft serve ice cream mix as they use that in their Creami alot. I'm going over there this weekend to try to dig up some more gift ideas.
 
Both of our parents want cash. They live on SSI only so cash is what they want most. A few years back when DH parents could no longer due their own lawn care we paud for a service to handle the mowing, trimming and general yard maintenance. My MIL was not pleased with that gift and requested cash again. Going as far as telling us it was a "stupid gift" We stick with cash now.
That was fairly thoughtless of them to phrase it that way, it wasn't a stupid idea, it was something you thought would be helpful to them. That said I think sometimes these acts of service have to be run by the intended recipients.

It's not that the lawncare wouldn't need to be done by someone at some point but could it be handled by them at their discretion by reaching out from the neighborhood just as an example. I see countless elder people on Nextdoor for example getting help from neighbors without the potential of costly timed services that may be beholden to a contract. Snow removal is also one that often gets handled at the community level on an as-needed level. I don't know if where you live where you might need more constant yard care. Here it's spring and fall because summer it's mostly watering and mowing and fertilizing is less done (the grass usually goes dormant too), winter you don't need lawn care here other than if you do a winter fertilizer treatment before winter fully sets in.

The cash seems like a very practical thing and they are thinking it's what they need most but they should have talked with you about it in a much more gentle way. without insulting your gesture. Maybe then it could have been something like figuring out if there was something they use the cash on consistently in their lives that maybe you could get them in lieu of just straight up cash. Regardless sorry they gave such an abrupt answer to you.
 













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