OT - Looking for other DISers who are trying to conceive (TTC).

[mom2faith]

Hi all,

I was just looking for other DISers who are trying to start or add to their families. If you are, you know that sometime you just want to talk about it, and I am having one of those days. I was hoping we could make a little support group for each other.

Here is my background:

TTC #1 for about 11 months with no AF for most of that time (Pretty hard to try then, right?). After a couple of rounds of clomid, found out my Prolactim levels were through ther roof. Went on Parlodel and was PG within 4 months.

My AF has been regular since I stopped nursing DD#1 (about 4 years ago now). However, since 12/2006 we have not been able to get PG even though AF was normal. Went to DR in January and guess what - my prolactin levels were extreme again so I am on Parlodel again.

So, here I am thinking well since AF was normal all along, it should only take a month or so to get a BFP, right? I feel like I am under a lot of stress right now as we really wanted to be PG before DD starts kindergarden. We have agreed that we are not doing this for years and years, we are just going to accept our one child family. But I really want this to happen!!

So here I am at that point in the month where all I am doing is waiting. Waiting for AF or 10 DPO whichever comes first. I hate this time as there is nothing I can do.

I believe I ovulated on Thursday, but the Parlodel did knock me a little out of whack, so I am not 100% sure. AF is due on Sunday, so every morning I have to talk my self out of taking a PG test (I am sure many of you know exactly what I am talking about!!). I know I can take one tomorrow, but I do not want to take one until Sunday morning. I hate this!! This month feels like it is it, but I do not want to be disappointed. I know the Parlodel is wrecking havoc on my hormones, and that I might be in for a bit let down, but still.....

Anyways, another TTC mommies or hoping-to-be mommies understand - THIS IS THE WORST WEEK OF THE MONTH!!!

Whew glad to get that out there

 

[poohteacher]

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. It's horrible. We went through many years of infertility. They never found a reason. We went through 7 IUI's with chlomid, then with injections etc. I've been through 5 IVF's and a miscarriage- but, the bright side is I have two beautiful lttle girls now (from IVF #2 and IVF #5) I know there's not much I can say to make it better, but I pray things work out for you.

 

[MyZoeJane]

The two week wait is a beotch.

Are you temping? Using OPKs? I imagine that if you've resorted to drugs, you've done that already, huh?

I have ludicrisly long cycles (43 days on average) so the five cycles it took for us to concieve this time were miserable to wait through.

I temped with a BBT faithfully on a daily basis at the same time each morning before getting out of bed. Knowing exactly when I ovulated made the daily stress of TTC a little better because it reduced the possibility down to a window of about 5 days out of 43.

I hope the drugs works quickly for you!

 

[3huskymom]

We've been trying since September with no luck. No problems getting pregnant with our daughter but it's been a struggle this time around.

How long should we wait before I call the doctor? Will they want to check anything before we've been trying for a year?

 

[disneybridetobe]

Ugh! Tell me about it! We've been trying for 13 months, with one miscarriage in December. Last month was an unsuccessful Clomid month, I got AF yesterday, AF stopped today. I made an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist, but my insurance doesnt cover anything other than the diagnostic visit. So, I don't know what to do about that, since nothing can come of it.

We just rescheduled our Disney trip, so maybe we'll get a little pixie dust and come home with a souvenir. I know, I know, keep dreaming, Kim. Keep dreaming. ::sigh:: I might go back to the herbal route again.

 

[ehrn]

I have PCOS, conceived ds age 4 after losing quite a bit of weight, but the pcos caught up w/me again even though i've kept the wt off. just miscarried twins conceived on first rd ivf 3 weeks ago, it's been a really rough few weeks. we do plan to try again but it's expensive(even w/ins) and a lot of work, hormonal havoc etc. Yes, since my son, every time we have gone to Disney I have prayed I would come home w/a special souvenir...how cool would it be to know you conceived @WDW??? pretty cool I think! Love my RE though, he's pretty optimistic so I hope to have a successful pregnancy and healthy baby SOON(I'm 38). I am thankful for one, in a way that makes me want it more.
There are a lot worse things I can think of to be dealing with--and I'm a hospice nurse, I see horrible situations every day, but there is something extra frustrating and sad about infertility. It comes so easily for some people--even people for whom it probably shouldn't and for many who don't want it, and here we are wanting it so badly, and can't... GRRRRR!!!!!
so i planned some disney days in may since my brother happens to be getting married in florida--and at least i have something to look forward to!
BABYDUST to all of us...
Lyssa

 

[mom2faith]

We've been trying since September with no luck. No problems getting pregnant with our daughter but it's been a struggle this time around.

