Opinions please "Mean Girl" related!!

[dementia412]

I have this problem in my own home. My kids are great in twos no matter which kids are involved, but if all three are together, one always ends up getting excluded. The girls exclude the boy, the oldest two exclude the youngest or the younger two exclude the oldest. Today the oldest one came down wet because the other two were throwing water on her (never got the whole story on that one), and my youngest runs in crying that the others won't let her play all the time. These same monster kids will turn around and be so sweet to each other and play so well so long as one of them is removed.

Soon they will all be walking to school together.

 

[Erin13178]

I agree it sounds like self-esteem on the part of Mom and dd.

I think a lot of parents say one thing (you can discipline my child) but then when it really comes down to it, it rubs them the wrong way. A lot of this comes from the mindset that "my child can do no wrong." Of course they would never say this, and to your face they will say they can do wrong, but when it comes down to it, their child is perfect. I hope that made sense.

My dd is turning 4 Wednesday. Today is the party, and frankly I'm nervous because she wanted to invite a bunch of friends. Actually I may make my own post about this. I'm just nervous about the bickering.

I hope your dd truely knows she is a wonderful, beautiful child, and no matter what those other girls say, she is important.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I feel for ya, at four years old, geez, we were at least in the 3rd grade. I have been through this a few times and it is not fun. I have learned a big lesson, and that is to try to stay out of it as much as you can. I would distance her away from those girls by putting limits on how much time they spend together. If you have any more problems, take care of it your self. It does no good to go to the parents, most of the time, because it will just cause problems with the adults. I could tell you two different stories about it but it would take to long. Just try to stay cool, calm & collected, as hard as it is.