Ooh, the monorail DOES smell funny... (almost finished!) [11/30-12/17, 2010]

Looks like I'll be in Sacramento this weekend. My oldest friend's father just died, and it's his memorial service. I feel that it's really important for me to be there...for me, for her, and even for his memory. She's my first old friend to have lost both parents...

It's the first time I've been able to travel for something like this (ff miles, emergency fund, cc points all combining here), but I'm still finding it difficult to work out the arrangements. I've never been able to be there for a friend in such a situation; it feels nice that I can, but it's still sad, and it's a sad sad reason to finally get me down towards my homeland...
 
Oh Molly, I am so sorry to hear about your friends father. That is rough. I think it is a good thing that you can be there for her and I am sure that she will appreciate the moral support.
 
So....I rarely talk with my dad, and haven't even seen him since '07. So I call him to let him know I'll be in San Jose and Sac'to, maybe we can have lunch and does he know any decent hotels in the train/airport area...

Dad answers his cell, turns out the family is at the hospital because my first half-brother is in intensive care with H1N1 (I imagine it's fully diagnosed not just "we figure that's what he has") with a side dose of bacterial meningitis.

:eek::sad1::eek:

Dad says not to come down earlier, as he's showing improvement, just keep my plans...but this is one of my brothers! Not that I would want to expose myself to those things, but still....

What the heck do I do?
 
:hug:

Oh my goodness, what about calling the hospital to check on your brothers condition before coming down. I do know that I would probably come down, I think that if the whole family is at the hospital it must be pretty serious. But that is just me. You have to take into consideration how sick you have been and not take a chance on your health. I know I am probably not helping much, I am sorry.
 

Except for calling the hospital, I have definitely thought of those things, absolutely! Back and forth.

I have a serious aversion to making things more difficult, and while they are often on my mind, I am quite sure that they rarely think of me, since we didn't grow up in the same house, and the boys don't remember when I was around them ALL the time... My sis...she was born when I was 25, so I know I'm not all that important to her. Therefore, I figure that my presence wouldn't be calming or overly helpful... And I don't want to increase stress.

But I know how lucky I was that things only got better for me and not worse (while dealing with the urgent care night and the night after that, I barely slept b/c I felt like I needed to be awake to concentrate on each breath...in the hospital, they sedate you of course...I feel like dying just THINKING of being sedated during that time when every worked-for breath was a victory), and I know that he might look fitter than I do, but he's treated his body quite badly and isn't starting from a place of health... So...

But I think I just need to go forward with the plans. This is requiring Robert to work from home and that is a burden (though an enjoyable one for both of them), and I think I just need to get on the train (most affordable option) on Thursday, arrive Friday...and maybe just add one day onto the trip to visit with the family once everyone is feeling better.
 
I think you are right Molly. I understand the need to want to take care of everyone because I do that. It is the mommy syndrome that I have. I love to take care of people, and I think it is compulsive. It will be better for you and your family if you stick to your original plans. You will be going past me to get to San Jose. Wave as you go through town.
 
I love those photos of you guys all bundled up on the ride!:rotfl2:

I think I've decided, after assessing all of your photos of Christmas trees - or with trees lurking in the background - that I like the main tree in the Magic Kingdom the least. I like all the other trees better (including the hotel trees). For some reason, to me the tree in the MK looks as as if the ornaments have just kind of been sparsely pasted on it, rather than hung from branches. It looks like there are also big gaps of 'tree' showing in between ornaments. This is different from the giant tree in DL, which is pretty covered from inch to inch with ornaments.

But maybe if I saw the MK tree in person it would appear different and I would like it better.

Anyway, I just spent the last couple of hours catching up on your TR and re-reading some of the parts I had already read but forgot. I'm not one of those who reads the first several installments of a long TR, leaves and then comes back only to jump on the latest installments, skipping everything in between. I like to read the middle sections, too. There's no point in sticking with a long TR unless you follow along with the entire thing because you want to feel like you have taken the trip too - and you can't do that if there is a whole missing chunk in the middle! It turned out that I had read some of the parts in the middle, but some of them I had skipped (unintentionally). When I stumbled upon a couple of installments that looked unfamliar, I thought, "Where did that come from? I thought I had caught all the segments!" So it's good that I went back to double check.

I think what I have enjoyed most is reading about and seeing photos of the different hotels, the lands in Epcot and the different food experiences. Even though I'm content with the food choices we have at DLR, I can totally see how someone who is used to WDW would be disappointed to not have the variety of food choices at DLR. And they can't help it - it's just what they are accustomed to. Whereas, those of us who are used to DLR would get to WDW and feel totally overwhelmed by the choices. But I was totally fascinated to read about all of your dining experiences because we have none of that here, basically!

Despite the fiasco you endured at AKL, I must say - THAT is a hotel I would love to stay in. While I wasn't that thrilled with the look of the Wilderness Lodge's decor or fireplace off hand (would have to see it in person), I love the look of everything at the AKL! If I had a room/villa there that overloooked the animals, I don't think I would ever sleep. I would be watching for animals all night long! I think I would also love the Poly.

Love the dinosaur claw light fixture/lamp near Jurassic Park. I am a dinosaur freak from childhood, so anything relating to dinos is right up my alley! I love all the various dino statues in your photos.

Love the stuffed, portly Yeti!!

Ack!:scared1: What the heck was Barney doing in this TR?:scared1: That is one dinosaur I do not dig. Now I have that song - "I love you...you love me..." stuck in my head. Annoying purple puppet.:headache:

Yes, you're right - I would have enjoyed seeing more of the photos from the Kali queue!! Gotta love those details!!!

It's interesting to see the difference in some of the 'with flash' photos and the 'no flash' photos. Even though I rarely use my flash now, every now and then, once in a blue moon, a flash photo will look better than one without, as it draws more attention to the colors of the subject in the picture.

I thoroughly enjoyed the Universal holiday decorations! (I hope no one minds if I just refer to the whole IoA/WWoHPUniversal experience as Universal?) I liked them much more than I thought I would. Love the whimsy and colors of the whole Seuss area, and the great theme of WWoHP. Even though I haven't been to 'my' Universal in 100 years, I still think the one in Orlando looks much more festive than the one out here.

You know, I have some silly "Up" borders on my DLR photos, too!! That was one of the things that discouraged me from this whole past PhotoPass experience. I like fun, clever, cute, colorful borders that make sense. I didn't see anything that made sense with the "Up" borders in relation to my photos...and yet, because I was paying for the darn CD, I felt I had to use the "Up" borders!:rotfl2: I just was not thrilled with this last round of PP pictures at all. Either I found them too boring in a 'been there/done that' kind of way, or there was not a single photo that made the whole thing worthwhile. For example, in 2009, the CD was worth it because I got a really great photo at night in front of the Winter Castle. But this past December, all of the photos were just...blah. I still think PhotoPass is a good option to have, but I've burnt out on it a little.

Oh yeah, I guess we could have gone in on the CD (not that we are encouraging sharing here on the DIS)! That would have been a good idea in theory. I had a combo of November and December photos on there, so I had to get all of mine ordered by early January. But I did get a good $15 discount, so that would have been beneficial to you as well. Ah well, hindsight is 20/20, as we know!!

I'm sorry to see the trip come to an end. Glad to hear you are making a return trip in September. Looks and sounds like it was a fulfilling trip for everyone. Hopefully you will be able to make a return trip to DLR soon too!
 
Thanks, Sherry, for reading and responding! I thought you'd like the Suess decorations.

Isn't it funny that you didn't like the WL interior? I figured it would be just like the Grand, and in many ways it is, but WL did something for me that the Grand doesn't.

Though I hear WL is having a problem with bats in the lobby right now! Yikes! Of course, it could happen in ANY large area like that with doors that are nearly constantly open.


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Got my travel worked out. Taking a proper Journey on the train down. Funny to be passing by Sacramento on the way to San Jose, but it's easier to see my dad on the day I get in, and the friend I'll be riding with lives in SJ. I figure we'll spend the day, and maybe the night, on Sat in Sac'to, then back to SJ for Sunday and most of Monday. Then I'm flying back up.

