OT but the support of friends here is so appreciated

[FantasticDisFamily]

Hi all,

As most of you have either seen directly or picked up through some of my postings, I lost my mother recentely (April 11th to be precise). While the last couple of months have had their ups and downs, I know the next couple of weeks are going to be especially stressful and could use the power of your thoughts and prayers.

My brother and family arrive from California tonight (my sister - in - law and the girls did not make it back for the funeral) and over the next couple of weeks there are a number of things we need to deal with. I had dinner with my Dad last night and as he started running down the list of things he wanted to make sure we did (ranging from making the headstone selection to meetings with attorneys and brokers revising his will and investments to sorting out her jewelry) I could almost feel the strength draining from me.

Add to that the final few weeks of summer, my DS has to make his decision on whether or not to play varsity football (this is going to be emotional for us whatever he decides as I'm on the booster board), DD is starting high school and has things she wants to do (new hair cur, clothes shopping, etc) in preparation for that, oh and let's not forget work (my fall semester starts 8/25). Just life in a busy household with two teenagers!

Thanks for letting me vent and TIA for the support you all are so famous for!

Deb

 

[wtpclc]

Deb - I'm so sorry you're coming up on such a difficult time. Sending lots of prayers and pixie dust your way!

 

[Twigs]

Sending you lots of I know that it isn't easy and I too will be doing those things soon too and I am not looking forward to it. You will be in my thoughts and prayers, Take Care, Joyce

 

[TN Traveler]

Deb--I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. I cannot imagine the pain and emptiness you are feeling. I'm very blessed to have both of my parents. They are both 69 and in fairly good health compared to some folks their age.

Understand completely the situation w/DS playing football. My DD(13) wants to play on a select soccer team and has been asked to join several times in the last couple of years. She's good and is getting tired of Rec league. However, I'm a home based travel agent and cannot be out running her around from town to town all the time. Plus have 2 younger girls that play, a husband that works full time AND a farm to run.

Hair problems are always a crisis. I have 3 girls; I should know!! Does she drive? Maybe she and a couple of girlfriends could go and get her hair cut? Or would you be comfortable giving her some money and letting her go to the Mall if you dropped her off? I think my DD would know what she can and cannot purchase so I'm sure your daughter would know what is ok and not. Then agian, it might be a great distraction to go shopping w/her. You'll have to see what works best for you.

This is easy for me to say b/c I have not walked in your shoes but I have been told when you are going through all the legal stuff and sorting through jewelry just think of the good times. My FIL passed away 5 yrs ago this October. He had all the arrangements taken care of so we didn't have to do any of that. However, DH had to go through his personal belongings and decide what did he want, what was saved for his son, and my nephew. DH is only son so that was easier but he wanted to be fair so his son and nephew would have somethng of Papaw's. It's never easy. He would find something and say "Oh, I remember this. Dad wore this........."blah blah or he'd say "Dad used this for....." and it helped him to relive good memories.
Hope this helps somewhat.

Just know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Karen

 

[bananiem]

I'm sorry to hear you have to go throught this all at once. Feel free to come back here and vent to us.
ann

 

[FantasticDisFamily]

Thanks everyone! I knew just "talking" with you all would help. We'll get through it just as everyone of you has gotten through rough times.

Just that I know this is going to be a rougher than usual couple of weeks and have also learned that the power of knowing you have others pulling for you can NOT be underestimated.

Thank you all, and Twigs I've been thinking about you a lot since hearing about your mom. My mom's health had been touch and go for several years and the situation you were in, on the way to vacation and getting a call, was one we'd prayed wouldn't be the case. We were spared that. Hang in there!

Deb

 

[castlegazer]

Thanks for popping in to go OT for a minute. Its good to hear how things are going. We DO care!

 

[PigletsPal]

Deb,

Lots of PD coming your way during the trying few days that are coming up. May you fine strenght from your family and your fiends on the Dis to get you through this.


Take care

 

[JulianneP]

Thoughts and prayers your way. I know this must be difficult time.

 

[Spinning]

I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure this is a tough time for all of you. My thoughts and prayers for your family.
Hopefully as you settle up, organize and go thought things you will find some memories that make you smile.

 

[MicMin]

Sending you good thoughts and prayers. Sorry you are going through a difficult time.

 

[JudithM]

Deb, you have already crossed a hurdle just by acknowledging your thoughts & feelings about the upcoming weeks. Yes, it will be difficult ... difficult for all involved. You might end up enjoying some time with everyone just remembering/sharing stories about your mom - maybe you will find some sb inspiration, too . Take it one day at a time. Remember you cannot go backwards only forward, so try to make the most/best of each day.

 

[soccerchick]

I hope each day finds things getting just a little bit better, a little bit easier, a little bit less painful. Thinking of you and sending PD and your way.

 

[WendyZ]

Sending you a big . Hoping that things get better soon.

 

[nicki dahling]

Deb you and Joyce both are in my thoughts and prayers. Take each day , day by day. Sending hugs and pixie dust your way.

Cyndi

 

[poohkinandpiglet]