Our Daughter Got Married Sunday, Sort Of

MIGrandma

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Some of you may remember my DD had breast cancer about 3 years ago at age 42, went through a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. After she was cancer free her life was changed. She was not happy in her marriage and said she didn’t survive cancer to stay in an unhappy marriage of almost 20 years. So they divorced. She just got remarried on Sunday morning . But as I said, sort of. They hit a big snag as his birth certificate was destroyed. He was born in Canada so had contacted who he needed to about getting a replacement copy. He jumped through all their hoops, even paid an extra fee for having it expedited. But, just a few days before the ceremony he called them again as he still had not received it and was told, “ oh, we put you at the back of the line as we take care of Canadians first.” 😠. Wow. So, they went ahead with the ceremony even though they couldn’t get the license, and it was lovely. Held at a beautiful venue, on a river, ceremony was outdoors with close family and friends only.

The groomsmen were the groom’s two sons and the bride’s son. The oldest of the groom’s sons almost wasn’t able to make it to the wedding as he is 17, plays high school football, and severely broke his leg during the first game 3 weeks ago. He also had compartment syndrome and almost lost his leg. He got out of the hospital 3 days before the wedding, and of course was in a wheelchair, and had tubes in his leg with a machine removing the yucky stuff. But we were all so happy he could be there. The bridesmaids were the bride‘s daughter and groom’s two daughters. As the ceremony began there was a large puzzle on an easel, with two pieces of the puzzle representing the bride and groom. As the kids came down the aisle two by two, they each put the puzzle piece they were carrying onto the easel to complete the puzzle. Each piece was a photo of a crow, which represented the bride, the groom, and each of the kids. This all came from the couple finding a set of crows at a shop when they were dating. A mama, papa and four babies. So they wanted to carry that through during the ceremony❤️

The reception was lovely, a mimosa and Bloody Mary bar with fruits, cheeses and crackers during the picture taking. Then a brunch with live music. All the kids had written speeches, and many were wiping away tears as they gave them. Love for their actual parent, and the new parent, was very evident.

So now they wait for the birth certificate to show up. Then they can complete the legal part, and either go to the court house or DH can marry them as he got his certificate a few weeks ago to be able to officiate weddings . Our oldest granddaughter is getting married next month and he will be the officiant to marry them.

We are just so happy to see our daughter happy again. They make a wonderful family❤️
 

Congratulations! I'm thrilled that everything is working out so well for your family, even down to the groom's son making it out of the hospital in time for the wedding! I know that feeling, sort of. My dad and I run an interactive theater show together, and he got out of the hospital just in time for Citywide Auditions (a big audition where all the directors in town see actors for their upcoming shows). He was dragging an oxygen tank with him, but he made it.

Just a suggestion, but maybe when the birth certificate comes, your DH could marry them in a quiet ceremony in one of their favorite places. My ex and I were both from FL but living in NOLA when we got married. We decided to have a private official ceremony under the Dueling Oaks in City Park, officiated by a good friend who was a tarot reader on Jackson Square (and had his officiant's license). Then a few weeks later we had a big ceremony on Daytona Beach with all our friends and family. Both were incredibly meaningful in different ways Maybe your daughter could do the same sort of thing in reverse?

Best of luck to everyone, no matter what they decide. So happy the future is looking so bright!
 
Congratulations! I'm thrilled that everything is working out so well for your family, even down to the groom's son making it out of the hospital in time for the wedding! I know that feeling, sort of. My dad and I run an interactive theater show together, and he got out of the hospital just in time for Citywide Auditions (a big audition where all the directors in town see actors for their upcoming shows). He was dragging an oxygen tank with him, but he made it.

Just a suggestion, but maybe when the birth certificate comes, your DH could marry them in a quiet ceremony in one of their favorite places. My ex and I were both from FL but living in NOLA when we got married. We decided to have a private official ceremony under the Dueling Oaks in City Park, officiated by a good friend who was a tarot reader on Jackson Square (and had his officiant's license). Then a few weeks later we had a big ceremony on Daytona Beach with all our friends and family. Both were incredibly meaningful in different ways Maybe your daughter could do the same sort of thing in reverse?

