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[3jsmommy]

I was just remembering a baptism meeting I attended when my 1st DS was 2 mths old. I was the only one there w/ my baby, I was sitting at a table w/ 3 other couples. The conversation had turned to switching formula & then to spitting up, they all had horror stories of projectile vomiting, gassiness, crying, etc.. One Dad trying to be friendly (I guess because I was being quite, I had nothing to contribute since my DS was BF & happy) asked me "How about this little guy, does he spit up a lot?" I said "twice" he said "a day..that's nothing" I said "no in his life, I nurse him & he never throws up or gets gassy, he almost never cries." You should have seen the looks around the table! I don't know if they thought I was lying or just wanted to think that. I should have made them feel better by explaining that I nursed on demand every 2 hours, even at night, then they would have been able to justify not breastfeeding , saying I was crazy hippy mom or something I almost felt guilty that I told them the truth! Really though, I think we should keep this thread friendly, let the "other' thread have the fighting, crying, spanking & projectile vomiting!

 

[NotUrsula]

LOL. Unfortunately, if your kid is one of those kids with digestive issues, nursing won't let you completely dodge that bullet. DS did all those things, even though he was exclusively BF until he was 9 mo. (Mind you, the one week that we had to put him temporarily on formula it was 10X worse, but still...)

 

[Who'syourMickey]

Hello from another AP mama!

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I was just remembering a baptism meeting I attended when my 1st DS was 2 mths old. I was the only one there w/ my baby, I was sitting at a table w/ 3 other couples. The conversation had turned to switching formula & then to spitting up, they all had horror stories of projectile vomiting, gassiness, crying, etc.. One Dad trying to be friendly (I guess because I was being quite, I had nothing to contribute since my DS was BF & happy) asked me "How about this little guy, does he spit up a lot?" I said "twice" he said "a day..that's nothing" I said "no in his life, I nurse him & he never throws up or gets gassy, he almost never cries." You should have seen the looks around the table! I don't know if they thought I was lying or just wanted to think that. I should have made them feel better by explaining that I nursed on demand every 2 hours, even at night, then they would have been able to justify not breastfeeding , saying I was crazy hippy mom or something I almost felt guilty that I told them the truth! Really though, I think we should keep this thread friendly, let the "other' thread have the fighting, crying, spanking & projectile vomiting!

You just got lucky and had a good baby. BF'ing as well as formula feeding can cause a gassy, pukey(is that a word?) baby.

My DS or DD never had a drop of breastmilk in their lives and neither threw up. EVER!!!! To this day and they are 9 and 3 , I can count on 1 hand how many times they've thrown up in their lives.

Chalk it up to being a lucky lady. My cousins child is BF exclusively and that kid pukes all the time. I'm so glad my kids didn't do that.

 

[SharkyGoddess]

You just got lucky and had a good baby. BF'ing as well as formula feeding can cause a gassy, pukey(is that a word?) baby.

My DS or DD never had a drop of breastmilk in their lives and neither threw up. EVER!!!! To this day and they are 9 and 3 , I can count on 1 hand how many times they've thrown up in their lives.

Chalk it up to being a lucky lady. My cousins child is BF exclusively and that kid pukes all the time. I'm so glad my kids didn't do that.

If a breastfed child is puking all the time then the child is suffering from a food allergy/sensitivity in the mother's diet or nursing too aggressively. She needs to seek a LC's advice, as spitting up or gassiness is NOT the norm for breastfed children. Your children all tolerating their formula well was a blessing for you, as more often children formula fed puke it up due to it's difficulty being digested and the fact that nipples rarely regulate the flow causing a constant "leak" thus the child drinks more than it would normally.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

If a breastfed child is puking all the time then the child is suffering from a food allergy/sensitivity in the mother's diet or nursing too aggressively. She needs to seek a LC's advice, as spitting up or gassiness is NOT the norm for breastfed children. Your children all tolerating their formula well was a blessing for you, as more often children formula fed puke it up due to it's difficulty being digested and the fact that nipples rarely regulate the flow causing a constant "leak" thus the child drinks more than it would normally.

She has already had appointments with LC, thanks and many have been over everything. For some reason, this is how the baby is able to tolerate the Bf'ing. I know seems odd, but the child is gaining weight and all is OK otherwise, so no one else is concerned.

 

[amarberry]

You just got lucky and had a good baby. BF'ing as well as formula feeding can cause a gassy, pukey(is that a word?) baby.

My DS or DD never had a drop of breastmilk in their lives and neither threw up. EVER!!!! To this day and they are 9 and 3 , I can count on 1 hand how many times they've thrown up in their lives.

Chalk it up to being a lucky lady. My cousins child is BF exclusively and that kid pukes all the time. I'm so glad my kids didn't do that.

My DD was breastfed and threw up all the time from the time she was 1 month old until she was about 7.5 months old. Bibs were her first accessory. It turned out that she had a severe egg allergy. Within a couple of weeks of eliminating eggs from my diet, almost all of the spitting up stopped. You might want to suggest that your cousin consult with a pediatric allergist or consider an elmination diet to see if that would help.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Both of my girls were spitters when they were babies. My mom said I was too (projectile). They could find no reason for it, and they both outgrew it. Funny thing is when pregnant I will projectile vomit too. As my DH once said, how does a 5 foot tall women get vomit on the ceiling????? Sorry for TMI but I figured women on this thread could handle it.

