OT: I feel so icky!

[NemoMOm]

So, I know this is off topic but I thought if anyone could have any insight or even, I don't know encouragement, good words?

Last Spring DH and I decided that it was time to give DS a sibling, right after we started it seemed like we had success. But no, after 2.5 mos I went to see my doctor whom told me (after many tests) that I had a hormonal imbalance. So, to make a long story short we are still trying to give DS a sibling

Now, about 1.5 years ago I started drinking iced mochas from a very popular espresso place (u know the one) on a very frequent basis. They are like a treat and a pick me up all in one. I run a family daycare and after a long day it really gives me a slice (or cup) or nirvana.

So, I was drinking my nirvana tonight when DS says he had heard on the radio that said co. was switching 50% of their stores milk because of outrage of hormones in the milk, (given to the cows of course). Apparently, they said on the radio that it causes all kinds of physical problems. I got to thinking, the timing is kind of right. (I know because of tell -tell signs or missing signs) So, I mention it to DH and he looks it up online. Guess what?

You got it, it causes infertility: And it's the milk on the shelves too. So, I've been so depressed and I feel icky thinking I could have done this to myself. I always get decaf and even checked how many mg in the decaf cause I thought that could be a concern.

Sorry, for the long book, but I was so shocked and kind of scared. And I thought maybe someone else might be going thru this too .

 

[emma'smom]

Well...I've probably had just as many mochas from the what I'm betting is the same coffee store (the one on every corner in NYC)....and two babies just fine! In fact, I drank them right through my first pregnancy (decaf of course) without any problems.

We do drink organic milk at home though--expensive....but I feel better that my daughters are avoiding those hormones at home where they drink most of their milk.

 

[justhat]

Please don't think you did it to yourself. While we drink organic milk at home, I have had many a milk product in restaurants and coffee shops and I don't have any infertility problems. If there were really a big link then they'd have to stop using hormones in milk, but think of all the people who have been drinking hormone milk forever and still have kids. Infertility is not your fault at all and it's hard enough to go through that, I'm sure, without blaming yourself.

 

[KariC]

Thought I would post something as someone who has experienced major infertility. However, look at my sig....we've been very successful with treatment . The twins are from IVF with frozen embryos, and the singleton is due Aug. 1st from the same batch of frozen embryos.

I see a reknowned reproductive endocrinologist when we are "trying". This is NOT something he has discussed as something to watch out for, and there are many things he has. Please don't feel bad, or like you've done something to sabotage your fertility. You MAY be experiencing secondary infertility, and it's more likely to be a medical issue (like ovulating too early in your cycle, not ovulating at all, not developing a good lining, etc.....sorry to sound to medical...it took us 5 yrs from going off BCP to successful delivery of the twins....I read a lot, and had tons of treatments.). I would say, and this IS NOT medical advice, but mom-to-mom advice, since it's been longer than 6 months of "trying" it might be time to see an RE or a specialist.

Good luck. I know it's hard when you're waiting for something you want so badly and it seems like everyone else is pg!

 

[The Sweetness]

All I can say is, if it was meant to be for you to have another little angel, than you will. Just think of how lucky you are to have the one you do have. Many many people would give anything to be able to have a child, and they cant . My best friend (age 36, just like me) wants a baby more than anything. About 2 years ago, she was pregnant, and miscarriedShe feel a world of guilt over this. She really believes that this is some form of punishment that she has endured because when she was 18, she terminated a pregnancy, knowing that in no way was she ready for the responsibility of being a parent

 

[KariC]

All I can say is, if it was meant to be for you to have another little angel, than you will. Just think of how lucky you are to have the one you do have. Many many people would give anything to be able to have a child, and they cant . My best friend (age 36, just like me) wants a baby more than anything. About 2 years ago, she was pregnant, and miscarriedShe feel a world of guilt over this. She really believes that this is some form of punishment that she has endured because when she was 18, she terminated a pregnancy, knowing that in no way was she ready for the responsibility of being a parent

Sweetness, has your friend talked to her doctor? Sometimes it can be a really simple "fix" that a regular OB can help with, and a doctor can reassure a couple that her previous actions don't have any relationship to current problems (or a doctor can tell if it truly has had an impact, and help correct if possible). So many times couples don't tell their doctor how much this really means to them, so doctors don't know to really investigate the issue. I'd suggest scheduling an appointment, seperate from a yearly exam, just to discuss this.

Many women take blame on themselves, when it's "just" a medical thing. I relate it to this....If I had a heart problem, you better believe I'd be at a doctor's office getting help for my bum heart. Well, I have a bum pituitary gland that doesn't send the correct signals to my ovaries (just one issue). You better believe I'm at the doctor's office getting help for the bum gland! There's such a stigma about reproductive health, and so many myths....

hugs to all who are trying. Just know, there are success stories out there! Sometimes you can't wait for your body (or his) to fix itself...you would not do that with other body systems (heart, lungs, brain, etc.). Your body might just need a nudge. Or it might indicate another problem that is more medically "serious". Check it out!

 

[krismom]

awww, it's so hard when you're trying to conceive. I've been there, as most women (unfortunately ) have. don't blame yourself- it's many factors that are beyond your control. As soon as I started drinking coffee, sweet n ow, margarita's again.... that was when I got pregnant! I read the article as well and it was downright scary. It also said that the hormones are a factor in girls beginning menstruation earlier in life... average age 25 years ago was 13 - today its 11!
hang in there! it WILL happen- and it will probably be twins! Remember the power of positive thinking.

 

[Hannathy]

This is kinda like the rats getting cancer from the artificial sugar, yes it caused it BUT the rats were feed the equivalent of their weight in sweetener daily! Did you drink 10 gallons a day. Most things in moderation don't cause the terrible effects that are listed. Like a glass of wine when you didn't know won't cause fetal alcohol syndrome! Relax sometimes it takes a awhile and being stressed over it doesn't help. It took us many years after our first ( much more than you have been trying) and just when I said I give up one child is great we got pregnant.

 

[LaraK]

Before I tried to get pregnant, I thought that all you had to do is dance the mambo unprotected and you would get pregnant within a month....boy did I get a wake up call when trying to have my first. I got a book that helped me learn the timing of my body and when it was just right to dance. Still, it took months and months. Luckily, I didn't have to go the fertility treatment route, I got pregnant right before we had to make that decision. With the second, I wasn't even really trying, I was just not trying not to. So you never know. I do think that stressing makes it harder, but telling a woman who is trying to get pregnant not to stress is like telling a two year old in front of a pile of cookies not to eat.

 

[NemoMOm]

Thank you guys so much. I do have an appt. on Tues. for treatment so mother nature will visit when she should. DH also came up with a good plan-mochas w/soy! For DS we went out today and bought organic. So, I'm starting to feel better