Okay...I gotta be honest now (long)

[Luvinit]

I have been hiding....almost lurking in the shadows. I am afraid to come out...I feel like such a failure...what RIGHT do I have giving ANYONE my opinions????? I can't even get this to work for me!!!

I don't know whats wrong with me. I have been doing EVERYTHING that I should. (Yes I did have some sugar free candy 2 days in a row, but I actually lost some weight during that time)

I have been exercising my butt off,(softball 3 nights a week, rollerblading...and moved the treadmill up into my room and have been using that reguarly.) I have been watching EVERYTHING I have put in my mouth. I started eating the "low carb bars"...and believe it or not that has helped my shed a couple of pounds. I have consumed gallons of water ( I bought a big water cooler, its sitting in my kitchen).

WHY DO I FEEL like I am the only one on these boards NOT losing any weight....YES I have been measuing myself....NOTHING!!!!!

I don't understand....the "new" wishers are passing me by. I have lost a total of 6 pounds since the end of April. WHATS UP WITH THAT??????? I keep wondering if this is worth it....maybe I am suppose to be fat....I don't want to give up...I want this to work....I am soooo stressed out by this, I don't know what the heck to do....I am really losing my mind here along with my sense of humor.

I really need some advice...I'm ready to bail out...this is suppose to be making me more positive...but its such a struggle to get this weight off!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!

Thanks for listening....

Tracy

 

[kejoda]

Have youi seen a doctor about this. There are medical conditions that could prevent losing weight. The first thing that comes to mind is a thyroid unbalance. I don't want to scare you either basiclly what I'm thinking of is a chemical imbalance somewhere.

 

[Kabuli1]

Tracy,

You're aren't the only one. I was saying the exact same thing to Katholyn just today. It seems like everybody else is losing so well and I'm doing everything I can not cheating taking challenges etc etc and same thing - 7 lbs since mid April.

I can't help you, but I can commiserate! I know that eventually it will start coming off. I'm hanging in there - how, 'bout you?

Karyn

 

[Luvinit]

Originally posted by kejoda
Have youi seen a doctor about this. There are medical conditions that could prevent losing weight. The first thing that comes to mind is a thyroid unbalance. I don't want to scare you either basiclly what I'm thinking of is a chemical imbalance somewhere.

Thanks Kejoda...I wish it was something like that...I just had my thyroid checked in November...its fine. I had it checked over a 3 month period over and over again. Still fine.

Karyn....thanks misery loves company....LOL
Tracy

 

[Kelsie]

Hey Tracy,

Take a deep breath! Now, give me a hug

Just a few questions if you don't mind. Do you eat even when you're not hungry? Do you make an effort to eat all 20 carbs a day? How much cheese are you eating? That was one thing I discovered, too much cheese!! (figured it out when my tail started to grow )

Although I agree 6 pounds in 6 weeks is not typical. Let's try to figure out what is going on. Would you be willing to PM me everyday for a week and tell me what you are eating each day?

To be honest, I am deep in Alex's Atkins way of thinking. I can go all day without eating and the weight is coming off a lot faster. I'm just not hungry. Are you hungry a lot?

 

[Luvinit]

Thanks Kels...Are you sure you really want to here from me EVERYDAY for a week???? LOL

I really do mostly under 20 carbs...I have cut out almost all cheese with the exception of maybe 2 oz of goat cheese on my maybe 2 cups of lettuce a day.

No I really am not hungry at all I could probably eat once in the AM and then dinner..but I force myself to eat a little for lunch...and I am in Ketosis...(cuz I check with the sticks). BUt the weight WILL NOT COME OFF!!!


Tracy

 

[Kelsie]

Yes, I am sure I want to hear from you, silly!! I want to help because you have all helped me so much and because I KNOW you can do this! We can do this...right???? There has to be something and we will try to find it. Are you up for it???

By the way, don't deprive yourself when you don't have to...toss the 'goat cheese' and grab some Marie's Blue Cheese Dressing for that lettuce.

 

[wdwnutze]

Don't give up now. You have been working really hard and sometimes the rewards are slower than other times. I have been where you are before and it is tough. Just try to stick it out. Keep posting and we'll keep trying to motivate! Good luck- you can do it!

 

[TigH]

Oh, hey now, what is up with that? Stop this lurking nonsense and start posting again!!!!!!!!! We NEED your perky personality to help keep us going!

Sounds like you are doing everything right. Aside from not seeing a loss in inches or with the scale, how do you feel? Do you enjoy this way of eating or do you feel deprived or like you are making big sacrafices? Do you think you want to switch to a different program to see how that works instead?

You are really doing a great service to you body by exercising so much! Even if you don't see any weight loss, you are making your heart stronger, you are helping your bones stay firm, you are pumping precious oxygen through your system and making all your organs healthier! That is a GREAT accomplishment, and a very good reason to KEEP EXERCISING!!!!

I can only say HAVE PATIENCE!!! It will pay off in the end! Good things come to those who wait, you know that! Please don't compare your stats to anyone elses. I know when I started WW I was happy to be losing, but it seemed like I was losing SLOWLY compared to the Atkins people and I got really discouraged. Everyone loses at a different rate. I finally decided that I would just focus on my plan of healthy eating and exercising with the weekly cheat meal and not worry about reaching a goal date (well, I did have a goal to meet before we left for England, but I wouldn't have been too broken up if I hadn't met it). I know that I will be eating this way and exercising this way for the rest of my life and that my body will always change. Just be good to yourself, don't get discouraged, KNOW that you are doing the right thing and that your body will catch up soon!!!

Do I need to tell you the same thing I told Bichon Barb to do (slap yourself in the face while standing in front of the mirror?) YOU CAN DO THIS! You are WORTH it! Shake off that feeling of discouragement and make a new committment today!!! You are doing everything right! As time goes buy, increase your treadmill time by a few minutes each week, increase the amount of time you rollerblade by a few minutes, or try to push yourself a little faster for about 30 seconds. Give yourself small exercise challenges, get those lungs working, and feel HAPPY when you are out of breath! Don't push too hard, but push a little more than you have been and add little increments at a time!

Good luck and I hope you get your groove back soon, Stella!

 

[CarolA]

My question would be how much weight do you need to lose? If it is not a lot that can actually be harder.

Are you drinking water? I am not an Atkins expert, but I believe that hydration is key to all diets.

My other concern with some of the things I see people posting on Atkins is that you really do need to make sure you get a minimum number of calories. Some people keep saying they aren't hungry and don't eat. Well, no matter what plan you are on if you quit eating your body thinks it is going into the famine season and starts conserving it's stores (ie. fat!) so make sure you are eating enough.

Actually 6 pounds since the end of April is about one pound a week which while slow is not the end of the world. Most long term programs actually recommend to aim for a 1 to 2 lb weight loss each week. Lot's of people do lose more in the first few weeks, but then they settle down. .

We need to remember we did not wake up one morning and go from perfect to overweight. It took us a while to get here and it will take us a while to get back.

Keep on truckin'

 

[wovenwonder]

{{{{HUGS}}}} Tracy!

I, of all people, know EXACTLY how you are feeling! I also sometimes find myself getting discouraged and depressed reading all the 'look at my new clippie' posts. I am so proud and happy for those succeeding but it doesn't help 'me' to feel any better. I've been at it since day ONE and have had this 10 pound clippie for a month now. UGH. I am hoping some of the problem was the medication I was on. It had me retaining water insanely! I started the 'new meds' last night --- so time will tell.

I understand sweetie!

 

[jimmytammy]

Tracy-

Please don't lurk, we all need to feel that we can talk our situations out and if we don't, we may feel that we are all alone in our journey. I have been back on plan (WW) since April and have only lost 6.5 pds. I have also been exercising, counting my points, drinking lots of H20, etc. It has been really slow, and I have gotten discouraged but figured if I stopped what I was doing, I would probably be putting back on those 6.5 pds plus more.

I also think (not that I'm an expert) that the closer you get to your goal weight, the slower it comes off.

Keep your chin held up high and know that exercising and healthy eating is helping your body. I don't know much about the Atkins plan, but please don't give up. If you do and you stop exercising, etc. I'm sure you'll feel worse than just being down from not taking the weight off like you think you should. Remember, we can't make the weight jump off of us, but we can help it and if you get too discouraged, you may start eating things you shouldn't. Don't give up, remember chin and shoulders up high. PD to you!

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

Originally posted by CarolA
My question would be how much weight do you need to lose? If it is not a lot that can actually be harder.

This was my first thought as well. Someone with just 20 pounds to lose is going to have a harder time than someone with 120 pounds.

Keep doing what you are doing and the loss will start up again. Don't give up!!!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

sending {{{hugs}}} your way. hang in there. It seems like you have gotten some great support and advice. Take Kelsie up on her offer, it might help to have someone else check it out for you. I don't know Atkins very well, so I can't give you practical advice, just support to hang in there. YOUR health is ALWAYS worth it!!!!

 

[tlgoblue]

Tracy,
I can't really add anything in the way of advice. Everything I've read has been great. I can tell you that you are doing fine. You are losing, and not gaining, which is what happens to me when I go into LURK MODE. I managed to gain back almost all the weight I lost since joining WISH on my latest lurking session, but have been losing steadily since returning here. Yes slowly, but I'm OK with that. Also, as far as newbies go, many of us were so incredibly motivated when we joined WISH, dropped weight quickly, only to find that we got sort of burnt out. We lapse into lurk mode and then return with new resolve. Balance is a hard thing to achieve. That's what brought us all here in the first place, and it is a constant struggle for most of us. We all understand, which is why you need us and we need you. Please don't get too dependent on the #s. You are developing strategies for a more balanced, healthy life, even if you aren't having a dramatic loss. This will help you maintain your weight, which is the ultimate goal. OK, I said I had no advice, but I do tend to preach. We can do this together!

Keep the Faith!
Tracy

Edited to add...

