Please see my answer to your other post too. You had mentioned he has a tutor. Is that person knowledgeable about autism? Our guy has had a tutor that has stayed with him and that has made a huge difference. He does not have to get used to someone new every year and neither does someone have to learn all his quirks. She knows when his Asperger's is influencing the situation and when he is just being resistant to the lesson. As I said in my other post, we used his meltdowns to cue us that the situation was so stressful for him that we needed to back off and regroup. We have been very fortunate to have a pediatric neurologist, psychologist, teachers and therapists who can suggest what we can try when we hit the bumps. We all meet together and work the plan. When he is focused he reads, does math, writes, talks in front of groups, often functioning above grade level. When he is stressed or anxious, his circuits misfire and he gets so frustrated and angry. He hates going to that angry, frustrated place and we hate seeing him there. We are willing to structure the school and home environment to give him, we hope, the best shot at success. Too bad we cannot see down the tunnel of time. We have found there are few absolute answers, you have to listen to advice and then decide what you think is in the child's best interest.
