Opinions needed...stressed out

[jcpuppy.com]

Maybe he wants to enjoy his grandkid at the park? Disney has that affect on grandparents.
Just tell him your schedule and if he is cool with that let hom come along. he is a big boy and can entertain himself when he is too tired to hang with you

 

[disneymom06]

I think that the suggestion of arranging a dinner at DTD is probably a good path. I hear your pain. Honesty doesn't work with people like this (mil) because they are not listening to you and see only their way anyhow. I have been in your situation, I am so sorry for you, I know how you feel.

Go about your vacation just as you were going to do before they tagged along. Take in all the parks and EMH's that you want. If they are staying off property that works in your favor. If they fit into your schedule, you fit them in, don't allow yourself to rearrange your schedule for them. It will never be enough for them(her), and you will be unhappy.

I hope that you really enjoy your vacation. Sounds like you need it.

 

[ilovecoasters]

You have all made a difficult time a little easier to deal with. I'm very sensitive when it comes family relationships. It is a power struggle with my father's wife, plain and simple. It has always been that everything is done on her terms. I just plan on letting this settle and enjoying the time with DH and Ds.

 

[portia9]

I do think you need to take a hard stance but I am sorry they put you in this position.

Yvette

 

[cathydwin]

Have a good cry before you go and myp wjie you are there. Stick to your plan and enjoy the time together. You can forgive her rudeness but will she be a good tinkervell and foirgive? Enjoy your time before the learnign & stress begins!!!

 

[TBGOES2DISNEY]

I love to chime in on these things. My ILs invited themselves on our last trip (also our first). When I go on vacation, I want to be with my family, enjoying my children myself and get away from it all - that includes the ILs. This caused lots of fighting between my DH and me. He said he can't tell anyone where they can and can't go. They've dropped hints that they want to come with us next time too. DH says the same thing. I'm not one to speak up, but I'm trying to visualize myself saying (nicely), "We'd really like to go ourselves this time, if you don't mind." Grrrrrr.....

 

[mumom95]

Forget about them coming along, I can't get over that your father asked you to cancel your trip in the first place.

Hope it all goes well. Your in a tough position. Good luck!!

 

[PoohBear321]

I can totally sympathize with you. My situation isn't my parents but my inlaws....

They've always been "in your face" kind of people. My mother in law is sweet but tends to "help" you into submission and my father in law is loud, opinionated, and his way is of course always the best way. My mother in law at least has some sense of boundaries whereas my father in law has none. We became DVC members last spring and they told us that everyone was going to WDW in December...that being the two of them, my sister in law, and her husband and two daughters. We decided it would be fun to go too and knew that if SIL was there with her family the inlaws would bug us less and therefore the trip would actually be fun and not a constant game of ditch the family So we drove down, met up with them here and there, but basically also had our own vacation in addition to the big family vacation. We had planned on a March 2008 trip but that wasn't looking possible so we decided to bump it up to October of this year and go to the MNNSHP that we've never been too. Not only do I get to go sooner we also get to celebrate DS's birthday in WDW. They decided they wanted to go too but when we planned on going "didn't quite work for them" and they wanted us to change the dates. They also wanted to drive down with us...in their time frame of course...and book a two bedroom villa instead of a one bedroom and just all stay together. I decided to be the bigger person and told DH that I'd cave and agree to the travelling together and room thing. But when they decided to cram our proposed three day car trip into two (which would mean skipping lunch, shorter and less frequent stops for bathroom breaks and rest periods, and feeding my 2 year old son meals in the car) to make better time I became MUCH less accomodating and was flipping out with DH. I have medical issues and can't be confined in a car that many hours a day, I take meds that I can't skip meals with, and I'm NOT making my poor kid eat in the car to save them time...AND IT WOULD BE MY CAR we'd be taking no less! I was also told I'd have to pack less and just do laundry while we'd be there because we'd need more van room for them and their stuff. I about flipped out at all these demands on my already compromising self. But the clincher was when they said of course we'd have to stay less days so we could be home when they needed to be home. Cut short a vacation in WDW!?!? Are they nuts? Well that did it...I said look we're going when we planned on going and if that doesn't suit your schedule then you're more than welcome to come down on your own, make your own arrangements, and spend time with us when you're there. I have ADR's for pretty much every breakfast and dinner we're gonna be there but I would have been happy to see if they could be changed to include them. Those were compromises I was willing to make so my son could have some time with his grandparents in WDW. But asking me to cut short my vacation...you gotta be nuts. They decided not to go after all so we'll actually have a nice vacation just the three of us.

They know we're planning a trip in March 2009 for our anniversary and my birthday. They've already "informed" us that they'll be going too, they want to drive down together, and get a two bedroom villa. They might not know it yet but that'll happen when you know where freezes over. There is NO way I'm compromising to that extent on a vacation to celebrate my anniversary and birthday. I'll agree to them coming down the same time...after all I can't stop them from going to WDW if they want to go...they have DVC too. But I can dictate that it not be in the car with us or in the same villa. I don't even want them in the same resort but I can't really control that one either....maybe if I find a way to make sure they're just not in the same building...