Ok, so DH calls me from work this morning

[golfgal]

We are moving and he is already there and has been since Sept and commutes home on weekends. DS13 is a pain in the rear about everything, getting homework done, getting himself ready for school, getting his stuff packed for his track meet, EVERYTHING, ALL THE TIME, EVERY DAY. So, DH calls and asks how things are going, of course I just got back from dropping DS off at school and told him if he doesn't have his homework done by the time he gets back from his track meet, plenty of time on the bus to get it done, he is done with track. DH says, "you sound mad". Well, HELLO!!! You try being a single parent to a pain in the rear kid and see how YOU sound!

I know I am putting my frustration off on DH but, heck, he could be a little understanding!

 

[DVC Sadie]

Teenage sons can be a PITA but realize this too shall pass. Husbands can be just plain clueless sometimes. Hope the rest of your day turns out better.

 

[sharbear]

This was years and years ago, but my DH went on a business trip when my DD was 3 weeks old. My kids are 20 months apart and so I had a newborn and a two year old. He calls me from his trip to tell me that he went XC skiing, had dinner with friends and is "just sleeping great". He wondered why I sounded short with him! I wanted to reach across the phone and strangle him!

Men! Sometimes they just don't get it.

 

[In a hurry]

But then did he say..."I couldn't do what you do..." like that gets him out of any responsibility for ever trying? My dear sweet husband, whom I love with all of my heart, pulls that line on occasion. I just want to smack him upside the head and remind him that I have no choice...that is why I do it!!!! vent over!

Bless your heart for getting to this point on your own this year!!!!!

 

[minniecarousel]

yikes - the whole school year without him!? That sounds tough - good thing the school year is almost over.

 

[MBeds]

Well, when the school year is over and you have moved into your new home, announce to the husband that you are going on a girls weekend (or girls week for that matter)...Let him have a small taste of what you have been going thru...

 

[golfgal]

Well, when the school year is over and you have moved into your new home, announce to the husband that you are going on a girls weekend (or girls week for that matter)...Let him have a small taste of what you have been going thru...

That is EXACTLY what I was thinking although I was thinking a golf vacation with him would be nice too. I WILL take a few days at least to do SOMETHING though.

 

[stm61]

before 9/11 dh worked out of state and I taught school and had the kids solo, he would come home maybe every other wkend. He could never understand why the house was always a wreck and I could never get caught up with all the cleaning. Fast forward to the summer before last, I got deployed (activated on 9/12 and still working at the base) to SE Asia, his turn with the kids for 45 days. He thought it would be SO EASY! About halfway thru my best friend called to make sure the kids were all accounted for and, as a joke, tells him I got extended and won't be home for another month. I didn't know anything about it and happened to call home the next morning. First thing out of his mouth was "You're still coming home next wk right, they can't keep you there can they?" He'd already begged my mom to come stay for a wk or 2! Poor man had no clue what it takes to run a house, deal with the kids, keep the animals alive, and work full-time all at the same time!

 

[golfgal]

So then, I was talking to my BIL and he had just talked with my MIL and she was commenting how tired DH must be from driving back and forth and how hard it has been on HIM . My BIL reminded her that I have all 3 kids by myself all week, too. The end is in sight, the end is in sight. Unfortunately that end mean we move and leave our friends and our kids' friends, but oh well, you go where the job is.

 

[Bbgrizzle]

I totally feel for you! I live in Las Vegas and my husband is living in Virginia. We are moving to Virginia, but I teach school and wanted to finish out the school year with my Kindergartners before the kids and I move out there. So I'm working full time and taking care of our 3 girls by myself. My hubby isn't able to come home regularly cause airfare is too expensive right now. It's been 6 weeks, and sometimes I get frustrated too. My 3 DD's (ages 12, 8 and 4) are really good girls, but they are acting up more since he's been gone. My youngest cries and cries sometimes cause she misses her daddy. It can all get overwhelming sometimes. Just hang in there, it will all be better once everyone is living under the same roof again.

 

[disneymom3]

So then, I was talking to my BIL and he had just talked with my MIL and she was commenting how tired DH must be from driving back and forth and how hard it has been on HIM . My BIL reminded her that I have all 3 kids by myself all week, too. The end is in sight, the end is in sight. Unfortunately that end mean we move and leave our friends and our kids' friends, but oh well, you go where the job is.

OH! My MIL does this too. In Nov and Dec DH was working until at least 8:00 every night if not later and he works at least an hour away. We have young kids so they were literally only seeing him on the weekend as they were asleep when he left in the a.m.and asleep by the time he came home. He was also putting in a lot of Saturdays and Sun afternoons. (To the point where we rode to work with him and putzed around St Paul just to have the time in the car with him.) MIL was going on and on while talking to me on the phone about how hard this was on DH. Well, yeah it is, but HELLO! I am the one single parenting but I get NO sympathy. The ironic thing is is that when her SIL works long hours or has to travel, it's "Oh poor DD, her DH is working and she is having to take care of the kids alone."

I feel your pain. And my kids aren't even teenagers!