Opinions on spanking children?

[lustergirl]

Why would a "gentle swipe on the behind" work in terms of changing childrens actions?

Geee I don't know why: maybe it shows them they are doing something that is not acceptable. And spanking is one thing and physical abuse is another. A gentle swipe is far different than a beating. Too each is own though

 

[AustinTink]

Spanking is just lazy parenting. It takes a lot more time and energy to reason with/teach/discipline a child. Spanking is an easy out in my book.

 

[Freyja]

Geee I don't know why: maybe it shows them they are doing something that is not acceptable. And spanking is one thing and physical abuse is another. A gentle swipe is far different than a beating. Too each is own though

In what way does it show them? If it´s not abuse, and not beating, doesn´t hurt and isn´t humiliating I can´t see what huge impact it would make that can´t be made otherwise.

Spanking is just lazy parenting. It takes a lot more time and energy to reason with/teach/discipline a child. Spanking is an easy out in my book.

ITA!

 

[lustergirl]

Spanking is just lazy parenting. It takes a lot more time and energy to reason with/teach/discipline a child. Spanking is an easy out in my book.

And this is why parents have different ways to raise their child- I don't disagree with you but other opinions are just that: opinions.

 

[lustergirl]

In what way does it show them? If it´s not abuse, and not beating, doesn´t hurt and isn´t humiliating I can´t see what huge impact it would make that can´t be made otherwise.



ITA!

Different strokes for different folks- have a nice day

 

[Freyja]

Different strokes for different folks- have a nice day

So you can´t even explain. Guess that says a lot!

 

[lustergirl]

So you can´t even explain. Guess that says a lot!

What would you like to hear? Doesn't say much, I have my opinion and you have yours- not arguing with you- have a nice day!!

 

[Freyja]

No reason to explain, just a belief, not going to argue with you though, don't really care how you take it.

No need to argue. Personally I prefer knowing how and why various parenting styles work, not just believing. But I guess that same goes for that as for spanking, different strokes for different folks. Hope you have a great day too!

 

[lustergirl]

No need to argue. Personally I prefer knowing how and why various parenting styles work, not just believing. But I guess that same goes for that as for spanking, different strokes for different folks. Hope you have a great day too!

Thanks, sorry I am not a child psychologist so my opinions are not medically categorized, just my opinion.

 

[Hannathy]

Why is it that anti-spanking folks feel the need to force their opinion down everyone's throats?

I agree. Why can't they say do what you want and We will do what you want.

I find it so funny that I'm 100% pro spanking yet with my 2 children there has only been 2 times, that is once for each child that they ever got a swat read that 1 good swat on their behinds in almost 20 yrs. Yeah us pro spankers are so abusive!

 

[Freyja]

Thanks, sorry I am not a child psychologist so my opinions are not medically categorized, just my opinion.

No need to feel sorry. There are a lot of great books and articles out there if you´re interested.

 

[Freyja]

I agree. Why can't they say do what you want and We will do what you want.

I find it so funny that I'm 100% pro spanking yet with my 2 children there has only been 2 times, that is once for each child that they ever got a swat read that 1 good swat on their behinds in almost 20 yrs. Yeah us pro spankers are so abusive!

Doesn´t this just show that you got excellent parenting results by using other methods than spanking?

 

[Hannathy]

Doesn´t this just show that you got excellent parenting results by using other methods than spanking?

It shows that there is a time and place for all types of punishment. That none need to be banned and parents should be free to use whatever method is appropriate at that time.

 

[The Pink Cupcake]

If you still spank your 16 year old, I am going to say that you have issues.

 

[ols386]

I was spanked as a child. Not frequently and certainly not beaten. I don't feel that I ever had any emotional scars from being spanked.

I did not spank my kids when they were young, but I did give then a swat on the bottom a few times. Don't think they have any emotional scars from that either.

 

[luvsJack]

How well is spanking working for ya? You are still signing notes that allow your child to be spanked in high school. Yikes!

They are working age, and yet you think it is ok for a paddle to come in contact with their rear end?

Strange.

Well if you had read what I posted you would find that dd (jr high) has never been in trouble at all so it has never come up. My sons are adults now but were never paddled in high school. They may each been paddled in grammer school and jr high once or twice. so apparently it DID work.

 

[luvsJack]

If you still spank your 16 year old, I am going to say that you have issues.

oh for the love of all that is holy i didn't say i DID spank a 16 year old i said if a parent makes that decision and it doesn't turn into more then its up to them.

 

[luvsJack]

Doesn´t this just show that you got excellent parenting results by using other methods than spanking?

or maybe knowing they can be spanked is enough to make it unnecessary

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Just jumping in to say I'm another who was both spanked and physically/verbally/emotionally abused as a kid. There's a difference. One is embarrassing, not painful and designed to make you aware that you need to clean up your act. The other is someone taking out their personal aggressions on you because they can.

 

[castmember19]

Just popping back in to say sorry for asking. LOL.

I didn't know it was such a heated topic. Like I said, I'm nineteen years old- these aren't things I think about often or that I debate with anyone. I was curious to see the arguments from both sides.

Now that I've gotten an earful, I think I'm getting the heck away from this topic now. Thanks for the opinions!