Opinions on Confrontations?

[RobinFabulous]

We were just there and we decided to be as KIND as we possibly could. My sister stopped an older couple trying to take their own picture and offered to take it for them. We crowded up to allow more room for other kids at the parades.


I just DO NOT understand people. Everyone paid the same price to be there (give or take) and it's there for everyone to enjoy. I can overlook almost anything but the one time I had to open my mouth.....

Jonah has special needs and does tend to get dreamy eyed. He LOVED the catle and anytime we went by it he would just stare and daydream at it... Well we kept hands on him at all times, but one time he did manage to shrug off and stop to stare.... of course some obnoxious witch on a scooter almost ran him down and yelled "Move kid" UGH I stoped and gave her a death glare. She could have just as easily gone around him. If she had hit him with that scooter I swear security would have had to remove me....
ANyhoo here's a pic of my baby loving the castle

 

[dolphindan1]

You probably would have been better off letting his mother know instead of "scolding" him. Regardless of what my son does, I refuse to let strangers tell him what to do. I would have appreciated someone telling me he was causing a ruckus rather than hear someone tell him not to do something ya know? Now, she still may have went off on you but you never know.

See some people dont think there kids are causing a ruckus....If it was my kid and he was disrupting someone I would want them to say something to my child...as long as they were not mean or anything. I would have no problem. Each person is different I see nothing wrong with an adult telling my child not to do something if I didnt see my child or notice the child doing something wrong, especially if he was about to get hurt....Lets face it adults get occupied too....JMHO...I have big issues with parents who thinks they are the only ones allowed to say something to there children, these are usually the parents whos kids are running rampant at the pool, running around the resorts while they are sitting at a table having a drink...Its also the same parents that there child does no wrong in school and the teacher is always wrong...

Not saying thats use, just in general...So dont take offense to my statement please...

 

[aceys_h0ney]

So while we were leaving one night after wishes (madhouse!) this woman slammed her stroller into my child 2 times, well right before she did it a third time my husband put his leg in the way and asked her to quit hitting our child. She mumbled and manuevered her way to the other side of the street. So I am in the group of people that will let things go unless my children are getting hurt.
I also learned to just hang out after the fireworks and wait for everyone else to leave

However I feel bad now, on our first day there I didnt know that my infant could ride most of the rides so after everyone else got in line for the magic carpets I asked a CM and he told me she could ride. Well I made my way (polietly) up the where my family was and we all rode on one ride but I got some dirty looks. I feel bad about that now people probably thought I was full of it and just using my baby to cut in line.

Wow I got off track, on with the original question. I will confront people who are just way out of line but honestly that has to be a situation like above where my daughter was getting run over. I guess I am a pushover but I try and let things like line cutter slide off my back. I feel that usually confrontation does not do anything but cause more problems. However after two days of people cutting in front of my stroller while we were walking around MK when they would say excuse me as they were jumping over my baby I would yell out "saying excuse me does not make it any less rude" my hubby who is the quick tempered one got a good laugh out of me.

 

[Nancyg56]

I generally let most things slide, confronting rude people generally does not result in a good time. I have intervened when older children are treating the hot tub like a swimming pool. I do not want my vacation ruined because a kid decided to dive in while Mom and Dad are busy elsewhere. Other than situations like that I try let it all go.

 

[JESW]

I can usually just ignore bad behavior but there have been just a couple of times when I have spoken up. One time in line for Space Mountain there were a couple of teenage boys who were using the "our family is up there" excuse to get ahead of everyone. The first time I saw them I let them by - but not the second time!

One time while waiting in line to see a character a family cut in front of everyone then used the "we don't speak english" excuse. Well, me & the guy in front of me called them on it and they were removed from the line.

I usually try to do what I can to keep the peace.

Jill

 

[dolphindan1]

So while we were leaving one night after wishes (madhouse!) this woman slammed her stroller into my child 2 times, well right before she did it a third time my husband put his leg in the way and asked her to quit hitting our child. She mumbled and manuevered her way to the other side of the street. So I am in the group of people that will let things go unless my children are getting hurt.
I also learned to just hang out after the fireworks and wait for everyone else to leave

However I feel bad now, on our first day there I didnt know that my infant could ride most of the rides so after everyone else got in line for the magic carpets I asked a CM and he told me she could ride. Well I made my way (polietly) up the where my family was and we all rode on one ride but I got some dirty looks. I feel bad about that now people probably thought I was full of it and just using my baby to cut in line.

Wow I got off track, on with the original question. I will confront people who are just way out of line but honestly that has to be a situation like above where my daughter was getting run over. I guess I am a pushover but I try and let things like line cutter slide off my back. I feel that usually confrontation does not do anything but cause more problems. However after two days of people cutting in front of my stroller while we were walking around MK when they would say excuse me as they were jumping over my baby I would yell out "saying excuse me does not make it any less rude" my hubby who is the quick tempered one got a good laugh out of me.

I had to stop my youngest from doing that to strollers and ECV's....when were there last week it wasnt too crowded and my 8 year old would wander off to the other side off the pathway or what have you. Well when I would call him back over there always seem to be a stroller or ECV coming by and he always had to be pass them to me before they passed by...I let it go the ist time cause I thought maybe it was an accident, 2nd time I spologized the family, 3rd time he was apologizing as was I, plua that was the last time he did it as he didnt like my hand across his behind in front of everyone...but it nipped it in the bud....

 

[RobinFabulous]

I can usually just ignore bad behavior but there have been just a couple of times when I have spoken up. One time in line for Space Mountain there were a couple of teenage boys who were using the "our family is up there" excuse to get ahead of everyone. The first time I saw them I let them by - but not the second time!

One time while waiting in line to see a character a family cut in front of everyone then used the "we don't speak english" excuse. Well, me & the guy in front of me called them on it and they were removed from the line.
I usually try to do what I can to keep the peace.

Jill

We had this happen on Philharmagic, but just let it go. I don't normally use a stroller and accidentally knocked into a couple of people's legs. I ALWAYS said Oh I'm sorry, excuse me. The first said It's okay, the second gave me a nasty look

 

[aceys_h0ney]

I had to stop my youngest from doing that to strollers and ECV's....when were there last week it wasnt too crowded and my 8 year old would wander off to the other side off the pathway or what have you. Well when I would call him back over there always seem to be a stroller or ECV coming by and he always had to be pass them to me before they passed by...I let it go the ist time cause I thought maybe it was an accident, 2nd time I spologized the family, 3rd time he was apologizing as was I, plua that was the last time he did it as he didnt like my hand across his behind in front of everyone...but it nipped it in the bud....

See I love parents like you who realize when their child is misbehaving and correct them. I understand that kids dont always know what they are doing is wrong/unpolite. The worst offenders of this were teenage boys, who were tall enough to almost kick my daughter in the head as they were leaping over her. I must admit I was slightly jealous that they could jump that high, what I wouldent give to be young and able to do that again!

 

[jamstew]

I've never had a confrontation, but I did stop several older kids from getting in front of my family at Spectromagic. We had claimed a table and two chairs (for the four of us) on the balcony of the train station an hour before parade time. My daughter was five months pregnant, and she and I both needed to sit. My son and grandson stood alongside the table, against the rail. Sure enough, about five minutes before the parade was to start, I heard an adult say, "just go on up there." The two pre-teens started trying to squeeze up to the rail in front of our chairs, where they would basically have had to sit in our laps. I turned sideways in my chair, extended my arm to where I could hold onto the rail, turned around and said to the parent, "Nope, not gonna happen." It didn't

 

[dolphindan1]

See I love parents like you who realize when their child is misbehaving and correct them. I understand that kids dont always know what they are doing is wrong/unpolite. The worst offenders of this were teenage boys, who were tall enough to almost kick my daughter in the head as they were leaping over her. I must admit I was slightly jealous that they could jump that high, what I wouldent give to be young and able to do that again!

I was was a stroller pusher at Disney. So I know how frustrating it is to push a stroller and have people cut you off. And also as a former Stroller pusher the people I usually hit were the ones that stopped right in front of me, I wouldnt do it on purpose but it just happened....

As far ECV's, wheelchairs what have you....those people and there family's have earned and deserved more respect and kindness and thats was my sons strike 3, so I was a little tuffer on him about it....

The most magic my wife and I saw last week was all the families willing to bring there children with disibilities to Disney....we let several in front of us in line....My wife was in tears a couple times and we usually had big smiles sometimes seeing the families reactions....If thats any of yall "God Bless each of you"....

 

[BradyBz12]

Well said Matt71!!

The worst thing for me is the 3-d show waiting areas...I have seen people just push and knock people out of the way to be 1st in the row and plop down in the middle..

What we usually do is intentionally stand towards the middle/back and let a bunch of people get in front of us so we can "legitimately" sit towards the middle.

Gotta say that this last trip, we were in loads of these situations and we encountered very few of those people that just plunk in the middle and make people climb over them.

I made my way (polietly) up the where my family was and we all rode on one ride but I got some dirty looks. I feel bad about that now people probably thought I was full of it and just using my baby to cut in line.

Honestly, if I saw a mom and baby going to meet the rest of their family in line, I would hardly be cheesed off.

It's when one parent and 3 or 4 (or more!) older kids come busting through, gloating over all the rides they did while mom was holding their place in line for them that make most people nuts (including me).

The SpectroMagic story reminded me of one that happened to us too. Same location (train station). An older couple had staked out a bench along a railing at least 30 minutes ahead of time (possibly more, they were there when we arrived). As they were sitting, we stood behind them. Next to us was a mom whose daughter had gone to get drinks. They too had been there for a long time. As the parade started, another family came up behind what was now a pretty thick crowd and while pushing their 10 year old son forward between people said, "can he come up?" Clearly it was a rhetorical question.

The boy had a camera and was taking pics of the parade, leaning in front of and reaching across both the 2 women he was next to and the older woman in the bench. His mom did nothing despite everyone trying to maneuver around HIM to see and avoid being stepped on.

The mom/daughter had put their drink tray on the floor right at their feet. At one point the boy was trying to scoot completely in front of both of them (there was room for a drink tray - not a person) and the daughter gently pointed out to him that he needed to stay where he was. Again his mom was oblivious to her son's actions. Can't blame the kid, and the woman that spoke to him handled it nicely (considering he'd been bouncing around in front of her for most of the parade). No one got upset, and the boy stayed in his place after that.

Regarding talking to the parent and not the kid directly...
I'm not even sure if this woman would have known who to talk to without making a big stink e.g. yelling, "Whose kid is this?!?" The boy's mom was at least 2 people behind me when she pushed him through, and was clearly not paying any attention to him.

This was one of those situations where we all pretty much "let it go" until the boy was actually in a position to wreck something (by kicking over someone else's stuff). You could tell from the looks that no one was thrilled, but hey - you can't blame a 10 year old if mom says "it's fine, just get in there." <sigh>

 

[Pakey]

I'm extremely non confrontational and generally don't let stuff bother me.

One time we were at bus stop at AK, it was a hot day and the line was in the sun. We had to wait for the next bus due to the lines but we were first in line to get on the next one back to our resort. Two young boys came up and stood by the curb. I saw their parents coming and thought for sure they would tell them to get in the long line but they didn't; they just stood behind their kids.

When the bus arrived, I moved quickly and blocked them. I made sure all of my family plus the family we had been talking to behind us for 20 minutes got on first. While I blocked, I got to listen to the mom tell her kids that yes, there were rude people like me in this world.

 

[dolphindan1]

I'm extremely non confrontational and generally don't let stuff bother me.

One time we were at bus stop at AK, it was a hot day and the line was in the sun. We had to wait for the next bus due to the lines but we were first in line to get on the next one back to our resort. Two young boys came up and stood by the curb. I saw their parents coming and thought for sure they would tell them to get in the long line but they didn't; they just stood behind their kids.

When the bus arrived, I moved quickly and blocked them. I made sure all of my family plus the family we had been talking to behind us for 20 minutes got on first. While I blocked, I got to listen to the mom tell her kids that yes, there were rude people like me in this world.

When I heard that I would have turned around and said yeah you mean like people who dont wait in line like everyone else...

 

[BeckieSue]

We try to set a positive example for our DS & DD (ages 10) They see the same things that we see and know that it is wrong. Although I might confront someone that did the same thing in the grocery store ....at the Happiest Place On Earth....it just dosen't seem right. If they need to get onto that ride 3 minutes sooner than my family.....go ahead.

 

[dolphindan1]

We try to set a positive example for our DS & DD (ages 10) They see the same things that we see and know that it is wrong. Although I might confront someone that did the same thing in the grocery store ....at the Happiest Place On Earth....it just dosen't seem right. If they need to get onto that ride 3 minutes sooner than my family.....go ahead.

Me too but I also teach them to stand up for yourself and always stand for something...

Like the song says

"You got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything"

So true

 

[buckirj1]

deleted comment so as not to hack off the mommies

 

[drew64]

It is not worth wasting time on the ignorant people of the world- and yes, there are many! They will not change.

I make a rather pointed, sarcastic comment and move on usually.

For those who try to push in front at parades, etc. - that is what elbows are for. After a few well placed jabs, they get the message.

 

[Matt71]

For those who try to push in front at parades, etc. - that is what elbows are for. After a few well placed jabs, they get the message.

I wouldn't be surprised to see someone posting about the rude guy that kept elbowing him at the parade and how rude he was.

 

[dolphindan1]

I wouldn't be surprised to see someone posting about the rude guy that kept elbowing him at the parade and how rude he was.

I was wondering why I had all those bruises in my rib section after Spectro last week....

 

[dqpowell]

For those who try to push in front at parades, etc. - that is what elbows are for. After a few well placed jabs, they get the message.

Though the pushy people you're referring to are wrong for attempting to jump in front at parades, elbow jabs applied on purpose are, legally speaking, assault and/or battery. Two wrongs don't make a right.

David