lmountford
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Have you actually every seen any college kids from Europe? They clearly have a problem with alcohol.
Having been a college kid from Europe ( many moons ago) I can assure that I didn't and I don't
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Have you actually every seen any college kids from Europe? They clearly have a problem with alcohol.
I agree that giving her whiskey, when she clearly did not want it, was wrong and sent her the wrong message. What will happen when a peer offers it to her....she probably will think she can't say no, especially if she can't say no to her father.
I would assume based solely on my experience with exchange students and relatives from Europe that there are people with alcohol problems. I merely meant that Europeans are not without their share of alcohol problems. Alcoholism is not based on how you are raised.Having been a college kid from Europe ( many moons ago) I can assure that I didn't and I don't
Alcoholism is not based on how you are raised.
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In Wisconsin, children are allowed to drink beer and wine if accompanied with their parents.
Wisconsin also leads the country in alcoholism and drunk driving so I don't think the lax laws are anything to be proud about.
WWYD?
It doesn't sound like these people are buying into the "European culture where drinking is no big deal". It sounds like they're pushing alcohol on a child who doesn't want it.WWYD? I was at a family birthday party and I see one of the dad's offer his 13 year old daughter a sip of his alcohol (he had a shot glass of whiskey). She turns him down, and he says "go ahead and smell it". She smells it. He then says "go ahead and take a sip". She takes a sip even though she clearly doesn't want to. Both the mom and dad are very open with alcohol and even have no problem letting their toddlers take a sip of a beer. The mom loves to serve the other kids at the party non-alcoholic dacquari drinks in real martini glasses. They come from a european culture where drinking is no big deal.
I find it very disturbing, but it's really none of my business. These people are extended family members so I can't avoid them. Yet, watching stuff like this makes me so mad! What would you do?
All parents teach their children about alcohol. The lessons begin from the moment the child is old enough to understand that a glass of wine or a beer isn't the same thing as a Coke. If the parent practices moderation, the child will learn that this is the proper way to drink. If the parent considers it "okay" to get behind the wheel after having a couple, the child will believe this in spite of what his driver's ed teacher tells him. If the child sees his mother pass out glasses of wine to all the adults, but a glass of juice to his pregnant aunt, he's going to understand that drinking during pregnancy is bad.I'm all for parents teaching their kids how to responsibly enjoy alcohol, but a father forcing his daughter to try his whiskey doesn't sound like he is teaching her anything other that to be a pushover!
No means no. For God's sake, you should not have to worry about "peer pressure" coming from your parents!
Oh really? Nobody in all of Portugal ever drives after they drink or gets a little angry after drinking? Get real.
Oh really?
I'm all for parents teaching their kids how to responsibly enjoy alcohol, but a father forcing his daughter to try his whiskey doesn't sound like he is teaching her anything other that to be a pushover!
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In Wisconsin, children are allowed to drink beer and wine if accompanied with their parents.
Wisconsin also leads the country in alcoholism and drunk driving so I don't think the lax laws are anything to be proud about.
I don't necessarily think it is so much "lax laws" that make the difference between the US and Europe, but the cultural treatment of alcohol in general. changing the law doesn't help if alcohol is still viewed as taboo. The social stigma makes it into something teens want to do to assert their independence. Take away the stigma and the motivation to rebel goes with it b/c there is nothing to rebel agianst.
No means no. For God's sake, you should not have to worry about "peer pressure" coming from your parents!
Oh really? Nobody in all of Portugal ever drives after they drink or gets a little angry after drinking? Get real.
Oh really?
I'm all for parents teaching their kids how to responsibly enjoy alcohol, but a father forcing his daughter to try his whiskey doesn't sound like he is teaching her anything other that to be a pushover!
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Have you actually every seen any college kids from Europe? They clearly have a problem with alcohol.
The cycle of unhealthy relationships with alcohol has to be broken somewher along the chain. Parents with an unhealthy relatinoship with alcohol need to fix it for the sake of their kids just like children with abusive parents have to break the cycle of abuse with their own kids by exhibiting healthy behavior.That's assuming that the parents, themselves, have a healthy relationship with alcohol. Too many times, in my experience, it's the parents who don't have a healthy relationship with alcohol, that encourage their kids to try it, and think it's cute or funny. I don't agree with letting children try alcohol, just like I don't agree with letting children drive cars or smoke cigarettes. Not sure what OP could do about the situation, other than talk to her own kids about why she believes it wrong.
I tend to disagree with the above statement (in Bold). We chose to raise our children in an alcohol-free enviroment. We don't allow it on the property, we don't allow ppl who have been drinking in our home, etc.. We have 5 children-ages 29, 24, 21, 16 and 8, plus our adopted son who is 19 and just left in Jan for the Air Force. None of them drink, none of them have tried it and those that are out on their own, don't allow it on their property. Yes, they have friends who drink and our children are the responsible ones as they are always the DD when they are out with friends. In our case, we have always been have had an open communication with our children and it seems to work well.
As to the OP, I wouldn't say anything unless it was directly affecting me or my immediate family. If it was on our property or offered to our children, then I would say something. But I would surely talk to my children about what they had witnessed and why it is wrong.
I actually feel sorry for that lil girl, she clearly didn't want any part of the alcohol but out of respect for her father, she did what she was asked.
Funny I have always worried about peer pressure from my children's friends pushing them into drinking and here is this child having to deal with it from her father. Kinda like teaching her to cave into pressure, don't you think?
From my experience in the universe, I'd say that if your kids really don't drink as grown people, then you have been exceedingly lucky. Because most people that I have known in my life who are raised utterly without alcohol have the biggest binging problems. Count your lucky stars.
You are lucky if you have kids that don't drink b/c in my experience the kids of parents who completely forbid alcohol were the first ones to overdo it in college. I just don't feel like forbiding alcohol does any good at all.
I actually can't think of anyone I know that has gotten drunk, binged, passed out etc. I don't know anyone who has used drugs (illegal, obviously).
wow that is quite a blanket statment. I have seen college kids from Portugal and no they don't have the drinking problems that they do here in the states.
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Have you actually every seen any college kids from Europe? They clearly have a problem with alcohol.
What would you do?
They come from a european culture where drinking is no big deal.
Not to start a huge debate, but how come I can send my 18 year old to war but he can't drink a beer legally until he's 21? I mean, this is how it's been for quite awhile but I think that's where the binge drinking in college comes from. "Oh I'm not 'allowed' until I'm 21, so I'll drink all I can until I am legal".