How do you know they don’t help, though? Yes, as platitudes, they are obnoxious to hear, I agree with that. But if there are caring people in the world who are truly praying for world peace and thinking genuinely about people horribly affected by these tragedies, then I think that can only be a good thing. If I say I am sending thoughts and prayers to someone, it’s because I’m really thinking about them and praying for them, otherwise I wouldn’t say so. These are positive, altruistic feelings, if nothing else, and that can only be a good thing, can’t it? The world needs more of this, in my view. Religious feelings are over and above that. I don’t think you have to be religious, perse, to offer good feelings toward people or a situation.
I am a cancer survivor, as well. I trained myself to keep positive thoughts, not because I thought they could heal me, necessarily, but because it helped keep my quality of life better while I was going through treatment. I also did pray, as well, because that is something I personally believe in. I just hate seeing people say “thoughts and prayers” are useless. Obviously, those alone are not going to completely solve this problem we have. (No one thing will.) But I don’t see how they can hurt, and maybe some good thoughts toward eachother in our world is something that really could help, and probably do help, more than we realize. YMMV.
I did not mean that T&P don't help, in fact, I said that if they help *you* then by all means, go for it. But let's not act under the false impression that they are the solution in any way. Thinking good thoughts is not going to stop mass shootings.
Just like cancer, thoughts and prayers can help the person going through it but other actions must be taken such as surgery and/or chemo. When I was going through my cancer treatments, I tried to keep as positive an attitude as possible because like you, it helped me with my quality of life. At the same time, I still did all the surgeries and chemo that was recommended to me because thinking good thoughts was not going to get rid of my cancer.
I see gun control issues in a similar way, it has to be dealt with from multiple angles. Yes, we can all think good thoughts and send out whatever prayers we want to the people affected by a tragedy, but those are not going to stop them from happening.
Is the solution more mental health help? Maybe, it can't hurt and it definitely can help!
Is the solution a total ban on guns? Probably not, if someone is willing to shoot up a school then they are probably willing to get a gun illegally. Bans will not stop this.
Is the solution less access to guns in homes? Again, it can't hurt. If someone going through a mental health crisis has easy access to guns it makes it easier for them to do something terrible.
Is the solution tighter gun control laws? Well, this is a complicated one. All I can say is anecdotal at best. Canada has pretty strict gun control laws and since 1989, there have been 8 school shootings that had at least 1 fatality. Australia has even stricter gun control laws than Canada and in the same time frame (1989-2022) there have been 2 shootings that had fatalities, and none since 2002. In the USA since 1989, there have been at least 240 school shootings that had 1 or more fatality. Even adjusting for the fact that the States has a population 10 times that of Canada, instead of having a rate of 10 times that of Canada, in the time frame 1989-2022, the US has a school shooting rate of 30 times that of Canada. When you count ALL school shootings regardless of fatalities, that number jumps to 489, a rate more than 60 times that of Canada. And btw, I am not taking into this count any mass shootings that were outside of schools such as the one in Vegas or in Orlando to name two. These are just the ones that were in a school and had a fatality.
It is a really complex issue and one that does not have a single (pardon the pun) silver bullet solution. But I think we can all agree that no matter what solution is reached, there is a problem that MUST be solved.