As it turns out my 2nd DD was allergic to eggs and milk, but we think she did not developed it until her 2nd encounter when she was about 8 months old. She did throw up all the formula and cereal she ate at that time, and starting spiting again, after breast feeding when she had outgrown it. My 1st DD had no food allergies and was just as bad of a spitter as her little sister when they were babies. Doctors chalked it up to immature systems.

The good news is breast milk does not stain or smell like formula. I have to admit, one thing that makes me so pro breast feeding (even before I became a mom) was how much I don't like formula. Once I became a breast feeding mom I found other reasons to love it, other then because formula was so stinky and yucky to me personally.

 

[chobie]

I had one who spit up and one who did not. Never figured out why and the spitting up was not too bad. I knew when it was coming for the most part and like you said, it did not stink and it came up quite soon after he ate so it was not partially digested.

 

[KandiB47]

I haven't read the thread yet except for the first couple comments but I will soon. Hi everybody and nice to meet you! My name is Kandi and I'm a mama to Kaden, who is 14 months old. I'm still breastfeeding and co-sleeping. I never would have guessed this when I was pregnant. I never even heard of AP before I had my DS. I read about AP when DS was a couple weeks old and realized that was my parenting style. It's just what came naturally

I'll talk to you soon!

 

[Juliet25]

I haven't read the thread yet except for the first couple comments but I will soon. Hi everybody and nice to meet you! My name is Kandi and I'm a mama to Kaden, who is 14 months old. I'm still breastfeeding and co-sleeping. I never would have guessed this when I was pregnant.

Me neither! I remember nursing my then 3 month old and my SIL was sitting across from me nursing her then 8 month old, and all I could think was, "Isn't that kid a little too old to be nursing!" Of course, 5 months later my DD was still going strong on BF.

It's funny how we become AP by accident.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Me neither! I remember nursing my then 3 month old and my SIL was sitting across from me nursing her then 8 month old, and all I could think was, "Isn't that kid a little too old to be nursing!" Of course, 5 months later my DD was still going strong on BF.

It's funny how we become AP by accident.

That would be me too. I was just so happy to find group that didn't think I was nuts to totally change my diet to continue to breast feed a allergic toddler. My family and good friends were supper supportive. Most everyone thought I was crazy. It was nice to have someone get it.

I think my decent in AP really is because my mother was more AP then me, and while I don't do everything on the list, it comes very naturally.

 

[Kiera & Jordan's Mom]

My DH has always worked night shift, so my dd always slept with me. Now, she is 8 and we still can't get her out of our bed. I did buy a roll-a-way bed to put on my side of the bed for her to sleep in when dh is home, because with 4 dogs also in the bed, there just isn't enough room. She was the best birth control I could have ever used though.

 

[TwoOwls]

I feel like I have walked into the Disboard version of West Side story.

Are we the Jets or the Sharks??? (sorry bad joke).

My mother is from a culture where they practice a lot of AP principals. I had no clue until I had my first child that how many in my neighborhood were raised was AP.

Right now we are moving toward more of own philosophy of raising our kids. My husband comes from a different culture so we try to incorporate things from both our lives. Somethings other don't. But we gear it to each individual child.

I find as time goes on I trying to move away from a certain label and just trying to do what is best.

 

[dunbarfamily]

You can add me to the accidental APers club! It was a gradual thing. Started off by breastfeeding my first (oh....the horrible looks my family gave me!) and now I sleep with my babies, wear my babies, bf my babies...the list goes on and on!

And I'm turning crunchy now too. We try to eat organic, I homebirth, we don't see doctor unless we really need to, etc. I would've never imagined I'd be living this lifestyle!

Go figure!

 

[Juliet25]

Hey, Dunbar -- Congrats on being new AKV DVC owners! My DH and I took the plunge last year. It was my 30th birthday present. We bought into BWV as I didn't really want to own at SSR (uh oh, hope I'm not opening a new can 'o worms there!). Wow, wish I knew about AKV though! We're staying Concierge level in February '08. I can't wait. I absolutely *love* being a DVC owner, even if it was a rather large frivolous expense!

 

[emh1129]

I was just wondering how many of you BF for longer than 1 year??? The WHO now recommends at least 2 years...

My dd weaned this month at 32 months. It just seemed to fly by, I can't believe she's all done But I'm happy that we lasted as long as we did and now *hopefully* there won't be any issues when the new baby comes in January.
to all the bf'ing moms!

 

[emh1129]

Hello from another AP mama!

 

[NemoMOm]

EMH1129,
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I just read your signature as I was reading your other posts. We have some things in common! I think you are about a week or so ahead of me, my DS is 30 weeks and started weaning last week and is almost done. I too, am thinking of having a vbac, although I'm a little scared

Just wanted to say "hi".

 

[karinbelle]

BF my DS until he was 2. Only stopped because I had surgery and the pain meds would come through my milk.

Now BF my 5 month old. She's in her crib for the early part of the night, but comes into my bed about 1-3 p.m. Sometimes she stays till morning, sometimes I put her back in her crib.

Tried the sling with DD and she likes it better than the stroller. I find people always smile at me with her in the sling. They are surprised to see her.

FUnny thing - a bachelor friend watched my DSIL and me both BF our children under a blanket. He asked "What's with the kids under the blanket - is it a new bonding thing?" He had no clue what we were doing. It was too funny.