OT: having trouble getting pregnant with baby #2

[kaleighmariesmom]

Has anyone ever gone through this? with baby #1 we got pregnant RIGHT away! now we have been trying for 6 months and nothing

The dr said everything looks ok. DH said I am worrying too much. I just am nervous... has this happned to anyone else?

 

[JustinsMommy07]

We went through the exact same thing. No problem with #1. Tried for 11 months for #2 with no luck. Used the ovulation predictor kits and fertility monitor. Finally went to see fertility doc and started all the tests. Was waiting to do one final test and lo and behold found out we were pregnant on our own. DS#2 is due in February! Your DH is probably right in that you just need to relax, but that is easier said than done I know! Try not to get discouraged. It will happen. coming your way! Don't give up!

 

[chrismartinique]

I got pregnant easily 4 times - like in 1-2 months every time no problem. I expected a quick 5th also, well..... it took 8 months. Of course I was older... how many times did I hear this?!
Anyway I had some labs done that showed where my specific hormonal issue was (after all I was older - HA.) I went on low dose Clomid and became pregnant the 2nd month on that.
Of course I don't know where you are age wise, but if it really bothers you, request some basic lab work... thyroid can also affect your fertility

 

[kaleighmariesmom]

I am 32... the thing that worries me is that last year my OB/GYN found cysts on my ovary turns out it was the size of a softball and I had to have emergency sugery to remove it. I am just worried that something along those lines could be the problem.

 

[mejkjj97]

it took us over 2 years to get pregnant with our second. I had no issues with number 1 either. I went through tests and so did my dh and nothing was wrong. As soon as were decided to stop trying I got pregnant the following month. I think I stated getting too stressed about everything and once I let my guard down it happened.
Just try to keep a positive attitude- trust me I know it's hard to do and relax a little. hopefully it will all happen soon.

 

[bumbershoot]

Many people have had this problem for varying reasons.

Since others have given the "it'll work out" scenario...


It will soon be 5 years that DH and I have been trying. Just a few months ago we first found out that DH has a prolactinoma, which he'd had symptoms of for over 3 years, but everyone had ignored him. MDs, NDs, just about any healthcare provider, as soon as he said his symptoms then said that he was concerned b/c we'd been "trying", they asked MY age, and shut down. At one point he had a cyst in his chest that was leaking fluid, and the MDs he saw still wouldn't do a hormone level check....

He had to be diagnosed with diabetes to finally find an endocrinologist (that the primary care dude said he didn't need, augh) who could then be urged to do the needed hormone tests. He did, and the supposed diabetes faded (without drugs, the blood sugar levels are very normal now...the endo hardly asks about it anymore) when the dude found the evidence of the prolactinoma (pituitary tumor that causes him to have the prolactin levels of a nursing woman).



Along with that they did an SA (at our urging, again) and checked testosterone, and found that while the SA was better than expected, the test levels were awful.

So, after 4 months of back and forth with our insurance company, they are paying for and providing (through their specialty pharmacy) HCG for DH to inject, to help his body bring his test levels back to normal. They didn't want to pay, they said he should just take testosterone...but taking that would actually CAUSE him to be totally infertile (though he'd likely feel better, more manly), and we didn't think it right that they wanted him to take something that would cause a medical condition. They finally saw the light and are covering it.


Obviously not everyone is going to ultimately find that a pituitary tumor and drastically low testosterone levels are the culprit. But there are those who have tried for years, and nothing has happened.

And the kicker? Just yesterday my MIL decided to CRY to my husband about how our son "needs a sibling" blah blah blah...and she KNOWS that we've been trying since DS was 9 months old....I kinda hate people today b/c of her, seriously, who does that????



But really, 6 months isn't worth being concerned about.

On the other hand, if your husband is gaining squish without gaining weight, if he's getting gynecomastia (aka needin' a bra), if his face looks "soft", etc etc...might want to check those prolactin levels! And don't take no for an answer like my DH did for 3 years of begging health "care" providers for help....

