On the couch or in the bed?

[james'mommy]

We are going to Disney the end of November with the in laws. I needed to save points for next year my side of the family's vacation so I was only able to rent a 1 bedroom villa. My problem is who to stick on the pullout bed. Part of me says the in laws are our guests and we should sleep on the couch. The rest of me says "they're my damn points, I'm sleeping in the bed". WWYD?

 

[C.Ann]

I can only speak for myself.. The IL's would get the bed..

Hope you have a great time!

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Inlaws get the bed.........Age & respect should always win.

 

[minniecarousel]

hmmmmm......it depends: are they elderly? ill?

As a MIL, if I were going on my kids' points, I'd take the living room. If DH & I were older and had health issues, I might appreciate the bedroom.

 

[AshleyW]

I would at least offer it to the in-laws first. If they don't want to take it, then fine - but they should at least have first pick at where to sleep.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

It depends. We invited some guests recently and they got the sofabed b/c it is easier for me to contain children in a closed bedroom if that makes sense.

If it was parents--then I'd offer up the bed and maybe they'll say the sofabed is fine.


My mom and her husband got the murphy bed when we shared a FW cabin once--but it's b/c his snore would put the sound of a freight train to shame and the closed bedroom and more sleeping space for us and the kiddos.

 

[S. C.]

Inlaws get the bed.........Age & respect should always win.

I agree!

 

[mickeywho?]

Who's the early riser? If they like to sleep late you might appreciate them being in the bedroom so you can start your day without disturbing them.

 

[disykat]

We don't have a guest bedroom, so we have this issue when people visit. At this point, we decide based on schedules. If dh is working, he needs to go to bed early so my parents get the family room. If we're all off work, we give my parents our bedroom so all their travel stuff is contained.

I'm a bit of a neat freak, so I would probably take the pullout bed. That way I could keep control of the neatness of the areas I'm in. It would drive me nuts if their stuff was all over.

 

[HERSEY]

Regardless the inlaws should get the bed. You wouldn't want to hear about this vacation for the rest of you lives if the pullout was lumpy.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

We went to Las Vegas with the In-Laws and had a 3 bedroom condo. The kids had the room with twin beds but I told the inlaws that they could have the master suite. It had it's own private bath so they wouldn't be sharing with the boys. They refused and took the queen bed. So I would at least offer the bed to the inlaws. Chances are they will refuse but at least you'll score some brownie points by offering.

 

[antmaril]

Inlaws get the bed.........Age & respect should always win.

I agree. Out of respect for your in-laws, they get the bed.

 

[DVC_Princess]

I understand your dilemma. My in-laws visited us for 1 night last month when we were staying at Kidani. It was our first night there and they took the bed and DH and I slept on the couch. I know it was the right thing to do, but I was pretty mad about it the whole time. I'm pregnant (21 weeks at the time) and did not sleep well AT ALL on the pull out. The rest of the vacation we had the master suite and it was so much nicer. So I guess I feel that it would depend on how many days you were staying. You are the ones paying for the vacation so you shouldn't have to be uncomfortable the whole time.

 

[Keli]

I wouldn't hesitate, no question, the inlaws are getting the bed and dh and I take the pullout sofa.
I feel like I should offer that level of respect to them due to their age and the fact they are my dh's parents.

 

[clgwli]

I would pick it based on who usually sleeps in what sized beds. You have a king vs a double. My DH and I physically cannot share a double bed. We have tried and one of us always winds up on the floor if we do. The newer sleeper sofas at the 1 bedrooms are really comfortable so I wouldn't pick based on that. I also wouldn't ever just give someone a bed without asking first if that would be okay. Some people like to rest in bed in the morning and others like to get up and eat first thing. The first type would be better in the bedroom and the second type would be better on the pull out. So I would definitely talk about it all with the family first particularly if there are also children involved.

 

[Rora]

I would at least offer it to the in-laws first. If they don't want to take it, then fine - but they should at least have first pick at where to sleep.

Agreed!

Now you just have to hope they'll pick the couch!!

 

[NMAmy]

I'd give it to the IL's, personally. In my family, the oldest always gets the most comfortable bed.

Luckily, my mom doesn't go to WDW so dd and her friend get the sofa bed.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

IL's in the bedroom. This way you can stay up late, watch TV, have a snack and unwind.

But it would really boil down to who's the early risers and the night owls. Good Luck

 

[LOVETHATMOUSE]

I was in the same boat...My folks coming in for 3 days so there will be 5 of us at Kidani...I solved the problem by reserving a studio for them so we can have the bedroom, by dd on the couch and they get a room to themselves...I thought a 2 bedroom would be less points, but it was much less doing it this way.

 

[Wishing on a star]

OP, clearly, this should have been discussed and layed out before the inlaws were invited and the room was booked.

I'll have to be the dissenter here....
Of course, the solution would be different for different people... but, if I am planning it and I am paying for it, then I would get the bed.

Personally, I would be hard pressed to agree to travel without adequate accomodations... And I certainly would never accept free accomodations and then actually take the bed while the ones who were paying had to take the couch. (but, we have seen enough threads about people with 'entitlement' issues.)

If 'respect' and 'age' warrants that the inlaws get their own room with a comfortable bed, either get a larger unit, or an extra studio, or see if they could afford to chip in on the accomodations (I don't think the OP mentioned their financial situation.) I know that I would be thrilled just to be invited to travel together, and would never expect to have premium accommodations all paid for.

OP, unless you are ready to 'gift' them this trip, by reserving a larger unit or another studio..... And, if you can't afford to offer them private accomodations or a real bed, then maybe they shouldn't have been invited to come along on the trip, for free, like a gift.

One should be able to afford what they give.
And one shouldn't have hard feelings because they had to 'sacrifice' (sleep on the darn sofa-bed) to give.

Personally, if I don't have my own bed.... I don't go....

I almost ended up in a similar situation.... my sister wanted to plan something for her birthday, and we were planning to go to the mountains to see the fall colors. Because of October high season, the room rates are sky high!!! And, when given the choice for either the two of us to go one weekend while my husband was away, or for her to come with my husband, my son, and myself on the next weekend, she chose the 'family' choice.... But just assumed that we would make room to offer her accommodations... that would put all of us in one room, short a bed.... I do not think that she was offering to help pay for the room, or get another room...