Our trip is cancelled :(

[cap'njacksgirl18]

That really stinks. I am 18 and I am going to wdw with my dm and db for the tenth time in april. I found out that my chorale singing group I am a part of at school is going to chicago during that same time. Mom offered to send me home early from disney to go on that trip ,but I opted to stay in disney. I would no miss a trip to wdw for anything in the world! I love it so much! Maybe your kids would change their minds if you sat down with them and show them all of these posts about it. What exactly is so important that they are missing? They are only 12 and 15 it can't be something like their senior prom!? If they refuse to go you should make them each pay for the amount of money their ticket cost.

 

[doubletrouble_vb]

Unless your trip is during the school break I can understand why the two fifteen year olds don't want to go. Your husbands argument appears to be convincing however. If he is correct that your finances can't handle a discretionary trip at this time then maybe you might want to look at applying the money you've saved to other family expenses. If he isn't but he's reluctant or afraid to take time off of work then consider bringing the 12 year old along. Odds are they would have a good time despite missing whatever it is. The other three I'd definitely leave home.

 

[dopeyfanatic]

That stinks. However there's no point in forcing two 15 year olds to go who don't want to. You have a good chance they'd be in a bad mood the whole time. I say pay the money to change the flights. It's a lot better than losing that money all together. Move it to Sep so you can possibly get free dining. Or check their calendar and ask when would be better.

 

[jann1033]

if you can't really afford the trip right now you are better off losing a few hundred than spending a few thousand more..we've changed our plans 3 times now cause we don't go unless we can pay cash and totally afford it...i would have liked to go last yr, last fall and now hoping for feb...if not it's not gonna kill me not to go. however i don't pay for anything i can't change till i'm sure we are going

 

[dsnymomof4]

I have a little understanding of what you're going through. While DH and DDs are BIG into Disney, DS13 is not and expressed to me last year that he didn't really want to go - I was heartbroken. I think it's the "teenager" thing - they don't want to be away from their friends/school. However, he will go and when he's there, he always has a great time. Talk to DH and kids to see if another time during the year would be agreeable - that way kids wouldn't miss important activities and it would give you additional time to save up. Sure, you'll lose $100/ticket, but at least you'll still have that family vacation. Make sure they understand how important it is to you- to spend quality time together as a family - there's no better place for that than Disney! Good luck!

 

[CobraBubbles]

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[Golliwobbler]

Stunning! Absolutely stunning!

I cannot thankfully imagine that happening in my clan, but if it did, I'd first find out if the direction was uniform...are all kids and husband united in this bad idea? even if one kid is more inclined to go, take them alone with you and have some high quality Mom time with them. Even better, if one splinters from the pack, ask them to bring two of their friends. I bet you could even get one to splinter if you said that you were willing to take them and a best friend.

Finally, if nothing else works, PLEASE call your local Make-a-Wish chapter and tell them what's up (or another similar charity). They have such deep connections, from WDW through the airlines, that if you donated your tickets and other investment rather than just let it go, they might be better able to get the airlines and Disney to work to get it all transferred to a terminally ill child and family.

 

[Vannah]

I've been seeing more and more of this lately. Maybe it's something in the air?

Your options (if you still want to go):

Make them go. Chances are, once they're there they'll forget all about not wanting to go.

Take friends instead. Friends can be just as good as family, and you'll still have fun.

Go solo.

 

[NemoMOm]

You worked too hard not to go! If you can't find friends to go with you I bet other dissers would be happy o meet up with you. Go have fun

 

[jann1033]

a trip to wdw is fun for sure and it's disappointing that the others don't share your interest but all that is paid for is the airline tickets right? you need to pay for the rest but have at least some toward it due to your job but husband says you need the money for other things? if you do go solo you will still lose out on $400 of the airline tickets plus need to pay for the other things ie room food, passes? do you think the money is really not the problem with hubby? guess i am trying to figure out if the problem is the others don't want to go to wdw or if a vacation isn't really a good idea for now

 

[Cdn Friends of Pooh]

I may be a bit selfish, but if I were in that situation I'd still go - and take some friends who wanted to go. I'd also make sure that the rest of the family reimburse you for the cost of the tickets (even if it's over time) - to reinforce that money doesn't grow on trees and there are consequences to changing one's mind at the last minute for no reason.