How long should we wait before I call the doctor? Will they want to check anything before we've been trying for a year?

I would go get a full hormone work-up. It is a simple blood test and it can tell them a lot. Your Dr will know what to look for based on your AF, etc.


MyZoeJane - I am not temping as my temps are all off due to my high prolactin. My first time charting was hilarious, even the DR could not read it. She told me not to bother as it was never going to be accurate. I know my ovulation cycle by the EWCM mostly.

I am literally sitting on my hands to not take a test every time I have to pee!! I hate this waiting!!

Nice to have some friends to talk to

 

[erin327]

We are also trying. We have one daughter (21 months old). We have been trying since July, but as I am still nursing and have only had one AF I don't think our chances are too good yet. Still we keep hoping. I understand the temptation to test constantly!

 

[TCups4Me]

Nice to hear from others in the same boat. DS is 18 months and we've been trying for #2 for over a year. We started trying early because it took a year to get DS and we knew it could be another long haul. Had miscarriages in April and December so now we're back to trying again and I totally understand the misery of the waiting game. I can't tell you how many times I've stared at that stick praying that it would give me another pink line or a plus sign.

Sometimes I feel guilty because I've considered giving up already. The miscarriages have taken a toll and I feel like my whole life is governed by trying to get pregnant. All I can do is take it one month at a time.

Hugs to all of you.

 

[Mickey'n'Me]

We have been trying for about 3 years. We have a beautiful 4 year old daughter but would really like one more. We had a miscarriage last year. My periods are so irregular it is driving me crazy. Saw a fertility specialist that basically told me my ovaries are in premature failure and IVF is the only option. Very expensive option with no guarantee!!! Decided to get a second opinion at an endocrinologist. He started me on metformin 2 months ago. My period is due any day now. Hopefully this med helps. Is anyone on metformin?? Any success with it???? Info please!!!!

 

[mom2faith]

Well, I broke down and peed on a stick today. My AF is due on Sunday so this is 4 days out - the test I took said 53% of PG women will get a BFP at this point. I was not part of that 53% or I am not PG.

I am actually glad I did it, because I was getting myself all hyped-up and Sunday's BFN would have been a tragic letdown. Now, there is still a little hope for a BFP, but I will be prepared for a BFN.

TCups4Me - I have to admit, we were not trying that hard all the time for the past 2 years, I too feel like "giving up". We are so blessed with out princess and she is a wonderful child. But I worry about the future, I want her to have a sibling and her kids to have cousins from that sibling. I know I put WAY to much pressure on myself, which does not help as we all know, but I have to say I do want this and giving up frightens me a little.

 

[mejkjj97]

We are in the same boat. We have a DD who is 3 1/2 and we would like another but things with number 2 have not been as smooth.

I have a miscarriage when my DD was 18 months and it was diagnoised as a Molar Pregnancy. it took my body 7 months before my Levels got back to normal and then when that happed I had to wait another year before trying again.

My cycles are kind of crazy and my doctor believes I have a progesterone levels are low which could cause issues with carry a pregnancy in the 1st trimester. I need to take progesterone but it has to be time just right.

i am getting to a point where I am accepting my DD might be our only one.

 

[Mickey'n'Me]

My cycles are kind of crazy and my doctor believes I have a progesterone levels are low which could cause issues with carry a pregnancy in the 1st trimester. I need to take progesterone but it has to be time just right.

That is what they told me too after my miscarriage. But know I have had 3 different answers since then. I am so frustrated!!

 

[MyZoeJane]

If you haven't visited the Mothering website... I highly recommend it. The mamas there are VERY crunchy, and might not be your cup of tea in all things parenting, but the Fertility boards are VERY informative and supportive.

There are several herbal supplements that women have had great success with and they are VERY educated about the options out there for women TTC.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions/


I began using Vitex to help me ovulate earlier in my cycle, and that was the cycle we finally conceived... I wouldn't have heard of it had it not been for the ladies and MDC!