 

[WDWorBUST]

It took over a year and clomid for DD#1 and we've been trying for over a year now for baby #2 (had a miscarriage in April) and will be taking clomid my next cycle. Hopefully we get pregnant quickly on clomid this time too. I'm not getting any younger!! I hate it when people tell me not to stress and quit worrying about it. It's not that easy. But hopefully it will happen sooner rather than later.

 

[DisneyNutMic]

I had trouble with getting #1 here so I expected lots of trouble with number #2 as well. And I got it but I got a different kind of trouble. I couldn't get pregnant with #1 and I couldn't stay pregnant with #2. I know that pain and heartache. If you have concerns, please talk to your doctor. That's what you pay them good money for. Good luck to you.

 

[carrie6466]

My two children are 14 years apart. 'Nuf said

 

[PigletsMommy]

So, after 4 months of back and forth with our insurance company, they are paying for and providing (through their specialty pharmacy) HCG for DH to inject, to help his body bring his test levels back to normal. They didn't want to pay, they said he should just take testosterone...but taking that would actually CAUSE him to be totally infertile (though he'd likely feel better, more manly), and we didn't think it right that they wanted him to take something that would cause a medical condition. They finally saw the light and are covering it.

I dont mean to hijack the thread but I just wanted to ask how does the testosterone cause total infertility?

We actually had to go as far as IVF to have DD and still have 4 embryos frozen. There is always still hope that I would get pregnant by 'accident'. The reason I ask about the testosterone is that my DH gets injections every 3 weeks because his is severely low. When we did the SA the count was great but the motility was horrible. So does the injections make it worse??? His dr didnt tell us this....

I guess I'm off to do more research....

 

[KateMW]

It hasn't happened to me yet, but I'm totally afraid it will.

We got pregnant for the first time the first month we tried and now 5 years later, we're ready for our second and I am deathly afraid that it's not going to happen. Now that I finally want another one, if I can't have one, it's going to kill me.

 

[kaleighmariesmom]

It hasn't happened to me yet, but I'm totally afraid it will.

We got pregnant for the first time the first month we tried and now 5 years later, we're ready for our second and I am deathly afraid that it's not going to happen. Now that I finally want another one, if I can't have one, it's going to kill me.

That is EXACTLY what is happening to us!!! I wish you better luck than we are having!

 

[krcit]

I got pregnant right away with dd#1 and then started trying when she was 2 and tried for about 8 months with no luck. I got a great book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It showed me how to chart my cycles and helped me to know what to ask the Dr about. I ended up needing Clomid and it worked on the first cycle. I really recommend the book for every women, not just those trying to conceive. Good luck-I'm all for being pro-active with this issue.

 

[tlh0726]

Got pregnant with DD.
Never used anything after her birth.
Got pregnant with DS2 when she was 9 months old.
DD and DS2 are 18 months apart.

When the Duggars announced one of the pregnancies (lost count on which one ) on the today show and surprised the kids with the new, the oldest one (josh??) made the comment something along the lines, I guess that would be about right, 18 months.

So I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you that it is sooner, but 9 may be your lucky month too

 

[hanutedmansionmomma]

Yes, go to your doctor!
My story is we gave up after 3 years, then I got pregnant with DS. It really did work when I chilled out and decided one child was ok w/ me.
Probably sounds as scientific as tarot cards, but it's true when people say to relax about it...

 

[Keri]

Has anyone ever gone through this? with baby #1 we got pregnant RIGHT away! now we have been trying for 6 months and nothing

The dr said everything looks ok. DH said I am worrying too much. I just am nervous... has this happned to anyone else?

I got pregnant with my first 2 kids within 3 months of trying. My third took a year. I actually said to my DH around the beginning of the 2ww "this is IT. I'm done, I can't take any more heartbreak" and presto, we found out we were pregnant.

