Our first heartbreak

[sPaRkLeSpAz]

Awww, hugs to your ds. He sounds like a very sweet boy. =]

 

[Pooh93]

Your poor DS. That breaks my heart for him. Kids can be so mean. My dd is in 5th grade and was down that nobody would send her a valentine that the student council was selling during the lunch periods. I happened to be up at school the other day and gave money for a couple to be sent to her and youngest from us and their grandpa. I hate this kind of stuff and can remember never getting anything either when I was in school.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I REALLY wish they wouldn't do things like that in school. I was one of the girls who never got a flower or whatever they were selling and it was just torture. IMHO, it only points out the popular kids and labels all the others losers.

to your DS, poor guy

Same here. I never got anything.

I'm sorry for your son, OP.

 

[piglet50]

i don't think they should allow stuff like that in school. i agree with some of the above posters, there's already enough stuff to make kids feel bad about their self, why add something else. tell your son that there's someone out there that's just as special as he is. he will find her one day - or she will find him.

 

[TigerCheer2009]

Hugs to your sweet son!

He'll find someone who's got a good heart who love him for who he is...some kids can be so mean.

In fact, he gets a bouquet.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

I'm so sorry to hear about your little guy!

And hugs to you too, mom, because from one mom to another I know as hard as this is on him, you're taking it even harder.

 

[qtwns]

Your DS is a strong, kind, thoughtful, gutsy young man. Those qualities will get him so much farther in life (and love ) than any qualities little miss eye-roller has!

And Mom--hats off to you. I have a 10 yr. old DS and I know how hard it is to see your baby hurt.

 

[golfgal]

So sorry for your poor DS.

They do this at my DD's middle school, but in a better way....

The students can order carnations ahead of time (this was done last week). Each carnation costs $1.00. When a student orders, he has to write down the name of the last period class that the receiver has. Then, later in the week, the carnations are delivered to student's classrooms. This was done last Friday, not today.

This would have worked out better for your DS...he would not have been there when she received it.

This is how we did it when I was in jr high. I was really surprised when he said they had to deliver them in person. They also said they ran out after 10 minutes this morning so they obviously didn't plan ahead very well.

DS is the sweetest kid and is at that awkward stage where his feet are too big for his body, etc. I told him that after he graduates from Notre Dame with a huge basketball contract (his dream right now) he can look her up and say 'see what you missed out on". He laughed at that so that was good.

 

[blue_river]

awww...that's so heartbreaking

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

They were selling flowers at the middle school today for kids to give to other kids and DS11 gave one to a girl who he thought was nice. He is kind of a shy kid so it took some effort on his part. She rolled her eyes at him . Nice girl, not. He was crying about it tonight. My poor baby .

Awwwwwwwwww!!!! What a sweetheart your son is! It is her loss!!!

 

[Serena]

Aww, poor guy. It's her loss and one day she'll realize it.

 

[mytwotinks]

I think it is wrong for the school to be pushing "romance" on our kids. I just can't imagine this going well at that age. That girl may have just felt very awkward and acted the way she did because she was nervous and didn't know how to act. I just don't think 11 year olds are mature enough to be anything more than friends with the opposite sex.

I feel so bad for your son. He probably really had to force himself to do that if he is shy. You should get him that "how do you like me now" song and have him play it over and over. I wish that when a kid is 11 they knew that their world would be so much bigger in a few years.

 

[Tine731]

I REALLY wish they wouldn't do things like that in school. I was one of the girls who never got a flower or whatever they were selling and it was just torture. IMHO, it only points out the popular kids and labels all the others losers.

to your DS, poor guy

Ditto. I remember all to well how it felt to not to get a valentine.

 

[mrsv98]

Not to hijack this thread but it is comforting to see all the other girls who weren't in the popular crowd.

And we all survived and I have a wonderful DH (who sends me flowers : ) and a beautiful DD. With any luck, I will be better equiped to help her thru those torturous years because of my experiences.

 

[HunnyPots]

I'm sorry but 11 is just waaaaaaaay too young to be buying flowers for each other on valentines day. Chances are, this little girl was embarassed by the attention and just reacted without thinking of how it would make your son feel. Honestly, what are people thinking by pushing "romance" on children? I know at 11 my dd would have been totally embarassed and confused by a boy giving her flowers or expressing his affection for her in any way. Not that I am blaming your son at all. I'm sorry he got his feelings hurt. My son would have reacted the exact same way. I just think we are asking for trouble by putting children in situations that they are in no way ready to handle.

 

[lorimc]

When I was in middle school , kids would send FLOWER ARRANGEMENTS and BALLOONS to school to their boyfriends/girlfriends!
What kind of insanity is that!?! We are talking about 11 year olds, 12 year olds.....and I know a dollar canrantion is one things but $25 + is a bit much for middle schoolers. And you know that the parents were probably footing the bill. Flame away, I just don't think it is appropriate for the age. High school, it makes more sense.

To the OP- Sorry about your son; it is such a hard age ! But what guts and courage and maturity to be able to deliver them in person! One day he will find his !

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I REALLY wish they wouldn't do things like that in school. I was one of the girls who never got a flower or whatever they were selling and it was just torture. IMHO, it only points out the popular kids and labels all the others losers.

I agree. I always hated Valentine's Day in middle/high school. What an awkward time of life and one I wouldn't want to back to for any amount of money.

 

[TSM1993]

 

[Jennasis]

Sorry you'r son was hurt...

BUT, these kids are just 11 years old. The little girl was probably embarassed as all get out to have been given a flower (even if she liked him or was friends with him, but especially if she didn't).

I am horrified that she's been called a witch, mean, and that "she'll get hers someday", or come to realize that it was "her loss"....SHE'S ELEVEN!!!

I never recieved a flower in middle school or junior high or high school because I was supremely not popular. However upsetting that was, I still would have been embarassed to receive one. At 11 years old, a boy giving a girl a flower or a card or whatever will INSTANTLY result in merciless teasing from friends (Susie and Billy sittin' in a tree).

Again, sorry your little guy took it so hard, but I certainly understand and FORGIVE 100% the little girl.

 

[lesroi]

I agree with this. There is way too much pressure on kids in school to be liked, to fit in...no one needs to leave themselves open for rejection. Just like our schools here no longer let kids pass out Valentine cards, it hurts too many feelings I'm sorry for your son, that kind of rejection hurts and can always be remembered

When I was a kid (in the dark ages) in gradeschool, we all made shoeboxes decorated for Valentine's day and set them out on our desks. Each child would bring in those dime-store Valentines for everyone else (and candy and whatnot) and put it in their shoeboxes. I don't see why kids don't do this anymore. Do they really not? If not, it's sad. That was all in good fun for everyone. I guess it also taught us inclusion.

They never sold stuff at my junior-high. I just think that is pushing it. Of course, I was never allowed to date until I was 16 anyway so I don't agree with all the kids "going out" at 10-11 years old. It kind of turns my stomach.

I am sad for your son, but I also can't understand children this young giving gifts of love. Why do we make them grow up so fast?


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