Overdue update on our situation

[Rajah]

Thanks for the prayers on Friday everyone, I felt the support.

I finally got to meet my mom's accountant, and I like him and the way he works. He is doing a great job with things, and is a great support for her. He's expensive, but I think worth it.

The lawyer he had us go to was very good as well. This guy took the time to explain half a dozen procedures (3 very important) that were never even *mentioned* to us by the other lawyer, let alone explained, and told us how he would proceed if we wanted him to take the case. He spoke *English* as opposed to Legalese, and was very patient, repeating things several times as needed. She and I both walked out of there much more confident in this guy, and she plans to hire him once he gets the paperwork written up for her (which will be today or tomorrow).

Now comes a request for some more prayers. She's going to have to fire the previous lawyer, and this is causing her a GREAT GREAT GREAT deal of distress. She doesn't like the idea of *firing* anyone, even though the previous lawyer totally deserves to be let go. She's a wreck about having to walk in and demand her paperwork/materials back and fire the guy, then face living in the same town with him and his son. Doesn't matter that she's never seen these two in 14 years of living in the town, nor does it matter that any professional who gets lets go is going to be "grown-up" about it. She's a mess about the situation. So if y'all could keep her in your prayers specifically that she can be at peace that letting this guy go is the RIGHT thing to do and is okay morally? The accountant is going with her again since this guy's office really only responds well to MEN and tries to intimidate women.

As for the gardens that we went to see -- that was nice. Did take all day, and for a normal situation the garden tour wasn't worth the hour drive to it, but in our situation it was the right thing to do to break the emotional cycle a bit.

Thanks again everyone, and once again, please keep this situation in your prayers. My mom (and me too, but her especially) really needs all the prayers she can get. She's running out of strength both emotionally and physically and she and I are both concerned that she's heading toward a nervous breakdown or a collapse.

 

[Serena]

Thank you for the update, I've been wondering but figured you'd tell us when you were ready. Hang in there, your mom has lasted this long, she is stronger than she seems.

 

[Rajah]

I would have posted an update this weekend, but DH decided this weekend was the right time to upgrade our computers/server. Which did need to be done. Just meant I was without my computer/email all weekend.

 

[TimeforMe]

Hi Tammi:

I have read every one of your posts since your dad's passing, but have never posted a response yet.

I just wanted to let you know how (from an unbiased "passerby" point of view) much progress you seem to have made. I know it's hard for you to see yourself, but I can "feel" a difference in your posts. You do not give yourself credit for what a strong, insightful, sensitive and caring individual you are. Stay well and keep up the good work.

 

[Rajah]

Thanks, TimeForMe. It's because of the support network I have. I sure couldn't do this alone.

 

[helenabear]

Tammi, I am so very very glad to hear som egood updates. I hope that this lawyer will do her some good. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers

 

[Dan Murphy]

God to see the progress your mom is making with a good accountant here. Good news. And hope it goes well with her terminating relationship with the lawyer. My best, Tammi, for both you and mom, my prayers are with you guys.

 

[TammyNC]

Tammi, thanks for the update. I think of you and your Mom so often. It sounds like you have the right people working with you now and I will be saying prayers that your Mom will not stress so much on letting the lawyer go. There is nothing wrong with changing, that is why there are so many out there.

Keeping you all in my prayers.

 

[snoopy]

Rajah, I am always thinking of you and your mom and keeping you close in my prayers.

 

[browneyes]

I hope the accountant intimidates people in that office. Good luck to your mom, Tammi.

 

[DoeWDW]

Tammi, sounds like good news! Your mom is getting her own "great support team" together, by having an accountant and a lawyer that she can trust!

I'll continue to keep both of you in my prayers.

 

[justjulie]

Although your Mom is technically "firing" her attorney, it can be done without her feeling like the bad guy. Simply advise him that you do not feel like he is the right fit for her - you need not even say that you're "uncomfortable" if that's the case - you must be happy with the person, their approach and the end result - you should NOT feel bad about looking after yourself.

Good luck!

 

[MickeysMommy]

Tammi, you all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Glad to hear that you are finally getting good people on your side. God Bless.