Okay...where is a decent place to meet...

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by faithinkarma
take a look at eharmony.com. I read an article about them that impressed me a lot.

Been there! Actually liked the first guy I corresponded with. Unfortunately, he ran into an old "friend" who was now also divorced. Some other guy didn't respond...wrote him off. That was my 2 months.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by joshsmom
Pin Wizard--

We are in the same boat, I think, and there's no good men in it!!! I love DS with all my heart, but I do take time away. Most of my friends are married. If they're not married, they are several years younger than me and when we go out, THEY end up with the phone numbers!!! I'm not hideous or anything. So, I'm not completely sure what the problem is. Maybe my standards are too high???!!!! Oh well, lowered 'em once and lived in H E L @ for seven years. Don't think I want to get on that horse again!!!!

Yes, we MUST be in the same boat. I even called my friend from high school tonight. She's in NJ and tells me the good ones aren't there. That's good to know because I don't want to go there! LOL! Standards? I have a friend who is a psychologist. She had told me that she was surprised I married someone so different from my father. LOL! Yes, my dad was very responsible and a "professional" career wise. My husband was not a "professional." That's what she was referring to for the most part. Hmmm...lowered standards? It sure made life more difficult. No, I'm not going that route again either. Where are the responsible men?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Thanks, Annemarie! Tidewater area? I guess so. I did join AAA which says Tidewater on my card. I was just getting used to "Hampton Roads." What areas constitute Tidewater? LOL! Actually, volleyball sounds like fun! I could go for that. An old friend tells me to join a gym...I'll meet a healthy guy there. I'd rather play volleyball than go to a gym. If we can make it a military gym, the interest might be there! Do decent guys play volleyball? LOL!

TigerBear...8 minute dating! I'll have to think about that one. LOL!

Legs...That's one of my problems. I like the ease of going back to someone in my past rather than face the pain in the neck of meeting someone entirely new.

Dan...LOL!

 

[legs22]

Funny.....a radio station had a little contest quiz question this morning. In a survey from "It's Just Lunch"......75% of the women said this was a good place to meet a man. Answer is..... a baseball game!! The radio dj said she did meet her husband at game 2 of the 1997 Marlins World Series. Darn! I almost went to a 2003 Marlin's World Series game here just to experience the World Series since it was so close to home.

 

[annemariec]

Sandy,

Yes!!! Decent guys do play volleyball! I met my husband playing. We were both having so much fun, it all just fell into place. Neither of us were "looking". It can happen!

Tidewater is just another name for Hampton Roads, Virginia Beach, and Newport News. (I think it includes them all....)

Take care,
Annemarie

 

[Serena]

Good luck everyone. I hope you're able to find someone.

I had a responsible hardworking man for 20 years, then he cheated on me and left. It's going to be a long time before I can totally trust anyone.

 

[faithinkarma]

I had a responsible hardworking man for 20 years, then he cheated on me and left. It's going to be a long time before I can totally trust anyone.

Oh Serena, I had the same thing, except I had been married for 27 years, not to mention dating him for 4 years before getting married.

But then I heard or read ( possibly Dr Phil ) that I did not have to trust someone else, that I had to trust myself to handle whatever happened. And I took stock of my life and realized all the thngs I had survived, and realized that I could indeed handle anything.

And I began to not just survive, but thrive. I had been with the same person since I was 16. I discovered I had no idea who I was. And to my amazement I discovered I liked the person I was becoming.

I spent three and a half years being on my own, and do not regret a day of it. I believe I am one of the ones who said previously that I was not looking for someone when I met my current husband. Having thought a lot about it since posting that, I realize I was in fact looking in a sense. Looking in that I was open to the possibility. Looking in the sense that I was willing to believe that that person who would fit me perfectly might be out there. And then I found him when I least expected it. I found him in someone I had been chatting with for a while. Someone who had known I was the one for him, long before I recognized him. ( mostly because he was six years younger than I was and I never thought of him as more than a friend because of this ) But he WAS definitely the one, and three years later I married him.

So my advice to those of you who are looking is Do Not settle for anything other than exactly what you need, but always remain open to possibilities.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by annemariec
Sandy,

Yes!!! Decent guys do play volleyball! I met my husband playing. We were both having so much fun, it all just fell into place. Neither of us were "looking". It can happen!

Tidewater is just another name for Hampton Roads, Virginia Beach, and Newport News. (I think it includes them all....)

Take care,
Annemarie

Legs...at a baseball game, huh? What's Virginia's baseball team? LOL! I've loved the Redskins for YEARS! Losing seasons and all. (Soooooooooooo glad Joe Gibbs is back!! How long will it take him to whip them into shape? One year? Maybe two?) Guess I'll have to go up to DC for that!

Annemarie...Sounds like you really lucked out meeting dh! I saw a sign somewhere along the side of the road here that this community has a singles group. Hope they aren't all in their 20s! Will have to keep an eye out for sports. I know I've seen info posted for the kids, but not adults. I find it neat that the communities here run the sports! Nothing like that in FL. It was school or the YMCA.

Oh, and thanks for explaining Tidewater. Now maybe you can explain another...there's a radio station I've been listening to who each time they mention the temperature, they say...on both sides of the water. What the heck are they talking about? LOL!

 

[legs22]

Faith- Sounds good- "whatever happens, I can handle it "
One more time- "What is ICQ??!!!"

 

[Cruise04]

There is a farm team in Norfolk - I've heard they are pretty good. And given where you are living now....finding a nice sailor shouldn't be too hard!!!

And both sides of the water means one side of the Peninsula and the other side of the Peninsula. You are on a Peninsula believe it or not. And believe it or not - when there is a storm going through (more when the Noreasters go through) one side can be great and the other side can be nasty. That's how it was always explained to me by my family that lived in Norfolk.

 

[faithinkarma]

One more time- "What is ICQ??!!!"

sorry...ICQ is a chat program. Not a chat room, just a program you download. You enter information about yourself that you want to share, ( like one of the things mine said was " Pervs, please go hit on someone else" ) and when you choose to be " available " people can see your profile and send you a message. I met many great friends that way.

One of the reasons I liked it so much was that you could chose to make yourself invisible to some without being invisible to all. Or you could be invisible to all, and visibe to a select few.

A lot of gamers use it to communicate while they are playing.

 

[legs22]

Thanks for the ICQ info . I think this is what a friend of mine used on AOL and met her husband!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Cruise04
There is a farm team in Norfolk - I've heard they are pretty good. And given where you are living now....finding a nice sailor shouldn't be too hard!!!

And both sides of the water means one side of the Peninsula and the other side of the Peninsula. You are on a Peninsula believe it or not. And believe it or not - when there is a storm going through (more when the Noreasters go through) one side can be great and the other side can be nasty. That's how it was always explained to me by my family that lived in Norfolk.

A saiilor? I've been warned about sailors by a Navy wife! Two other friends warned me about marines. One is still married to hers, the other one divorced hers years ago. Maybe the Army Transportation Museum. Will have to check that farm team in Norfolk.

Thanks for the explanation. Yup, knew I was on a peninsula. I should really take my map out and get a better look. It certainly is different from Florida's peninsula!

 

[Pin Wizard]

So ICQ is different from MSN Messenger and AIM. They're pretty much IMing.

 

[faithinkarma]

No, I don't think it is all that different. Perhaps in the way you meet people. But, I'm not sure.