I did take Metformin for about 3 weeks the cycle before I got pregnant. I have wonky cycles and my OB thought it might help me get back on track (it's used for PCOS) ... but I couldn't handle the side effects, so I stopped taking it. But, it may have been just the thing. Or our beach trip. Or just it finally being the right time, I don't know. I was 34 at the time, as well, so age was probably a factor (30 and 31 when I delivered DS & DD1)

Good luck. I know how much it sucks. It can't hurt to talk to your OB and see if/when they might do some testing. Secondary infertility is way more common than people think.

 

[staley7580]

I got pregnant with my first 2 kids within 3 months of trying. My third took a year. I actually said to my DH around the beginning of the 2ww "this is IT. I'm done, I can't take any more heartbreak" and presto, we found out we were pregnant.

I did take Metformin for about 3 weeks the cycle before I got pregnant. I have wonky cycles and my OB thought it might help me get back on track (it's used for PCOS) ... but I couldn't handle the side effects, so I stopped taking it. But, it may have been just the thing. Or our beach trip. Or just it finally being the right time, I don't know. I was 34 at the time, as well, so age was probably a factor (30 and 31 when I delivered DS & DD1)

Good luck. I know how much it sucks. It can't hurt to talk to your OB and see if/when they might do some testing. Secondary infertility is way more common than people think.

Me too!! W tried forever... well, only 9 months for a third baby. I cried every month... It was stressful and heart breaking. I finally did get pregnant, and lost that pregnancy at 13weeks. I was done. I couldnt do it any more. We gave up... Then..SURPRISE!!!! Three months later I was pregnant. WITH TWINS!!! They are such a blessing!

 

[CrAzY4DL]

First baby, in 1997, was a total surprise but ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks (I was 18 and we had been married for *just* 5 months). After losing the baby I decided I actually WANTED one and we tried from July of 1997 and finally got pregnant November 1998 (how, you ask? I told hubby, we are awfully young, let's wait to get pregnant! Bam, got knocked up that night!).

My second DD, we figured it would again take over a year; I went off the pill August 29th, 2002 (first DDs 3rd birthday) and got pregnant 9 days later.

Third pregnancy, I went off the pill May 2006 (DD2's 3rd birthday), we charted cycles, did temperature, did ovulation predictor kits, not once in 12 months did I ovulate. May 2007 found out I had diabetes, stopped trying, went on meds. Got my diabetes under "control" and we went off the pill May 2009. We figured, I didn't ovulate at all last time, we will just have a year of a LOT of <ahem> lovin' and then get fixed May 2010 (hubby has weird cutoff, wants all kids out of high school before he hits 50...). Well, I got knocked up July 2009 and we were floored. I had no symptoms except for sore breasts and didn't even realize I was late until 10 days after missed period. We wait until 12 weeks along, tell EVERYONE, including 2 DDs, and we lost the baby at 13 weeks. Was really sad. Saw the gyno yesterday and he said go like mad until February and if nothing by then, he will start Clomid. Supposedly I am super fertile right now so we will see. I am just going to go with the <ahem> lots of lovin' idea and not worry about my cycle or the great impending deadline.

Best of luck to you, and seriously, I KNOW that hearing "just relax" sets your teeth on edge, but that's when I got pregnant every time. Also, don't let hubby put his laptop on his lap without a table underneath!!! Really slows/kills the boys!

 

[kaleighmariesmom]

thanks everyone. you guys are helping... Dr told me to relax and "what happens happens" so we will see.

DD asks for a baby everyday... that doesnt help!

 

[amy_225]

I agree with another poster who said 6 months is nothing to be worried about. Really, my doctor told me after a year we should think about doing testing. But you know, we're really strange as far as fertility goes. I have four kids, so you'd think I was as fertile as a rabbit -- but those four kids took 15 years of NO BIRTH CONTROL at all! EVER! I can't figure out why unless maybe DH has a low sperm count or something. Our kids are 3-4 years apart, except the two in the middle who are two years apart (almost to the day). We never really tried, just never really tried not to, and ended up with four great kids. At 38, I kinda think my biological time clock is winding down. It's been six years now and no more babies. I'd love to have one more, but count the blessings I do have.: flower3: