One of ds15's friends wrote a message on-line that was taken as a suicide note..

[JESW]

Ds has known this girl for 3 years but they were out of touch since he switched schools back then and they recently re-connected. The two of them are part of an on-line art group where they post their art work and also converse with one another.

My son is an asperger's kid and he came in to me earlier visibly upset and he didn't know how to say what he wanted so he showed me her note to all her friends - basically filled with how sad and unhappy she was...so sad to read. Ds was crying and didn't know what to do. We tried calling the house but there was no answer. We drove over to her house just a couple miles away and got to speak briefly with her Dad. I felt uncomfortable doing so but I was so afraid that she was alone. Her Dad knew - I think one of the other on-line friends called him - and he was with her.

She called my ds a short while ago to let him know that she was ok. I do hope that she gets the help she needs and nothing else happens.

I am proud of my son for caring about his friend and wanting to help. He also went back on the site and assured their friends that she was ok and he had seen and spoke with her Dad. I just held him and let him cry as he was so upset.

I can't stop thinking about her...I had only met her and her Dad once a couple years back when she & ds were at the same school. I hope that she will be ok.

Tough night.

Jill

 

[starrzone]

You have such a good and caring son...he might very well have saved that girl's life. Good for him for being so smart and perceptive .

 

[jeepgirl30]

You and your son absolutely did the right thing. So sad for everyone involved.

 

[Bluestars]

Maybe seeing that people like you and your son care about her made a difference in her life. That is so sad. I'll bet her father is worried sick. Your son sounds like a wonderful, caring person.

 

[C.Ann]

Excellent choice by your son - excellent choice by you.. Now if the two of you could somehow let this girl know that you BOTH care deeply for her, maybe that will help in her road to recovery - along with professional help, of course..

Good job!

 

[akhenaten]

You have such a good and caring son...he might very well have saved that girl's life. Good for him for being so smart and perceptive .

Yes, hugs to you and your son and thank you for caring for this young woman...
I hope and pray she is ok!!

 

[mrsg00fy]

People like you and your child will make a huge difference in this world.
Kudos to you for raising such a caring human being. The world can certainly use more people like the two of you.
You may have made such a HUGE difference in the life of another.

I wish this young woman well.

 

[Val]

Thank you for doing this. November 3rd one of my DD17s best friend sent a "you all should be happy, don't worry about me and my decisions, I just want you to be happy" note out to several of them. He had been in a bad mood, had been making a few poor decisions lately, and their take on the note was that he was apologizing for being a pill, but not ready to change. Unfortunately, it WAS a suicide note. He died after leaving school and shooting himself. he was in the top 10% of his class, editor of the newspaper, admitted to the college of his choice....in all respects a brilliant and talented senior. My DD still is a mess, as are most of his friends.

If in doubt- ask and step in. It is better to overreact than to lose a soul to the pain of suicide.

 

[krcit]

Good for both of you to get involved! Many years ago when I was in hs, a friend of mine started making some suicidal comments. I didn't knw what to do but after agonizing for a couple of days, I called her parents. She was relieved and grateful that I did it and still is 25 years later.

 

[terri01p]

You have such a good and caring son...he might very well have saved that girl's life. Good for him for being so smart and perceptive .

I have to echo this!!!!

 

[minkydog]

Your son is a great kid. Obviously this girl is very troubled. I hope she gets the help she's crying out for. It's a myth that people who threaten suicide don't go through with it. They do and the fall-out for their family & friends is horrifying.

 

[KirstenB]

Who says kids on the spectrum lack empathy and concern for others? This was one of the first things we read in the packet given to us when our dd was dx'd. You should be proud of your son. He's a great friend.

 

[clovergirl5]

Aww, it breaks my heart when I hear stories like this. to the friend who feels lost. I hope she finds the strength from the people who love her to get help and heal.

to you and your ds for doing the exact thing you should have done. She is lucky to have df's like your son. Maybe between supportive friends, family and professional help, she will overcome her hurt. Prayers said for her.