Okay...I've called the Late Night DISers, now I'm calling the SINGLE DISers!

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by TigerBear
Even though I am dating someone, I still very much consider myself a single. My current relationship is exclusive - but not committed. I actually never really knew there was a difference before - now I understand there is a HUGE difference between the two. He has told me that he can't/won't be in a committed relationship until he is set professionally. I question if I can give him that long....Damn biological clock.

PW, heres to hoping Mr. Right gets dropped on your doorstep!

Well I am one of those who still doesn't see the difference. Can you explain? And what does it mean to be "set" professionally? He just took his boards -- he should be moving his first permanent job soon, no? Will he be ready then, or does he have to own a practice first? I don't get that at all. BOOT! Nine months is a loooong relationship for me.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I could see the difference...seeing someone exclusively but not a committed relationship. Not quite a casual relationship. Somewhere in between.

 

[BarryHom]

Does this mean TigerBear is on the market again?

Please say YES!

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

I was thinking Orlando or Tampa area, not sure when though. I am applying for WDWCP and then we'll see if I come back to Chi-town. (too cold here for me ) My school has a campus in both Orlando and Tampa, woo-hoo bonus for me! I should start browsing both areas in the online dating scene to see what I can find. LOL BTW I go to International Academy of Design and Technology incase anyone was wondering.

TB I have been fed that line before, him and I were together for 3 1/2 yrs then I went to WDW on vaca and he said he didn't miss me while I was gone so he left me! But I had been on other trips during our relationship, infact I had even been to WDW!! Crazy I tell ya they are all crazy. Well maybe not all of them but a good majority of them are!

PW if you do get Mr. Right dropped on your doorstep, just make sure he isn't Mr. Right...Now first.

 

[TigerBear]

Doc, he still has a year and a half left of his fellowship, so it will be a while before he has his first job (i.e., "is set professionally").

Exclusive vs. committed? I see it primarily in terms of the prospective of time. We are only dating each other - we don't want to date other people (sorry, Barry ); thus, our relationship is exclusive. However, our relationship is completedly dedicated to the present - the here and now. The future? Who knows? I know that is true of every relationship, but in a committed relationship you see yourself together in the future and you are willing to work on what it takes to be together in the future. I am there, he is not. Does that make any sense? I do agree - 9 months is a long time....

Edited to add: To make things even more complicated: I truly believe him when he says he is in love with me. I am no where ready to consider marriage. And, I don't think it helps that he is almost 4 years younger than me.

WHY ARE RELATIONSHIP SO COMPLICATED????

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by mickeysdsnyprncs
PW if you do get Mr. Right dropped on your doorstep, just make sure he isn't Mr. Right...Now first.

Unfortunately, I have Mr. Right Now. I hate that. I'm seriously amazed that anyone in the universe ever finds the right person. I certainly have a heck of a time!

 

[DocRafiki]

Sounds like a headache, TB! I wouldn't know what to think of that.

's -- I'm thinking the Tampa dating scene is going to be way better than Orlando's. Tampa is much more metropolitan; lots of yuppies there (and a med school in Tampa and at least one law school in St Pete ) . My friend who grew up here in Orlando says that all the single guys here are gay. I haven't really been out enough in the dating scene here to be able to tell the difference. But honestly, if it weren't for the theme parks over here, I'd rather live on the west coast.

I am so over dating "Mr. Right Now." That's why I just don't date for such long periods of time! But then I remind myself that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to finally find a prince.

 

[DocRafiki]

TB -- you know what? I think that's a lame excuse! What kind of person has to be "set professionally" before they can commit to someone? Plenty of people get married during college and med school. Anyway, no one is ever "set." Anything can happen in the future. Then what? It's all nonsense! Come prince shopping with us!

 

[legs22]

He has told me that he can't/won't be in a committed relationship until he is set professionally.

Did he tell you this from the start or did he just dump it on you now?

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
It's all nonsense! Come prince shopping with us!

LOL! I'm having too much fun right now to go back to prince shopping. I know I want to give the relationship more time. He is truly a good guy - of that I have absolutely no doubt.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Unfortunately, I have Mr. Right Now.

You have a Mr. Right Now? Tell us about him?!? I guess I'm confused now. I've never had a Mr. Right Now, but it sounds like it could be fun - as long as both people are on the same page.

 

[Pin Wizard]

LOL! I'm still talking about darling heart throb. We're trying to plan something for when the weather warms up a bit.

 

[floridaminnie]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
LOL! I'm still talking about darling heart throb. We're trying to plan something for when the weather warms up a bit.

Can't you guys warm it up on your own? I'm being bad now!

 

[CoasterAddict]

Can't you guys warm it up on your own? I'm being bad now!

Yeah, really! It's not challenge at all staying warm when the weather is nice. Getting warm in the chill of winter is much more interesting. Unless you have a thing for sand in awkward places...

 

[floridaminnie]

It might even be more fun in the cold!

 

[floridaminnie]

Just to update you on that detective guy. He gave me the impression he was going to try to get out of what he wa doing Friday night. Well, he sure did and then picked up another job. I gave him the option to meet Sat since Brianna will be with his father and I built in an out for him saying that if he didn't feel comfortable that's ok. Well, he's sent me two messages with no mention of it. Completely ignorned it. I have this feeling there's more to the story then he's telling. And usually when I get that type of feeling, I'm 100% right.

By the way PW, I received four more matches and one of them is in Hampton, Va. He's in his mid 30's, should I send him your way?

 

[firefighter326]

OKAY ALL MR. RIGHT ! ! ! ! ! !

how about us MR. LEFTYS ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

 

[floridaminnie]

Hey FF, where have you been. Long time no see!

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by floridaminnie
Just to update you on that detective guy. He gave me the impression he was going to try to get out of what he wa doing Friday night. Well, he sure did and then picked up another job. I gave him the option to meet Sat since Brianna will be with his father and I built in an out for him saying that if he didn't feel comfortable that's ok. Well, he's sent me two messages with no mention of it. Completely ignorned it. I have this feeling there's more to the story then he's telling. And usually when I get that type of feeling, I'm 100% right.

That does seem wierd. Would Saturday be with your friends too? I wondered if meeting with you rfriends might make him uncomfortable, but if he is not willing to do it I definitely don't think he is worth it. You can't be too careful these days. I think you should trust your gut.

 

[firefighter326]

well made a fast visit to w d w got back at 1 am then working today. just been sitting back and listening to all of you ladies.
maybee I should try this match thing???? but then typing what I want to say and saying it just don't work for me,
I wish everyone lots of luck on your dating, I seem to have the same problem as some of you do.
well planing my next trip in march not sure when about the end of the month. most likely I'll leave on the 25 march for a week. This time I'll have to visit friends in hudson and tampa.

well bed time short on sleep for the last few days,
plesent dreams all.