I doubt I'll be able to see my brother, but I'll at least see my dad. They've ALL been sick, and now will probably have to take cipro for the non-flu component of my brother's illness, because they all live together. That isn't going to be fun for them, I imagine, so it's probably best that I just see my dad. But I can easily enough get over the mountain to Santa Cruz, if need be...

How quickly things change!
 
I think that you will definitely be passing through my area on the train. The train goes through here. So be sure and wave.

I think it is a good idea that they all get the Cipro. How scary. How long before they know for sure what he has?
 
What does one wear to a Catholic memorial service and reception afterwards (at his retirement complex's guest house)?
 
I would think a skirt and blouse would work, wouldn't you?
 
And if you don't have any skirts that fit? Would a dark brown pair of pants that are between khakis and slacks work? And a shirt of some kind of course.

I can't let clothes stop me, this is why I didn't think about clothes before...but aughhhh.
 
And if you don't have any skirts that fit? Would a dark brown pair of pants that are between khakis and slacks work? And a shirt of some kind of course.

I can't let clothes stop me, this is why I didn't think about clothes before...but aughhhh.

I don't see why a nice pair of pants wouldn't work. I am not much of a dress or skirt wearer unless it is a sundress and no hose are required. Of course my mom tells me women don't wear hose now. I feel funny if I don't. I would wear the nice pants. Umm yeah and a shirt.
 
What are the things I have realized, since our trip?


  • Even a long trip can leave things undone
  • Leisure time is important
  • Bring more dollars and fives for tips!
  • I need a new bathing suit, LOL
  • Even cold weather can tire you out, not just hot weather
  • I want to take part in the activities at the resort, not just run to the parks
  • Getting to the parks early is GREAT, and coming home shortly after lunch would have also been great.
  • Grand Marnier slushies are deelish
  • We want to rent a locker each park day next trip!
  • Yay for Universal!
  • Having a plan really works for us, even though we sometimes don't WANT to have to have a plan
  • For us, a rental car is a necessity

Gotta think more about this....

By the way, finally finished, totally finished, the first trimester of E's year of work. Whew!
 
I'm so nervous for the trip. I haven't seen anyone in 3 years. Sigh.

No news from my dad. Hoping no news is good news.

I'm holding out hope that I'll be able to upgrade to a roommette for not-too-much money when I get on the train... Doubt it will happen, but hope springs eternal!

Feeling absolutely horrible about leaving E. Wrenching feelings. Augh.

And I somehow have to get another night of our trip booked tomorrow morning.



Don't let this thread get moved to "finished" yet! I'm not finished, I'm just taking a break for a few days. OK? OK!

(for my DLR folks, when a report is finished up, they close it (no more comments) and send it to the completed area)
 
Molly, I think that E and Robert will be okay. I am sure it will be a great adventure for him.

I am praying that your brother will be okay. And that your trip goes well. I don't remember when you are coming home but I will probably be gone when you get home. Safe travels.
 
Molly - hope that your brother is on the mend soon. Have a safe trip! :goodvibes

Thought of you today. We moved rooms today at Kidani from a 1br to a 2br and were given a Handicap Accessible room. The front desk didn't mention that at all and it was quite a shock since the entire layout is different than what we are used to. No worries - 2 out of the 3 bathrooms do have a bathtub. :thumbsup2 I immediately thought of your trip report and how they did that to you!
 
Molly, I think that E and Robert will be okay. I am sure it will be a great adventure for him.

I am praying that your brother will be okay. And that your trip goes well. I don't remember when you are coming home but I will probably be gone when you get home. Safe travels.

They did well, but now they are sick. I'm going to go out and get some oscillococcinum b/c of the way Robert is feeling, all achey...

Thought of you today. We moved rooms today at Kidani from a 1br to a 2br and were given a Handicap Accessible room. The front desk didn't mention that at all and it was quite a shock since the entire layout is different than what we are used to. No worries - 2 out of the 3 bathrooms do have a bathtub. :thumbsup2 I immediately thought of your trip report and how they did that to you!

