OT: Am I being ridiculous?

[acename]

My 10 month old's baby sitter (not her regular one because her regular one is gone to church camp with her kids) asked to take the baby grocery shopping. They would be leaving at 3:30 or so, and I figured they would be home by around 5:30. It's also a close family friend so I figured we'd have no problem. Well, it is 8 here now and still no baby. Not only that but they didn't even call me. I'm pretty mad.

My mom thinks I'm being silly. She said "They probably just went to eat or something." I understand that but at least call and tell me.
She's diffucult to put to bed any way now that it's her bed time she'll be horrible.

Am I being silly? Or would you be upset?

Thanks

 

[phillmolly]

No, I don't think you are being silly, if it were I would be really worried and upset. Don't they have a cell phone you can call? I am sure everything is fine, but of course you are going to worry. I would defintily say something about not calling.

 

[gelebean]

I don't blame you. I would be upset too. Although I am somewhat of a worry wart.

I would let your babysitter know how worried you were and that you need at least a phone call if they are going to do anything else then what was told to you. You are just being a good mom.

Hope you work things out.

 

[Frankiesmom]

I think I would be beyond po'd- my DH would have to meet them @ the door as I probably wouldn't trust myself talking to the sitter! Good Luck!

 

[acename]

Of course as soon as I post they show up!

She told me they went to eat, then to the doctor, then to the pharmacy THEN to the grocery. I didn't say anything because it's a friend of my mom's but I sure wanted to. It's a good thing my husband wasn't home because I know he would have commented.

I didn't have their cell phone number, but you can bet I do now.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent y'all.

 

[gelebean]

Glad to here everything is ok but wow what a trip to the grocery store!

 

[mamaLori05]

Man, I would have been freaking out also!!! I too probably wouldn't have had the guts to say anything, but you better believe the next time she would ask to take the kids anywhere I would definatly say no!! I'm suprised she did that to you, that's pretty mean. Most parents would be worried sick trying to figure out where their kids are!!

 

[sk!mom]

I would be worried and furious. The sitter would know my feelings. I probably would not use her again.

 

[mommytoone]

I would be worried and furious. The sitter would know my feelings. I probably would not use her again.

I totally agree!! Friend or not, there is no excuse for her to act in such a careless manor. She would be upset if someone had her kids and she had no way to contact them and thye were gone for hours. I understand you not wanting to make a big scene, but I would have said something. Like, Next time, of course there would NOT be a next time, but Next time you need to tell me where you will be incase something happens, or whatever, and I need to have a number to reach you at, you should have let her know that you were Worried, to say the least. My MIL has done this with my DD and It just infuriates me. She is not permitted to take her ANYWHERE and my DD is 7 now. DH and I will not let her in the Car with his mom, because she is so careless.

You don't have to start a war, but you can let her know your feelings. I am glad that everything turned out OK, and your baby is back home safe.

 

[nessz79]

No, absolutely NOT ridiculous or silly on your part. I'd be pretty mad.

I would say something like "I wish you would have called. I was very worried." Then I would not use her again unless there was some really good reason for her being late without calling.

 

[Disneychix]

Although the OP didn't have her cell # she said it was a friend of her mother's so should could have phoned mom and got the #. Also, maybe the sitter thought she was doing the OP a favor by giving her some free time. A lot of times people love being around kids and showing them off so she was probably having a good time and didn't realize she'd been gone so long. It probably wasn't meant as a malicious act to keep the child.

Live and learn. Glad everyone returned safely.

 

[Jenvenza]

I would be freaking out. And freakin mad as well. That is not responsible at all and I would never allow that to happen again.

 

[bumbershoot]

One hopes she didn't charge for all that extra time.

And as for taking someone else's kid to the doctor, especially if the pharmacy trip was related to that, I'd be really uncomfortable. I don't like taking my kid to places where sick people congregate unless it's really needed, and a trip to the doctor for a babysitter just seems unnecessary. One wonders why she offered to sit, when she had that doctor's appt.