OT-Birthday Rant

[ilandrazdsw]

Today is DH's birthday.
Here comes the rant:
He was looking forward to his parents calling not only because it is his birthday, but we decided last night that we want to fly them up to see us and he wanted make the offer. All day, no call...not a surprise that MIL works. Went out to dinner and hurried home thinking we would have missed their call...nothing on the caller id. So DH calls them. His dad forgot it was his birthday and his mom is out of town (but does have a cell phone) . After he talked to his dad DH just was in a low mood.
I am SO upset and want to take the offer off the table. In the last year they haven't even once made a comment about wanting to come visit us or wishing the could if they had the money. The only reason that we are even offering for them to come up is so that we don't "feel guilty" about going to Disney next summer rather than the Bahamas to see them since we are going this summer too. (I know...our vacation, so why feel guilty about it.) Oh...and neither of us want to take a vacation to the Bahamas (aka hell).
I just feel so bad for DH!
At least we leave for Disney in 3 sleeps!!!

 

[mousebymarriage]

so sorry that happened to your DH. just wanted to send a his way and wish him a Happy Birthday!

 

[The Hendies]

Well, Happy Birthday and Have a wonderful trip! Since he is celebrating his B'Day in Disney (sort of) grab him a "Happy Birthday" Pin and let the whole park wish him a Happy Birthday!

As for the parents, cool off a bit. Don't make any decisions about the invitation until after you get back from Disney. Parents are human too, and sometimes the time gets away from us.

Have Fun!

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Tell your DH Happy Birthday fellow Leo!!!

I can totally relate. My birthday is tomorrow and I would bet my mom won't call me (no card or anything either.) It stinks, even when you grow up!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Happy Birthday to your DH! Anyway.. go to Disney, have a blast, make sure he gets all the birthday attention Disney can muster. Nothing like seeing a grown man blush!

 

[ilandrazdsw]

Thank you for all the bikrthday wishes. I will pass them on the DH.

I do hope one day DH's parents will come to visit to see the life we have made in Indiana...a LONG way from the Bahamas!

 

[lovemylife]

Happy belated birthday to your DH. Mine was on Tuesday and it sucked because of my parents,too. Have fun in Disney.

 

[tigger51276]

I can feel your DH's pain, both my parents called to wish me a happy birthday (as did other family members) but my husband didn't wish me a happy birthday, nor did I have a "birthday" this year, meaning no cake, card or presents. First time in 34 years I haven't had a birthday and it was pretty depressing but I guess that's what happens when you live with a real live Grumpy! My DD6 did make me a birthday card and made me a picture too so that I would have something for my birthday (she did it all on her own too!).


I agree with other PP's get him a birthday button and celebrate in the World and have an awesome time! And I certainly wouldn't feel guilty about going to WDW over the Bahamas, that would be my choice too.

 

[leebee]

Tell your DH Happy Birthday fellow Leo!!!

I can totally relate. My birthday is tomorrow and I would bet my mom won't call me (no card or anything either.) It stinks, even when you grow up!

My birthday is tomorrow also!! Happy Birthday, MickeyMomOfThree

 

[katied]

Happy Birthday to your DH. I just wanted to say he's not along. My dad easily forgets our birthdays - his excuse is that once my parents divorced (we were high school age) he didn't have copies of our birth certificates anymore, so how is he supposed to know our birthdays and how old we are?

I don't know what to say about that, since no matter what records I have, I think I'll always remember when my kids were born, but oh well.

And my dad continually asks when I'll be down to visit him (and we're about 400 miles away with a brand new baby, but we're expected to travel to Chicago for him to see the new baby and his grandson, not that he'll ever travel up to us).

Just wanted to let you know your DH is not alone.

 

[sk!mom]

Another "you're not alone." DH's parents never remembered his birthday either.
My mom usually does. My dad never.

Honestly, I don't let it bother me. Birthdays are just not important to some people- Doesn't mean that they don't love you and wouldn't want to see you. They're just not good about remembering birthdays.

I absolutely would not take the visit offer off the table. That will only hurt your DH. If he wants to see his parents, he wants to see his parents. Sounds like you would prefer to see them in your home anyway rather than traveling to them.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

My birthday is tomorrow also!! Happy Birthday, MickeyMomOfThree

Awww, Thank You! Happy Birthday back at ya!!

It is going to be an interesting one this year. DH just got called into work. She said probably about 4 hours. So that is what 2:30am? Then he is supposed to work tomorrow 7am to 3 am the next day, so probably won't see him at all. So, I have decided that after basketball camp and the orthodontist, the younger 2 girls and I are going to go to Chuck E Cheese. After that I am going to go get my oldest (she has plans during the day) and we are going to get some dinner at Moe's (kids eat free night) and by the time I get home it will be too late to worry about her calling.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

Happy Birthday to all the ones celebrating. Big to all that need them.

 

[Jdougherty]

I'm in the same boat. Not only did my parents forget MY birthday but DD , DH too DS has yet to have a birthday. We are constantly asked to travel 1800 miles (3 plane ticket or an 18hr drive) to see them. My DS in 9m old and his grandfather has never met him.

DD is also thier ONLY granddaughter.

Your vacation time is YOURS don't feel guilty.

Happy Brithday to your DH

 

[ilandrazdsw]

Happy birthday to all who have birthdays in Juy!!!