Oh I'm glad you were in Kidani for the extra bathroom (only Kidani and Bay Lake have that third one, right?). And in a 2 bedroom!

But yeah, it's definitely weird to see the layout. Makes total sense, given the purpose (no island in the kitchen, etc), but still.

They need to tell people...
 
Wow what a powerful and emotional weekend.

I was dressed just fine, thank goodness. I was able to easily "stand up sit down fight fight fight" for the service, LOL, just my way of being silly about the stand/sit/kneel (though I don't kneel) part of the ceremonies. My friend is just devasted, distraught, ANGRY, and everything about her dad and re-grieving for her mom. The force of her grief made me understand why people wanted to avoid me, especially those who still had all parents alive. But I didn't want to avoid her, that's the worst thing people can do to a grieving person (unless asked by them to avoid them)...I did want to take her grief away...but that's sadly not possible. So I just hugged her as much as I could. We had the ceremony, the reception, we stayed after the reception (4 of us have decided that we are going to live at the retirement community there in Sacramento once one of us turns 55...Heritage Park I believe is what it's called...they have AMAZING facilities, and it's a "have your own HOUSE" type of community, not apartments...they have a restaurant and a bar, and the bar felt like we were on a huge cruiseship), then we went to her house.

As we left her house, we were hugging and crying again, and she whispered that out of everyone (including her husband who lost both parents VERY young), she felt I understood her grief the most...

I spent the next day with another HS friend of mine. She was a year ahead, but she was always around, and she's a very kind person. We hadn't socialized a huge amount, but talking to her is like we were never away from each other at all. We met up, had coffee, walked her new-to-her dog (who was either extremely nervous, carsick, or just sick...first he pooped in the car just moments after I got into the car, and later he threw up in the car), dropped off her dog with her mom, cleaned her car, went to lunch, went to see her classroom (she's a 3rd grade teacher), went to work out at her gym, then met up with other friends for dinner. :)

And the next day my dad picked me up and I was able to see my brother. As of today he's been on the ventilator (respirator? whatever, he's intubated and a machine is breathing for him) 7 days, though he's now on a normal one, not the newfangled oscillating one he was on in the beginning. So he's not being given paralytic drugs, rather he's "just" on fentanyl so he stays asleep. But he still reacts. He had color to his skin, which is so so good, he made it obvious that he liked how his mom was smoothing his hair back, he reacted to me being there and talking to him... I told him to enjoy the fentanyl LOL, and also made sure to let him know that he was modestly covered, which I felt was important as he is as private about his body as I am. Also told him goopy sister stuff, of course, and let him know that my full brother is rooting for him, which was true...I let my brother know about him, and brother immediately called back letting me know that if I needed ANYTHING (even for them to come up to the bay area) to just let him know.

It was SO hard to visit, and I'm SO glad I did. I wish I could still be down there, but I can't stay at their house b/c of allergies, and I'd need to bring E which cuts down on the non-allergic houses where I could crash.



They never actually found the bacteria, and they later realized that the fevers are probably being caused by withdrawals from cigarettes and alcohol. Stepmom mentioned that with the respirator they give you Ativan, and that should help b/c it's also given to people having withdrawals, it helps you get through them easier? Anyway, they thought fever=more illness, but it might have just been the dependencies he has.

The flu stuff is abating, and they take a lung xray each day to watch the gunk slowly disappear. He still needs a lot of oxygen to keep the saturation levels OK, but I assume that as the gunk leaves his lungs that will get better and they will be able to drop the percentage.

I hope that once he is better that he will continue to not smoke, now that he has slept through the worst of the withdrawals. Realistically who knows if he will...it's not like he WANTED this. I also hope he finds moderation or sobriety because he was going towards being out of control.

Sigh.


On the train, just in my little area of the car I was traveling in, there were THREE of us (one a group) traveling for funerals. Guess I'm not alone in the urge for a Journey.
 












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