opinions needed... sleepover on a school night?

[kaylajr]

My 11 year old DD thinks that DH and i are mean because we said no to a sleepover at a friends house on a school night

we are letting her go to same friends house next friday night but
she doesn't understand why we said NO even though i explained our reasons several times

anyway my question is would you or do you let your kids sleep over
or have kids over on school nights??

 

[tidoublegger]

Absolutely, positively NO! I'd never even consider it for a second!!!!

 

[Trish5768]

No way! Join the mean Mom's club, we have jackets!

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

No way . . .sleepovers are on school vacation weeks, holidays and weekends . . .no if ands or buts . . .

 

[The Mystery Machine]

NO WAY! There would have to be a good darn reason for it, like a project or we had to go out of town or something like that.

 

[bsnyder]

I wouldn't do it just for the heck of it, but I've done it occasionally for convenience. We're going to be out late tonight. DD is going to spend the night with her cousins, so that we don't keep a sitter up late, and she can just ride to school with them in the morning.

 

[KarenC]

Nope. And the kids aren't allowed to have sleepovers on non-school nights when DH and I have to work.

 

[poohandwendy]

No way! Join the mean Mom's club, we have jackets!

LOL, where can I get mine?

To the OP: too bad, so sad...answer would be NO...if anything, copping an attitude about my decisions makes me even more 'mean'

 

[HisEllyNelly]

Not a chance, and both of my children have asked. I too get the...BUT YOU'RE SO MEAN...so and so's parents let them. I figure if I dont hear the words "no fair" or "you're so mean" every once in awhile then I must not be doing my job the right way.

 

[aprincessmom]

Another mean mother here...no way if it is just for fun. We do, however, have one of DD's friends staying with us for a week but her mom is having another baby and we are helping out. But that's an entirely different matter.

 

[disney4us2002]

For some reason this post struck me as funny. If my 11 yr old asked me such a question as a sleepover on a school night, I'd probably come back with something like, "Have you met me???" In all seriousness, mine know not to even ask such absurd questions. Does your dd report that other kids do this? Pretty much all the parents around here do seem consistent with this rule at least.

The one rule that we have that seems some parents don't share is that a parent must be at the home where my child is going. We don't allow our kids to have friends over when we're not home so I expect the same from my kids' friends' parents but we've had it happen and looked like the meanies when we brought the kids to our house. The most absurd situation occured over Halloween when our oldest, age 15, was asked to a costume party by a friend and I asked to speak to the parents (I didn't know this particular friend) presumably about directions, any food to bring, etc. and the mom was the flakiest person I've ever spoken to. She had no idea if there was going to be food, what they were planning to do, or even how many kids were coming. Turns out it was a party planned by her 15 and 17 yr old sons and she and her hubby were going out on a date. My son did not go to the party.

 

[ckret01]

I don't have kids but if I did my answer would be no too. I'm surprised the other parent is allowing for your child to stay at her house on a school night.

 

[ZachnElli]

No, not for fun. But for emergencies, I will help out. Like my sil had surgery and I got my nieces for 2 nights. But absolutely not for fun! Mean mom here too and I'm proud of it!

 

[TinkyGal]

Our children are not allowed to do much "fun stuff" on school nights. Their homework and community activities take up any spare time. We are the exception among their friends, tho'. We have had their friends call and ask if they could go out to a late movie on a school night. They know the answer is "no" but I guess they ask just so they can tell the friend they did ask.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

That is a no-brainer and my kids are still little -

NO, NO & NO

 

[lyeag]

President of the Mean Mommy Club here. My kids would never even dream of asking such a question. I have heard of people doing this, but I have never figured out why parents would allow it.

Sleep overs are for weekends and holidays. Heck I don't even let my kids play video games after dinner on school nights. Homework is finished first thing after school, and then any chores I might have for them.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

No way. I can't imagine a parent allowing a sleepover on a school night. What are they thinking. Sleepovers are for staying up late, and having a nice big leisurely (sp?) breakfast while you're waiting to be picked up. That can only happen on weekends.

 

[kaylajr]

cheering for all us mean mom's

thank you all for backing me up
i truthfully was surprised that she even asked but i think it was
a test of sorts

i could see in am emergancy with family or close friends
but never just because


anyway i feel better
thanks again

 

[SC Minnie]

Add me to the NO list.

I would only the an emergency to help out the parent.

EDIT: Are you sure the other parents even know about the planning of this sleepover?

 

[shortbun]

Sign me up for a jacket! Size: XL Do we have a color choice?

Sleepover on a school night? No way! I really HATE sleepovers anyway. Too much work for mom and dad, no one gets good sleep. Seems I always have other people's
children crying out in their sleep when they are here. I really don't like the thought of mine doing it somewhere else.