Besides, at a pound/week, this time next year, you will be 50 lbs. lighter. 50 pounds!

 

[Jomrog]

Tracy,

{{{HUGS}}}

I agree with CarolA. It makes sense that you are starving your body & it is going into survival by not burning it's fat stores.

Don't give up. Definitely let Kelsie help.

I am in the same boat. I am still looking for the 5lb clippie & I started week 5 on Sunday. I do feel better & I like this way of eating so I have no interest in giving up. I have lost as many as 4lbs. & think that the BF is visiting me. (GO AWAY!)

Keep focused. You are doing great with the exercise. Remember, you might also be adding muscle weight but as long as you feel good, it's your health that matters most.

Good luck.

 

[TinkerPixie]

Please dont give up! I went for six solid months without a loss of pounds or inches, but I knew I couldn't give up cause if I did I would go right back to where I was. Miserable!
Keep working at your plan, and find out where the fine tuning needs to be...the alternative isn't pleasant. You cant go back to indiscriminate eating.... we are all here whenever you need us!

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

 

[nativetxn]

Hey, cutie! Does this mean, "Once a lurker, always a lurker"?

I had to go and find your photo again for two reasons:

1. I seemed to remember that you didn't have a <i>lot</i> of poundage to shed

and

2. I just like to look at your photo because you are so <i>darned</i> cute

Isn't she darling, fellow WISHers?

Okay, time to get serious. I don't know exactly how much weight you want to lose but if you are in ketosis you will eventually lose it. Ketosis=presence of ketones in urine. Ketones=by products of the body's process of burning body fat for fuel. If you are in Ketosis you <b>are burning your own fat for fuel</b>. You are on track and doing what you are supposed to be doing.

So what we have here is a problem with two things. A number on a scale and a timeline. You have a certain number that you have decided that you must see on the scale and you have decided that <i>you</i> are going to determine when that number will appear.

It's situations like this where mother nature sort of slaps us around and lets us know that we are <i>not</i> in charge of this stuff. I have a question for you: are you losing weight as a temporary fix or do you plan to continue to eat a controlled carbohydrate diet after the weight is gone? I hope you will think about this carefully.

I know one thing for sure. If you quit now you aren't going to reach your goal. Your fellow WISHers can offer you support and advice but we can't help if you quit.

So, think about a few things:

1. Do I physically <i>need</i> to lose weight or do I just <i>want</i> to lose weight.

2. Do I want to eat controlled carbohydrate meals for the rest of my life or am I going to be going up and down 10 pounds on a regular basis from here on out?

3. Do I feel deprived? When I finish losing weight am I going right back to eating sugar and other refined carbohydrates? (see #2)

4. Am I journaling my intake on www.fitday.com so that I know for sure that my proportions of fat/protein/carbohydrate are within the levels they should be?

5. Do I really want nativetxn to get onto me for lurking? (I'm teasing)

I love having you here with us on WISH. You are a joy and you make me smile. I don't want you to leave us but I don't want you making yourself miserable either.

Go find a quiet place and do some serious thinking. You are a very important part of my support group. I want you to do what is right for <i>you</i>. Let me know what you decide. I'll be right here waiting. {{{HUGS}}}

Katholyn

 

[Luvinit]

Thank you all soooo much. I am not giving up....I do enjoy this lifestyle and I really look forward to exercising. My only problem is I HAD A GOAL for my sisters wedding...and there is NO way I am going to reach that goal...But I wil not give up my lifestyle...maybe just tweak it a little.

Kelsie....Thank you for you support...I will pm you and let you know what I am eating.

Tigh Your right...I DO feel so much better..everyday!!

CarolA I think you may be on to something that I had not thought of. I need to lose 20 lbs to be at my "ideal" weight that I know I can maintain...I just never thought it would be this hard to get there!!

Jody & Vija Thanks for the big hugs...I feel much better!!!

Tracy I know you are right about the "lurk" mode. I have come close to throwing in the towel..and carb loading since I felt like I didn't have anyone to answer to. But I resisted...Thanks!!

Jomrog & TP Thanks for the encouragement. I will get there someday I am sure!

You guys are awesome...I went to bed feeling really defeated, crying myself to sleep. Your posts have reminded me why I am really doing this!

Tracy

 

[tlgoblue]

I just had to send a reply after Kath posted your pic. Tracy, you are almost my twin! (Hair color, and facial features notwithstanding. ) Needless to say, neither one of us needs to lose 50 pounds, so it is true that it will come off slower for us. My DH needs to lose over 100 pounds, and he is infuriating ! He can drop 30 lbs. in 2 months! I've been working on 5 since Feb. I still have 25 to go, and man, let me tell you, it ain't easy. But I'm not going back to "indiscriminant eating." I have worked too hard training myself to care about what I do to and with my body. Hey, you are young, beautiful and alive. You have so much going for you. Don't ever feel like you have nothing to offer! I'm going to be pestering you from now on! I may even PM you from time to time. You'll have to put me on your ignore button! Keep smiling, never surrender, and...

Keep the Faith!
Tracy