Ok she is driving me crazy!

[tiggger1]

Ok, please tell me this is just a phase but my daughter is driving me crazy! She is almost 2 1/2 and is usually a peach but for the last week she is a whiney, clingy, PITA...( i say will love, btw)

Last night we were at my in laws last night and Emma was so tired so we left at 7:30, hoping she would fall asleep in the car. Nope she stayed awake the entire 40 minutes and was wide awake when we go home. She was whining, so i put Dora halloween on and let her lay on the couch. I tried to leave the room because i had cleaning to do, but she proceded to have a fit screaming, I want you, mommy. daddy tried to help but she cried louder and only wanted me....

I finally went to sit with her and she decided so wanted to play, i finally had a meltdown and took her to bed. she wouldnt even go in the room without freaking out screaming " with you, mommy, sleep with emma. So it took me another hour to get her to calm down and go to sleep at 10pm

well she was awake bright and early at 6 am and proceded to scream after i put her in our bed because she wanted milk and dora, so finally gave in and let her watch tv in the living room while i went back to bed for a half hour. She has been clingy and whiney all morning and i havent even been a get much done without her screaming in the background ( if i sit with her, she will play and is fine, she just wont let me go more than 5 feet away from her!!!!) she does have a small cold but has never been this whiney!!!!

thanks for the vent.......

 

[bananiem]

My dd got a runny nose and then an ear infection every time she teethed. Could that be it? She never got a fever or acted like she was in pain.

 

[tiggger1]

she has all of her teeth, including her 2 year old molars, but im not sure when she in due to get her next molars

 

[tiff211]

I think it's the age. Mine is almost three and is like this as well. The thing that saves me is DD5 is there to occupy her but if not.........right at my side all the time and with the whining! I feel your pain!

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

As painful as it is, I think you need to let her scream and not give in to her every whim. She will not learn to entertain herself unless she is forced to. If all she wants is mommy, and mommy needs to be in the next room doing something else, then mommy should make sure she is safe and has something to do--or is in bed, and mommy should do what she needs to do. This is the only way she will get over this. Think about how nice it would be if all you or I had to do was scream and we would have someone come and cater to our every wish! That is not reality, and probably not a good thing to foster in your daughter.

- to you. I know it is a lot easier to just do what they want us to do.

 

[Diana Lyn]

I feel your pain. Maybe it's the age and the name--my Emma turned 2 over the summer....it was shortly thereafter that her personality changed and her evil twin stepped in and took over! I think it's just a phase on their parts to test us see what they can/can't get away with, and they are just learning to handle and control their emotions.

 

[tiggger1]

thanks, she is usually very good at playing by herself. She loves to play with her figurines and will usually give me at least an hour to clean without any trouble. But its the high pitch screaming and the brattyness. She chased the cat this morning under the bed and proceded to get her head stuck and when i pulled her out she was still holding the cat! Now she was crying cuz she hurt her head, the cat swiped her( no claws, just paw) and she is mad at me cuz i told her to leave the cat alone. She ignored me and went back to chasing the cats! So she got a time out and started to cry. well the cat, apparently felt bad and came out of hiding and sat with her. As soon as the time out was over she proceded to chase her again....i need a nap!

 

[ItsonlyExperiment626]

This is a test and only a test..........waaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh. Your child will whine, cry and scream for the next week, two weeks or till you remind her who is in charge again.

All mothers feel your pain. As hard as it will be, you must let her cry, scream and whine. She just wants to see how far she can pull your string and which buttons to push. When my kids whine, I tell them I don't understand the language of whine and they must speak to me in plain english. That usually does the trick.

Good Luck

 

[bajanswife]

If it's only going on for a week then it's probably a phase. All of mine have been through difficult phases, then they'd come out of them with a slightly higher level of maturity i.e. suddenly being able to do something they couldn't do before, or just seeming a little bit more grown up in some areas. It's often difficult for toddlers when they are about to take a giant step in their development - that takes a lot of energy, and kids can feel tired and out of sorts while it is happening.