MIL called yesterday and DH offered to fly MIL, FIL and DGM up. His mom seemed open to the idea and said she would talk to the others about it. When we moved FIL said he wouldn't come when it is cold or hurricane season, so despite still being hurricane season and coolish weather in Oct maybe he will actually come too. Hopefully DH's Uncle will come up with everyone else. Don't know when/it DH's brothers would ever come visit...a phone and computer work 2 ways, but our seems to be the only ones that are outgoing.

The kids are starting to forget their life in the Bahamas...which to some extent is a good thing...but I never want them to forget their family who still live there.

Well, time to do a last clean of the house and start to pack the last minute things for tomorrow's departure.

Thank you all for letting me rant. I've cooled down...well, as much as I will ever cool down when it comes to DH's family.

 

[LovesHerTaurus]

I can feel your DH's pain, both my parents called to wish me a happy birthday (as did other family members) but my husband didn't wish me a happy birthday, nor did I have a "birthday" this year, meaning no cake, card or presents. First time in 34 years I haven't had a birthday and it was pretty depressing but I guess that's what happens when you live with a real live Grumpy! My DD6 did make me a birthday card and made me a picture too so that I would have something for my birthday (she did it all on her own too!).


I agree with other PP's get him a birthday button and celebrate in the World and have an awesome time! And I certainly wouldn't feel guilty about going to WDW over the Bahamas, that would be my choice too.

No freaking birthday from your man?

.... are you leaving him at home for your next trip?? I would!!

 

[LovesHerTaurus]

Our families are a little off too with important things. We make it up to each other by overdoing every single holiday with each other.

Don't be sad, make him sparkle!! Have a wonderful trip!

Today is DH's birthday.
Here comes the rant:
He was looking forward to his parents calling not only because it is his birthday, but we decided last night that we want to fly them up to see us and he wanted make the offer. All day, no call...not a surprise that MIL works. Went out to dinner and hurried home thinking we would have missed their call...nothing on the caller id. So DH calls them. His dad forgot it was his birthday and his mom is out of town (but does have a cell phone) . After he talked to his dad DH just was in a low mood.
I am SO upset and want to take the offer off the table. In the last year they haven't even once made a comment about wanting to come visit us or wishing the could if they had the money. The only reason that we are even offering for them to come up is so that we don't "feel guilty" about going to Disney next summer rather than the Bahamas to see them since we are going this summer too. (I know...our vacation, so why feel guilty about it.) Oh...and neither of us want to take a vacation to the Bahamas (aka hell).
I just feel so bad for DH!
At least we leave for Disney in 3 sleeps!!!

 

[a1tinkfans]

Today is DH's birthday.
Here comes the rant:
He was looking forward to his parents calling not only because it is his birthday, but we decided last night that we want to fly them up to see us and he wanted make the offer. All day, no call...not a surprise that MIL works. Went out to dinner and hurried home thinking we would have missed their call...nothing on the caller id. So DH calls them. His dad forgot it was his birthday and his mom is out of town (but does have a cell phone) . After he talked to his dad DH just was in a low mood.
I am SO upset and want to take the offer off the table. In the last year they haven't even once made a comment about wanting to come visit us or wishing the could if they had the money. The only reason that we are even offering for them to come up is so that we don't "feel guilty" about going to Disney next summer rather than the Bahamas to see them since we are going this summer too. (I know...our vacation, so why feel guilty about it.) Oh...and neither of us want to take a vacation to the Bahamas (aka hell).
I just feel so bad for DH!
At least we leave for Disney in 3 sleeps!!!

Parents are just people....seems like this is no surprise to you though...sorry they did not call......even after the dad spoke to him, mom did not call ........
Why on earth would you want to have them at your home?
Go on your vacation and ENJOY and
Belated HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your dh!

 

[a1tinkfans]

I can feel your DH's pain, both my parents called to wish me a happy birthday (as did other family members) but my husband didn't wish me a happy birthday, nor did I have a "birthday" this year, meaning no cake, card or presents. First time in 34 years I haven't had a birthday and it was pretty depressing but I guess that's what happens when you live with a real live Grumpy! My DD6 did make me a birthday card and made me a picture too so that I would have something for my birthday (she did it all on her own too!).


I agree with other PP's get him a birthday button and celebrate in the World and have an awesome time! And I certainly wouldn't feel guilty about going to WDW over the Bahamas, that would be my choice too.

OUCH!
sorry! HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY to YOU!

 

[ilandrazdsw]

Parents are just people....seems like this is no surprise to you though...sorry they did not call......even after the dad spoke to him, mom did not call ........
Why on earth would you want to have them at your home?
Go on your vacation and ENJOY and
Belated HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your dh!

FIL not calling...NOT a surprise
MIL not calling was a surprise. Maybe she didn't have our numbers in her cell phone
Why would I want them at my house? Don't really want FIL in my house (much less the USA), but he is DH's dad. Besides, them coming here means I don't have to go there...and then neither do DH or the kids. To some the Bahamas is paradise, to me it is hell...EXPENSIVE & HOT hell. It costs less for them to come here than 4 of us to go there and then where to stay isn't an issue, nor is "entertainment." The Bahamas is no WDW!!!
Happiness is the best way to show others you have moved on...and we are going to be estatic for the next 2 weeks and then just happy since when we come back it is back to work.