OMG, We are leaving without my DH

[antree]

We have been planning for months I knew it was going to happen but you always have that little doubt.
But Southwest came out with the dates and the fares dropped. So now the kids and I are off to Disney without DH.
I tried putting it off as long as possible but when the fares dropped to $49.00 I had to book or take the chance of losing it.
This will be our first trip EVER without DH, we have never been apart for more then a day.
I am taking my 2 kids age 5 and 13 and my 15yr old cousin to Disney we leave on Oct. 31st, the good thing is my DH will meet up with us Nov. 6th and we all will fly home together on Nov.14th.

I am excited about going and Scared to Death about going without DH. I know I will cry the whole flight down, In March when we flew we were separated on the flight and I cried the whole time.
I know the first night without him will be hard but I am hoping each night after will be better since we will be busy and tired at the end of the day.
It's not like I won't have anyone else there, my Aunt and Uncle will be there, they head down there on Oct. 28th to Nov.9th.

But it won't be the same without DH. I have gone to the parks without him and DTD and even got in very late by myself. But knowing he is not in the room waiting for me is going to be different.

 

[brergnat]

Oh my...well it seems like you are very dependent on your DH. That can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how you look at it.

Take my perspective. My husband is an officer in the Marine Corps. We have been married for 6 years now, have two kids (3 and 1). He is currently in Oklahoma until October, while I am here in California with our boys alone. It was a 5 month school duty, and there were too many reasons for us to stay here rather than move there with him (major one is that oldest DS is autistic and is in a therapy program here). Over the 6 years we've been married, we've been apart somewhere close to 2 years total. He has deployed to Iraq for 7 months, he's gone now for 5 and he is in the field for weeks at a time, throughout the year. I manage to get along without him, because I don't have a choice, although it is NOT easy.

I know you will be just fine. Your older child and cousin are old enough to help you out with the younger one if needed and I'm sure everything will go smoothly. Of all places to go without your DH, Disneyworld is one of the best! You will feel safe and secure being there with so many families in a safe place. Don't worry...consider it an adventure!

 

[antree]

I know we will have a good time. I am worried about the flight and something happening while we are away. You know the worry wart things, like something bad is going to happen and your husband is not around. We have never had vacation apart and it will seem different without him, Yea I depend on him to take the kids so I can get a break, but I guess not this time
So I have more planning to do, trying to get the meals in now.

 

[PolyAddict]

I just did this for the 1st time in June.

My DH and DD15 did not come with us, they were not ready to go back so soon.

It was me, DD6, DD14 and her friend. We did drive up with my 2 sisters, one of their husbands and 2 grandchildren. They stayed at a different hotel though, and we had our own car.

It was one of the best trips ever!!! Shhhh, don't tell the family.

We have been married 18 years yesterday and let me tell you I love that man to death but being in charge on my own without having to consult with another adult was nice for a change. and my 2 teenage DD's not getting along was just an extra perk.

Next year, we are all going back again, but let me tell you, this trip will always be a special one for me.

Good Luck and have fun.

 

[bumbershoot]

I know we will have a good time. I am worried about the flight and something happening while we are away. You know the worry wart things, like something bad is going to happen and your husband is not around. We have never had vacation apart and it will seem different without him, Yea I depend on him to take the kids so I can get a break, but I guess not this time
So I have more planning to do, trying to get the meals in now.

I totally understand.

Last year on vacation at my brother's (San Diego), DH got the call that his father was in the hospital and it was bad. So we talked about it, and decided that it wouldn't serve his father or mother to have a 2 year old running around, so DS and I stayed at my brother's while DH went up to help his family.

And it was a real bummer.

DH chose a lifestyle other than his father's, b/c his father was: Navy, Merchant Marine, his own shipping company, and last he was in charge of the civilian ships you see in places like San Francisco (big grey ships) that support the military. His dad lived apart from them 6 months a year (and with the support ships he actually lived fulltime in San Francisco when his wife lived in Seattle), and DH vowed he would NEVER do that to his family. He actually quite loves the sea and would love to have been a sailor, but the feelings he had as a child desperately missing his father were too much for him to do to a child. So he said goodbye to the sea and found other ways to make a living.

We decided long-ago to try to travel together always (has turned into almost always), b/c it's too painful to think of something happening to one part of the family while the other part continues. The feelings on that were much clearer before having DS, but we still try as often as possible.

It's just lonely!

I keep forgetting, almost a year later, that DH hasn't been to Seaworld, because the first day we went DH stayed behind with a painful back, and the second day was after DH went home. He hasn't been to La Jolla either, b/c my brother took me and DS there after DH left. It's just sad.

My MIL was used to it, she thinks too much togetherness is weird, and thinks I'm just lazy b/c I like to have DH around, and have his help around the house and with DS. She chose that lifestyle, and in fact FIL retired THREE time in total, b/c they couldn't get along when they were near each other every day. The last time he retired he didn't go back because, well, he died, and I'm not blaming MIL, but it was b/c he made a decision to stop taking pain pills for a kidney procedure he had, and b/c every conversation they had was an argument if they were around each other too often (and she wasn't allowed to tell him what to do), she didn't know that he had stopped taking his antibiotics as well, and 2 months later his body just coudln't fight what that had done to him any longer (deep set kidney and "blood" infection, leading to heart attacks, leading to bypass that he just coudln't heal from with the deep-set infection).


Anyway, I'm just saying that you're used to what you're used to, and MIL was used to seeing her husband only half of the time, while DH chose differently, and we're used to seeing each other most of the time, and having separate, even partial, vacations is very difficult for us.

I'm supposed to go to CA to visit my own dad, with DS, and keep putting it off b/c it's just weird to run off and have a vacation while DH works...

I totally understand.

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

I'm sure you will miss you husband and worry about stuff but try to have a great time anyway. Perhaps your dr can give you something mild to help with anxiety on the flight. I would worry about upsetting the kids during the flight.

I hope you have a wonderful vacation!