Bonny

 

[DizneyNutz]

My kids are 15, 15 and 12. They tell me they don't want to miss their sports or school activities. Hubby claims we have a lot of expenses due now and would rather eat the money invested. I even took a part time job at a store to save extra money and I saved everything I earned. I'm seriously thinking about going solo. I'm the only one who wants to go to WDW now.

Bless you're heart!!! YOU GO, GO, GO! Life is too short to wait on other folks! Thankfully, the DH and I both LOVE WDW but I say, if you love it and YOU have worked a part-time job to earn the $$ you find a friend that can pay their way and HIT THE TRAIL, and if not, throw a couple extra $$ in there and and enjoy a nice spa while in WDW, either way, if you have to "eat the money invested" by all means, do it in sunny Florida while getting a delicious massage and afterwards, tell a lively "mouse" all about it!!!! One more thing, get plenty of pics, be sure to come back happy and relaxed and MAKE SURE everybody KNOWS, has no DOUBT, about what an absolutely WONDERFUL time you had, and that you couldn't imagine how it could be better!

God Bless and GO, HAVE A WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL TIME!

 

[laura001]

I agree with most of the other posters on this thread. I think you should go anyway! Find a friend or two, other family member or two and go and have a great time!

I can't imagine that happening in my family either (other than my DH) and I think that it would be awful to have had your hopes up and done all that work to start planning to have them not want to go. I have taken my kids by myself without DH because he didn't want to go and would do the same without my kids if that happened. If you don't know of anyone that wants to go....you still have loads of time to hook up with someone from here. There are handfuls of people on here that would go I am sure, what a great way to meet some new people. I have made friends on here that I would go to WDW with in a minute (hey, that is a good idea! )

Hope it all works out for you!!!!

 

[Crazy Kanga]

It seems to me that the best option for family harmony is to just eat the $100 per ticket change fee, and reschedule for a time that is better. That is the only thing that makes sense to me. If the tickets are truly non-transferable, taking friends in their place isn't an option. Find a time during the summer or whenever that doesn't conflict with school stuff, save up some more money by working the part time job, yardsales, or whatever, and then plan to go stay somewhere off site which will save a lot of $. Then offer to do the other non-Disney things in Orlando part of the time, such as Universal, daytrip to the beach, space center, Sea World,etc. and everyone should be happy! Hope it all works out.

 

[teresajoy]

If the tickets are truly non-transferable, taking friends in their place isn't an option.

I think the idea of taking friends in their place isn't to recover the cost of the non transferable tickets, but just so she has someone to go with. And, they could help pay for the hotel room.

I sure hope your family changes their mind! I can't imagine how disappointed you must be after planning this and even getting a job to earn the money! I would be devastated!

 

[Sammie]

Everyone might want to read the update to the OP's situation. She posted this on the resorts forum.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1305442

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I feel so bad. I hope everything works our for her. I can only imagine how difficult it must be. Sending hugs.

 

[almburr]

If they refuse and DH wont make them, you go have a great time, And as you walk out the door tell them i am not bringing you back anything. OH! by the way no new shoes, clothes, movies, etc.. all the money that was wasted on your portion of tickets has to come from somewhere.

 

[akhenaten]

Op:

I don't know if you will come back to this thread....but to you.

it really is good that you had just gone back to work...I know that as a SAHM for the past 17 years ..i am nervous about going back...

I can't believe your hubbie did this to you...especially at the holidays...
just so awful....

 

[Mcbruns]

I have been reading everyone's rsponses and there are some good solutions here. Where is the OP and why would she post it in 2 different spots and not come back here to share what the outcome is? I'm curious . . . . . . . . . .