momof5boys
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Oh I just have to vent. My DH was scheduled to have his 3rd back surgery this am(disc replacement) We spent 2 1/2hrs at the hospital only to have his surgery cancelled because he had drainage from his ingrown toenails!(sorry if I grossed anyone out) I feel horrible cuz I'm a nurse(ER so people go to surgery from us regardless of other issues) I have been letting him handle his medical care as this is a chronic problem so I don't go to all of his appts. I knew he had ingrown toenails and was going to schedule him to have them taken care of while he was out on disability from his back surgery. Apparently the PA at his orthos office never looked at his feet during his preop appt. one month ago. I went with him to the general surgeons appt and he looked at his feet but didn't say anything(and this was Thurs.!) So today the preop nurse told the ortho, he looked at my DH's feet and said no the the surgery, said he would do it as soon as they healed(probably 2 weeks!) He goes to the podiatrist tomorrow morning so we'll see what she says. Anyway he now has to change the dates for his disability, and I changed my work schedule around for when I figured he would be recovered enough to be home without me(and I can't fix that now!) It looks like he will probably be having surgery right when the kids go back to school and I can't be 2 places at once! Sorry this is so long and I know nothing can be done now, I guess I'm just mad at myself, I should have checked them myself and not taken his word for what they looked like(the one was really bad and I had no idea) My DH is upset with himself but he has no medical background so why would he worry about it? I just hope he heals fast so we can get this surgery done(he was so anxious about it and now he has to wait longer, so more anxiety!) Thanks for letting me vent!

don't beat yourself up. He's a big boy. So's his doctor. *They* should have noted this before today, not you. I understand, you're a nurse and you should know these things, blah blah blah. You're also his wife and when it comes to your hubby, you're a wife first and nursing largely goes out the window (I've been a nurse for 31yrs. I still ask questions that I know I should know and I can't for the life of me seem to remember my stuff when DH has a crisis.)