My only advice is to be understanding and sympathetic, but don't let any bad habits begin. i.e. decide what is acceptable and what is not, and hold firm when you won't let her do the unacceptable (no matter how much she fusses), but be kind when you do it. The most important thing from her perspective is that 1) she has a supportive mommy, and 2) she does not learn that whining and crying get her her own way. SHE chooses how to behave - YOU choose how it affects YOU, and the way she behaves should not dictate what YOU do. If you want her to behave differently you must reward good behaviour and not reward inappropriate behaviour (ignore if you can, or if it's too unacceptable to ignore, make sure she gets some sort of negative consequence - not "traditional" punishment at her age, just a logical consequence of some sort). If it's a phase due to her feeling at odds with herself, nothing you do will suddenly improve her behaviour, but at least you won't have allowed new bad habits to form which might then be difficult to break when things settle down.

Hang in there - it won't always be this difficult!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Call it a phase if it makes you feel better, but my 16 year old never outgrew the whiney stage.

 

[tiggger1]

thanks for all the advice.
turns out she might have been getting sick. she woke up the other day with a rash. the ped thinks its just contact dermatitius and she isnt sick but she also got the case of the sniffles

she is still whiney and hasnt been sleeping through the night agian but i think its because i replaced her milk cup with water at bed and she woke up at 3 am wanted crockley milk ( chocolate)

the same day she got the rash, she was very quiet so i decied to leave her in the tv room watching a movie, while i cleaned a bit and took a shower( i should have known better)

i checked on her right before I took the shower and she was laying on the couch, half asleep ( so i thought!)
less than 15 minutes later, i get out of the shower and walk towards the bedroom, where i smell something, very perfumy. so i assume that the cats knocked over something

nope i walk past the living room to find emma sitting on the futon cover in millions of pieces of deodorent! She decided to use her chair to climb on to reach the ledge between the 2 rooms to get it ( where i had hid it, but apprently not good enough) then she decided to use it as makeup! it was in her hair, on her face, in her nails, her diaper and grinded into the nice black futon. Do you know how hard it is to get deodorent out of a futon! well its still white and both my daughter and the couch smell like strong baby powder after about 3 cleanings!
of course I cant punish her because i soon i open my mouth to yell she come over and says " momma, emma pretty like you, now see!

 

[golfgal]

How close to 3 is she? 2 is nothing, but a 3 year old .

 

[tiggger1]

she'll be three in June. I am afraid of the 3's!!! My friend 3 year old boy who, used a muffin as a hockey puck across the living room floor. figured out how to use a broom to get the key to the front door to let himself out of the house(the key was on the top of the door jam) and decided his newborn brother was cold and took him out of his bouncy and tried to wrap him in a blanket ( and this within an hour and there were 3 of us all within view of him, making dinner in the adjoining room, wow is he quick!

 

[va32h]

I don't know if this would work for you, but I have a little routine that seems to help with the clinging/whining.

I wake up before any of the kids, so I can be showered/dressed & get that out of the way. I take the older ones to school before my 2yo (Paige) wakes up..

When Paige first wakes up, we have a little cuddle time, this helps her transition into the day. Then she gets dressed & has breakfast.

The morning is mommy's time - I do whatever I need to get done (play on the Dis, of course!). But I work from home too, so there are some things that need doing. Paige will usually play near me, but on her own. Sometimes I have to get her started - setting up her Little People village or getting her play food and dishes out - giving her ideas of what to play.

If there is housework to do, she likes to "help". Handing me dirty clothes to put in the washer, helping me take clean ones out of the dryer, handing me cups from the dishwasher, pushing her toy vaccuum while I push the real ones. We play peekaboo when we make the beds. I have been brainwashing my children since birth that housework is fun.

Then we have lunch together, and after lunch is "Paige time". I will actually play with her - puzzles or coloring or some craft, something that we have to do together. She has a nap around 2, which is when I finish whatever work I didn't get done earlier.

Since she knows that she will have that time with me later, she is willing to play on her own in the morning.

The only time she gets really cranky now is when we have to run errands, because that messes up our schedule. So I try to save those for weekends or evening when dh is home. All my kids are homebodies and hate going places in the car.