One invitation/Save the Date per family?

[Dr.Cinderella]

Hi I am wondering how to send out invitations and Save the Dates for my the wedding since I am putting together my Save the Dates now. My family doesnt really care about proper etiquette and I dont so much either, so I am just looking for opinions. I was planning on sending out 1 per family, but I keep reading how an invitation should be sent to every adult over 18. We have 15 adult cousins who fall into this category, but I was wondering if I should still just send one invitation per family since they will most likely travel to Florida from NY as a family, and we are not inviting guests with any of these adult cousins? Some are in college, some live away from home. I would like to save some money by just sending one per family, but I dont want to be rude of course by not sending them each their own invitation. 5 of the cousins are my bridesmaids, by the way. I just wasnt sure if it would it look silly or cheap if we sent each their own invitation, and then put 1 seat has been reserved in your honor since were not including guests. We just dont have enough space or budget for them all to bring a guest, no one is in a serious relationship anyways, and they are traveling accross the country with their family anyways! Any opinions for me? Any difference for Save the Dates and actual invitations? I am working on my Save the Dates right now. Thanks for your help!
Marissa

 

[MsEsty]

I know the "rule" is one per household but we went by household and listed everyone on the invitation. The DF's Grandmother and two Aunts live together so we just listed Mrs soand so, Ms Soandso, Ms SoandSo. I do like the "one seat" wording, it makes it clear that it is just for them.

We spend so much time worrying about invitations. I haven't kept a single STD or invitation from friends and I really can't remember how they were worded on the front.

 

[girli565]

I did it one per household. My aunt, uncle and grandmother live at one address so I sent it addressed to all of them.

 

[erin.w]

Curious to see what others say as I had the same difficulty! Especially with family who want to invite additional people (friends) just because the wedding is at Disney. Ugh!

 

[WDWBride04/19/2010]

We did one per household for both, 'cept my mom insisted we send Save the Dates to my little cousins seperate for souveniers (they're a 4+7yr. old boys, so uh...yea, I dunno what she was thinking). HTH!

 

[pezaddict231]

We did one per family in the same household. If there were grown children living on their own, they got their own invite. For my sisters, even though they live at home I did make them their own invite because I thought they might want to save it since they're in the wedding party.

Most people are invited with guests, the only exception was family that would be traveling with their parents, like some of the cousins that still live at home and my sisters. I figured if they really wanted to, they could ask me about the guest and I can make sure it's okay with their parents first.

 

[PrincessShea]

I would give a separate invite to anyone over 18. I would also let them bring a guest.

 

[wintermouse]

We sent one Save the Date per family but will send the actual invitation to each person over 18, including our single friends and family who we can sadly not afford to have bring dates.

 

[Dr.Cinderella]

Thanks everyone for your imput. I think Ive come up with a compromise, for the Save the Dates, I am going to send one per family except for 2 couins who live in a different city than thier parents, and my sister and bridesmaid cousins who may want to save them for sentimental reasons. The rest I think were just going to send 1 to the parents house. Then when its time to send invites we'll re-evaluate how we want to do things for that. Hope this will be okay with everyone and not confusing! Thanks again!