Best of luck to everyone, no matter what they decide. So happy the future is looking so bright!
Thank you so much! Your idea for doing the legal part is great, it sounds exactly like what our daughter would want. I’m glad your Dad was ably to make it to the audition too🙂
 
Aw...congratulations! The ceremony sounded lovely. The puzzle was a great idea. Sorry about the red tape, but at least the day wasn't ruined. I hope for good health and love for all!
 
@MIGrandma Thank you so much for sharing such a lovely story! CONGRATULATIONS to EVERYONE!

Double ceremonies are becoming more and more common. DD and SIL were married in a small beach ceremony just before she started her grad school program, because she was required to have health insurance, and the insurance the school offered was expensive and crappy. We had rented a small cottage about a block from the ocean for 2 weeks, and they got married while we were there. It was the 2 of them, DD's close friend (who officiated) and her husband, me, DH, my sister (who is DD's godmother and lives locally) and my sister's 2 girls (who are like DD's sisters). DD had a lovely boho hippie white dress and I made her a bouquet and a flower garland for her hair, and we found a clearing on the beach which had a backdrop of beach roses. They got married, and at the end of the ceremony my 2 nieces signed the license as the witnesses. DD and SIL walked in the shallow water on the way back to our cottage, and everyone was cheering and clapping as they walked by. It was lovely... and I'm still not sure how many people know about it, as DD/SIL had their wedding, as planned, in early October that year, with about 50 people in attendance, complete with woodfired pizza truck, apps table, growlers of beer, and a fire pit for s'mores!
 
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Sounds like it was a beautiful day! :love: Congratulations to them! pixiedust:
Thank you for sharing your story too, I’m glad it all worked out for them. And double the memories 🙂

Oops, replied to the wrong post. Supposed to be for Leebee ☺️
 
@MIGrandma Thank you so much for sharing such a lovely story! CONGRATULATIONS to EVERYONE!

Double ceremonies are becoming more and more common. DD and SIL were married in a small beach ceremony just before she started her grad school program, because she was required to have health insurance, and the insurance the school offered was expensive and crappy. We had rented a small cottage about a block from the ocean for 2 weeks, and they got married while we were there. It was the 2 of them, DD's close friend (who officiated) and her husband, me, DH, my sister (who is DD's godmother and lives locally) and my sister's 2 girls (who are like DD's sisters). DD had a lovely boho hippie white dress and I made her a bouquet and a flower garland for her hair, and we found a clearing on the beach which had a backdrop of beach roses. They got married, and at the end of the ceremony my 2 nieces signed the license as the witnesses. DD and SIL walked in the shallow water on the way back to our cottage, and everyone was cheering and clapping as they walked by. It was lovely... and I'm still not sure how many people know about it, as DD/SIL had their wedding, as planned, in early October that year, with about 50 people in attendance, complete with woodfired pizza truck, apps table, growlers of beer, and a fire pit for s'mores!
See the post above this. I goofed😁
 
Well Vital Statistics is provincial not national so it would depend on which province he is from.

Congrats OP to your daughter!
Not to mention everyone that is born in Canada is Canadian (legally). So the statement back to him is beyond strange.

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OP, congratulations to your daughter. Love sent to you all with going through so much.

Can only imagine how lovely it was to celebrate her happiness.
 
So much wonderfullness with your post. I’m so happy for your DD, you and your family. Congratulations and God’s blessings to you all.
 
Not to mention everyone that is born in Canada is Canadian (legally). So the statement back to him is beyond strange.

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OP, congratulations to your daughter. Love sent to you all with going through so much.

Can only imagine how lovely it was to celebrate her happiness.
Would he still have his Canadian citizenship if he became an American citizen though?
 



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