OT- Major Vent about something at my DD school

kpadalik

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I totally know that I will feel so much better after I get this vent out of my system. It may be a little long, so hang in there! Background info: My DD6 had her kindergarten school play this evening. It was called "Bugs" and all 170 kids dressed as different kinds of bugs (army ants, bees, spiders, etc.) My DD was a butterfly. They have been practicing their lines and songs and dances for several weeks. My DD and I worked very hard making her beautiful butterfly wings - she was psyched!

What a night it was! Since this is the first year their school has done a K play, I guess they didn't realize what the turnout was going to be. Well they completely underestimated the amount of people/family members that were going to be there. It was standing room only by 6:00 and by 6:30 the cafeteria was bursting with people. It was ridiculous. Well I (along with a few other people) had the brilliant idea of sitting on the floor in front of the first row of people. Great seats, right? Wrong! When all 170 kindergarteners filed in, they sat on the steps of the stage, on risers at the back of the stage and risers on the floor by the side of the stage. Well, this wasn't enough to hold all of the kids because I had about 20 little kids stand right in front of me with their back to the audience so they could watch the teacher who was leading the songs and dance. So I stared at butts the whole time. :scared1: Then, right before the play started, DH thought it was a brilliant idea to give me the video camera. Um, HELLO! I already had the digital camera AND DD19mos. on my lap. Are you kidding me?!!!!!! There were so many people, I couldn't even see where my DD had disappeared to.:confused3 Well, because I was juggling so many things, I totally missed when she got up to say her lines (not like I could see her very well anyway). I think I recorded maybe the last line of what she memorized. There were a ton of kids that came up to the microphone in groups of twos or threes and there were some that came up by themselves to recite their lines. You could barely hear any of the kids b/c they spoke so quietly (even w/ the mic) and mumbled the words together. I figured DD would end up playing the "shy" game and not say her lines very clearly. However, she said them PERFECTLY! She said them nice and loud, slowly and clearly and the whole audience was like "awwww" and did the little chuckling thing. We were so proud of her! :cheer2:

At this point, her attitude totally did a 180. She sat on the steps of the stage w/ a scowl on her face, even crying once. :sad1: She stood up when it was time to sing and dance but she just stood there. Apparently some kids were making fun of her wings and I have no idea why. (Her aunt told her after the fact that the kids were just jealous). She did have the best wings out there, if I do say so myself! Well, she took that to heart and was in a bad mood the whole rest of the play. Even when I picked her up from her class, she was sitting at her seat upset. Her teacher :teacher: and I exchanged a knowing look, DD collected her things and we left. THEN she decided to smile and run and play. Ugggghhhh!

So after a totally overcrowded cafeteria/auditorium, a grumpy butterfly, juggling two cameras and a 19 month old, and a rude old man standing in front of me trying to take pictures of his grandson (he had to be escorted to another part of the room by the asst principal b/c of his rudeness), it was a very long night. That man just shrugged me off when I asked him nicely to sit down. :headache:

Now here's the kicker...wait for it...:eek:

I am so glad that I don't know how to throw a punch because I probably would have decked the lady sitting a few seats down from me. Unaware that DD belonged to me, she made the comment "That little butterfly up there is a nasty little girl. All she's done is scowl and cry the whole time." I exchanged a few choice words with her and told her to keep her comments to herself. Then she told me that "she's ruining the play. She's front and center and she's just standing there." ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!! :mad::mad::mad:Where do these people come from? I was so angry I was shaking. It was probably HER kid that was making fun of DD's wings. :snooty:

So the night was a total wash. I don't even know if I have any good pictures and the video of it is basically just of people's butts and the occasional peek at DD through the throngs of kids. So another day goes by. I just wish that DD would have had a better time - she had practiced her songs and her lines for so long and was so excited...I'm so sad.

Thanks for letting me vent...I feel much better now! :)
 
So sorry it was not the night you hoped for. Sadly, in my experience, you will hear stupid comments like this until DD is out of school, or you are not longer around school to bear witness :)

Parents can be an awful bunch. Many people have the attitude that their child is THE MOST special/important/talented/you name it. It is funny what things like this bring out in people.

It used to drive me crazy (still does, if I am being honest), but I try hard to brush it off as 'stupid behavior I don't need to waste time on.' That is relatively easy for me to do when 'comments' are made, harder when people are blocking my view or keeping me from being able to see what my child is accomplishing.

Hope it made you feel better to vent, that usually works for me too. I have also found it easier to take as child #2 went to school - it helps when you know what to expect.
 
Welcome to the world of elementary school....

I am really sorry you had such a bad experience but in the long run I promise you will have so many wonderful memories that this will become the story you tell to get everyone laughing... Every parent has one!!

Unfortunately the teasing of children will continue all through HS as you probably know having experienced it yourself. What kid hasn't been teased but the parent comments are a new experience and unfortunately they won't end either... There is always a parent with a comment about something and it can be frustrating and ridiculous but it's part of the parent rose colored glasses some parents wear. Ignore their immaturity cause there is nothing else you can do and you will be teaching DD a great lesson on letting things roll of the back.

I bet she was the most beautiful butterfly in the world... Are there pictures??
 
That does suck. I have had those kinds of moms since my son was in Little Gym. I let it roll off my back. No point in gettng upset at jerks. You and I have a long way to go I am afraid. Hang in there. I wish it had went better for you and DD. (HUG)
 

Hello,

I am a music teacher. I have 200 Kindergarteners and I have produced the musical "Bugs" twice! It really is a cute show.

I feel your pain. As a teacher, we want all the children to feel special and present the hard work they have done. Parents need to know that the under 10 crowd WILL do the unexpected. I have had kids that were perfect at practice who completely froze. I have had kids that never moved a muscle at rehearsals shine and be complete, dramatic fun actors during the show. I have had kids throw up from nervousness. I have had kids run off the stage due to fear. . .

I am so sorry for the comments this mother made. That was uncalled for and surprises me that she wouldn't know that is normal behavior for a Kindergarten student.

As far as the crowd - I know that issue as well. My shows are alwasy standing room only and when we hit 200 kids, I began doing TWO shows. I do 6 classes at one show and 5 at the other. This helps tremendously. You might suggest that to the teacher in a nice way. I appreciate when parents give nice suggestions (not pushy or complaining way - but helpful).

I used to have the website from when I did the Bugs show, but I have deleted it now. You can see pictures from my show last year here:
http://www.parisssd.org/~hawkins/kindergartenrocks.htm .

My show this year is next Tuesday. :)

One thing you might do is have your DD wear the same thing she did to the show one school day and get some pics of her with her teacher at least, and maybe even stage a shot in front of the mic? Just a thought.

:goodvibes
Angie
 
:grouphug::grouphug: to you.

I know how you feel. I've had a similar thing happen last weekend when a rude adult has said something about my son in front of me. The worst part is that she tried being nice to me later after she realized that I was standing there in the group. Your heart just breaks.
 















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