OT: Miscarriage Support

[Mimi Q]

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm so sorry! What a tough thing to deal with and dealing alone is extra hard.

I do have a question--was the other miscarriage a pregnancy right before this one? I ask because I've had lots of miscarriages--3 just before having my youngest child and it turned out my progesterone was low. I was able to get pregnant easily, but wasn't able to stay pregnant. Might be something to look into, especially if the last m/c was just before this one.

 

[malibuconlee]

I'm so sorry this has happened. Please call your physician's office. They should be able to point you in the right direction for any help available in your area.

I can't imagine how tough this must be for you to be going thru at this already difficult time.

Are you close with any of the other wives from your husband's unit? How about talking with them as they at least know how you feel in regards to your husband living away. Maybe you could be each other's support while they are gone?

 

[skiwee1]

So sorry! I know what you are going through too. I had 9 miscarriages before finally having our 3rd child. I found this board to be a huge help.
http://www.inciid.com/index.php?page=forums

 

[4cruisin]

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot say that I know what your are going through because I don't. Everyone's situation is different. My dear friend suffered a miscarriage last year after undergoing several IVF's and was devastated. She withdrew from everyone around her and it was so painful for her. Please talk to a professional that can refer you to a support group. It must be so hard for you not to have your DH home.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[mookie]

to you. I know exactly how you feel - I suffered multiple m/c's myself. I've found the boards at www.fertilethoughts.com to be helpful. Also www.idreamofbaby.com.

I also 2nd Tigger&Belle, in talking to your dr about this not happening again. I went to a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) who ran several tests to see if there was a reason for my M/C's. Turns out I have a blood clotting gene mutation, and low progesterone supply (the 2nd of the two is quite common, and easily fixed with supplements.) If they can pinpoint the problem, you can easily go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for you. Please also make sure you talk to a professional, so you can get any medical help you might need. There are lots of coping options out there. Feel free to pm me anytime if you need to talk - I know how hard and frustrating this is.

 

[budbeerlady]

Hugs to you, it is the worst thing I have ever gone through and I wish no one ever had to go through it!!!! I didnt seek any help at the time, thought I could handle it on my own. Bad idea, get help if you need it, I didnt want to talk to a stranger but I was a mess for a while (found out I cannot take vicadin the hard way) and it took quite a toll on Dh as it was my second miscarriage also and we didnt have dd yet. Take care of yourself and dont do it all alone.

 

[4greatboys]

Im so sorry for your loss. We had a mc between ds #2 and ds#3. It was a very difficult time.
I do agree babycenter is a good place. There are always lots of ladies in chat too and you always find some with experiences similar to your own.

 

[MyLittlePony123]

Thanks again to everyone for the wonderful support.

My first m/c was before my oldest child was born (10 yrs ago). I do have a genetic clotting disorder - similar to DVT - and am also being treated for thyroid issues - both of those factors along with my age put me at a greater risk for m/c. This pregnancy was a complete surprise - I was actually supposed to have a hysterectomy a few months ago but postponed the surgery. DH and I had talked back then about being "done" but when this surprise came along we welcomed it with open arms (after the shock wore off).

I have confided in 2 of my close friends but both are out of state - there is no one local that I feel remotely close to. I have spoken with another friend who is a Psychologist by phone several times but she is out of state as well. DH has spoken with the chaplain where he is so I am grateful that he is getting support too. DH also has arranged for us to see each other for Valentine's Day for a quick visit - I am SO counting the days until that.

Most of the support sites seem to deal with people who are TTC after a m/c and that is not really my case at all. I'll be checking out all the sites everyone posted - I do appreciate it!

Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers. I know it will get better - I just want it to get better now.

 

[laurajetter]

I just found this site which has a ton of links to potentially helpful pages.

 

[mookie]

Thanks again to everyone for the wonderful support.

My first m/c was before my oldest child was born (10 yrs ago). I do have a genetic clotting disorder - similar to DVT - and am also being treated for thyroid issues - both of those factors along with my age put me at a greater risk for m/c.

If you do decide to try again, you might want to consider Lovenox shots for your clotting during your pregnancy. I know that's what saved us. It might be just what you need to sustain a pregnancy. A shot a day isn't fun, but it's worth it in the long run!

Again, feel free to PM me if you have any questions. Right now, I just hope you get better for you. That's great that you'll be able to see the DH, it might help to be together.

 

[jensenba]

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been there. I just went through my 4th a few months ago. Three of them were pretty severe. In fact I just finished chemotherapy last week as a result of my most recent one. For me it helped to just be able to talk to anyone who I felt cared. Also, with my first three I refused to cry in public or when anyone but DH was arround. After finding out that I needed Chemo with this last one I couldn't turn the tears off. And I am finding my self more emotional these days than ever (and I was a ball baby before ) Feel free to PM me if you need to chat/vent/cry. I have a well trained ear and a soft shoulder if you need it.

Take care