 

[mejkjj97]

My cycles are kind of crazy and my doctor believes I have a progesterone levels are low which could cause issues with carry a pregnancy in the 1st trimester. I need to take progesterone but it has to be time just right.

That is what they told me too after my miscarriage. But know I have had 3 different answers since then. I am so frustrated!!

That is same issue i am having. It would be nice to have 1 answer.

 

[wlwilliams9]

Hello all! We're TTC too! We've been trying since May with no luck, but I did my first round of Clomid this month and at my mid-cycle ultrasound, doc said it looks like it worked because I'm ovulating on my right side. Now it's just a matter of waiting to take the test, UGH!!

We have a beautiful DD (2 1/2yo) who came along after 2 years of trying, 4 rounds of clomid and a mc.

I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies!!!



P.S. My 19 yo cousin is pregnant, it was an accident, she's not even dating the father....BEOTCH!!!

 

[TCups4Me]

He started me on metformin 2 months ago. My period is due any day now. Hopefully this med helps. Is anyone on metformin?? Any success with it???? Info please!!!!

I'm on metformin due to polycystic ovarian syndrome. I was on it for a couple months before conceiving DS1 (WDW souvenir, btw!). I've been on it again for over a year and it really works to get my cycles regular. I got pregnant twice last year but miscarried so now we're trying again. The met does work although the side effects haven't been great for me. It definitely does its job though.

TCups4Me - I have to admit, we were not trying that hard all the time for the past 2 years, I too feel like "giving up". We are so blessed with out princess and she is a wonderful child. But I worry about the future, I want her to have a sibling and her kids to have cousins from that sibling. I know I put WAY to much pressure on myself, which does not help as we all know, but I have to say I do want this and giving up frightens me a little.

I really hope this works out for you. I have the same thoughts about cousins and family. You certainly don't want to give up and then regret it. Follow your heart.

 

[esbrick]

Hi there we are trying too, however, it's only been since December so I'm just starting out. It's nerve wracking though becasue I am going to be 38 years old next month, I'm a juvenile diabetic, my cycle is irregular, and my DH is 45.

I by no means pretend to know what any of you ladies have gone through (bless you all ) I do believe people learn from others' experiences. Reading your posts tells me what to look out for and i so appreciate that. I definately want to check out that mothering website too. I am far from granola crunchy but I respect anything / any homeopathic of the earth something that will make something better for women in general!

Baby dust to all ladies

 

[mom2faith]

Hi there we are trying too, however, it's only been since December so I'm just starting out. It's nerve wracking though becasue I am going to be 38 years old next month, I'm a juvenile diabetic, my cycle is irregular, and my DH is 45.

I by no means pretend to know what any of you ladies have gone through (bless you all ) I do believe people learn from others' experiences. Reading your posts tells me what to look out for and i so appreciate that. I definately want to check out that mothering website too. I am far from granola crunchy but I respect anything / any homeopathic of the earth something that will make something better for women in general!

Baby dust to all ladies

Don't sell yourself short - start tracking that cycle and watch for signs of ovulation. An irregular cycle can be nothing, but it can be a lot of something too. The earlier your learn your body, the sooner you will know what you need to do. If I had known what to watch for, my high prolactin would have been detected a lot sooner.

Good Luck to you, keep us posted.

Amy

 

[JoliBug]

After having a Miscarriage last July DH and I have been trying to get pg again. It has been a rough year. We found out we were expecting at the end of May just 4 months after we had stopped not trying and 1.5 weeks after I had had a day long radiological procedure on my stomach. I was scared out of my mind that it would have a negative effect on the baby. We went to the Dr the last week of June and she assured us that there would be very little if any effect on the baby, she even gave us an ultrasound to try and calm our fears. We saw the heart beat and I was feeling better. A week later I started spotting and the next day I lost the baby. Our due date was 17 Feb so this has been a rough month. We have been trying ever since the two months were up but by my cycles have been all over the place, 6 weeks, 8 weeks, 2 weeks, and now going on 5 weeks now. I’m pretty sure I’m pg this month since I started having cramps today (although it means we will not be canceling our trip in Oct). It’s been a long 7 months but our faith has kept us strong. Part of me wants to go back to the Dr now and see if there is something else wrong, and part of me thinks that we need to wait just a little while longer since the Dr said it could take up to a year for everything to straighten out.