Our Emotional Rollercoaster

[va32h]

In the last six months, my husband has been told he is going to Iraq, he isn't going to Iraq, he's going to Afghanistan, and now as of today, he isn't going anywhere, but that could change too.

You'd think I'd be used to this by now, but it's been very draining to go from sad to happy to sad to happy and never knowing should we tell the kids, should we wait, should we make summer plans, etc.

I would just like to know either way, so I will know how I am supposed to feel.

 

[PirateKitty]

My future sister-in-law is going through the same thing with her husband. He's been to Afghanistan three times. He was just told he's going to Iraq, but that could change at any moment. Prayers to you and your family having to go through this.

 

[Disney Ella]

It must be rough not knowing what's going to happen next with your lives. I hope they decide something definite soon.

 

[stacy347]

I can't even imagine how difficult and emotionally draining that must be for you guys! Hope you get a solid answer soon so you can make some plans!

 

[Saphire]

I opened this because I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster...DD is receiving letters from colleges and trying to figure out where she will go. HOWEVER, this is nothing compared to the waiting game you face, never mind the wait and worry if he must go. How difficult it must be to not know what will be happening next month or this summer. I hope you get your final answers soon! Thank you to you and your DH and family for being willing to live under such uncertainty, thank you for that sacrifice.

 

[Allison]

Honestly, I can't even imagine.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I am so sorry for what you guys are having to endure. Big hugs to you.

 

[va32h]

Well, thank you everyone. It's just frustrating. It's one of those things where the waiting is worse than the outcome.

I mean, he's gone twice before, and of course we know how miserable it is going to be, but we'd resigned ourselves to it this time, and I had planned all sorts of activities and trips for the kids to help the time fly and keep their minds off it (and mine too).

Now I don't know whether to go forward with those plans or not. The kids and I had thoroughly expected to pack up and move out west to stay near my family - I hadn't even picked schools for my kids next year!

Knowing the worst is better than not knowing, I think. And that's true for college admissions too! Or just about anything.

 

[SplshMtn99]

I hate this part about military life too. Basically, we put our lives on hold until they figure out what they heck they are doing.

While not as dangerous a mission, we went thru something similar with DH going to New Orleans for Katrina. We were physically packed & about ready to walk out the door for Labor Day weekend, when they called & said you are leaving tomorrow. Cancelled all plans; unpacked & quickly packed him up ready to leave the next day for the unknown. They cancelled. Then for the next 3 weeks, it was, you are leaving, you are not leaving, you are leaving, you are not leaving. Several times, I kissed him good bye, he left for Edwards AFB, loaded the plane with supplies, and they STILL ended up cancelling. I get home from work...and he's back. WTH??? I finally gave up telling anyone --- and didn't tell them until after he finally had set foot in New Orleans.

Then of course, we had no idea when he would be back either.

Hang in there.... you are not alone. But it sure sucks not being able to plan anything.