I thought about this entire thread last night and it came to me that it has taken the path of so many I've read in the past. It never fails that a good number of members simply cannot or will not take an OP's post at face value. I've seen it over and over again. A person posts something and before you know it, all sorts of things are read into it. God forbid you post about your kid, because first rattle out of the bag, someone will be certain to point out there's a good chance your kid is lying. Post about your family members and some of the replies will make it clear that the person responding is not really paying attention to your actual OP as to their interpretation of it based on their life and some trauma they've endured.
For crying out loud, mine was a post about some little girl drama. It was no big, fat, hairy deal. Before I knew it, people seemed to have visions of DD and I discussing the matter for hours on end, with me stirring the pot. In reality, she mentioned it (along with other parts of her day) and I was commenting on it HERE, not to her. I did tell her a while back (when discussing something else) that people who have a lot of drama in their lives can be exhausting to be around and that's when SHE made the comment, "That's Hannah!" She made the correlation, not me. So people read a great deal more into my post than was ever there.
Really, I have no reason to get involved in anything. The little girl is not picking on my child. She is picking on a little boy and THAT bothers my DD. She gets upset when DD chooses to go with the picked-on little boy over her, but I think that's a reasonable reaction from DD. Part of my vent was more along the lines of, "If she'd just lay off picking on the boy, they could all three go back to being buddies and things would be so much simpler." I don't think it's getting "involved" to make the observation that in this case, the little girl is cutting off her nose to spite her face because two kids who DID like to spend time with her are now starting to avoid her. Now if I sat around and hashed all this out with DD, that would be gettting involved. But to bring it up on a message board is another matter. Sadly, there are some people who are just itching to assume the worst. Thanks to the ones who actually read the post and took it for what it was.
As for the "stalker" boy. I'll try to make this as plain as I can. He is a seriously disturbed child. He was fixated on my DD. If just DH and I had this opinion, that would have been one thing. But the teachers agreed, the administrators agreed, his parents agreed and his doctors agreed. In the beginning of the year, when he seemed so overly attached to DD, I thought he was just a very shy child who had trouble making friends and that he would eventually come out of his shell. Once his mother explained (because she thought I should know) the extent of his issues, we realized the problem was much bigger than we had thought and that it wasn't just going to "get better." I was not prepared to deal with an issue like this in 2nd grade and neither was anyone else (including his parents and doctors), because let's face it.......How often do you come across a very young child with this level of obsession concerning another child? Without posting the boy's medical records, I don't know how much clearer I can make it for anyone. I could give example after example, but either you take my explanation as the truth or you don't. Simple as that.
As I said, thank your lucky stars YOU haven't had to deal with something like this. I wasn't asking for sympathy, but some comments all but called me a liar. I appreciate that soooooo much. Believe it or not, some kids are emotionally unstable and if one of them chooses to target YOUR child, good luck. You'll need it.
As far as many of the posts on this thread go they are chasing drama, online
and yet accusing you of chasing drama! I will keep your daughter's friend in my prayers, and I hope that the girl that is giving him a hard time clams down before you end up with a Mean Girls situation on your hands
Also about Ben having to go to the counselor, Hannah getting in trouble, etc. You know an awful lot of details, who said what, who was where, etc.
If you haven't already, sit back and laugh cuz this is some funny stuff! 
I also appreciated the humor in your post because I remember the "dramas" of elementary school LOL! Mine are 12 and 16 now but I swear it's the same crap only different faces. 
:I asked my DD and she said SURE! cuz she thought the other lil girl seemed nice. Another 2 weeks went by and all of a sudden my DD wanted to be driven to school and picked up by me or my hubs. 
When I asked why she finally told me that other girl was bossing her around and not allowing my DD to even SPEAK to other kids not to mention the seating arrangement. 
I got the guilt trip from hell about how HER poor 4 yr old was in tears every morning and every night and how HER DD didn't have any friends and how HER DD would be scarred, etc etc etc. Now mind you, all of this was said loud enough for my DD to hear. 
So there I was sitting in my living room being subject to EXACTLY what my DD had been. I politely told the woman that it was not my child's responibility to give her DD self esteem, security, or friendship for that matter. What about MY DD who had started to show ME signs of being uncomfortable because of how HER DD was treating her? It wasn't my fault her DD had an attatchment issue and it dang sure wasn't my DD's fault. SO after all of that the woman says to me "How about we set up play dates after school so our kids could play?"! Um excuse me? I don't think so! She had just been bordering on yelling at me over where my 4 yr old sat on a friggin bus! 
I told her I'd give her a call when MY DD wanted to play (she never did, imagine that). 
That little girl never joined our troop because the Mom hated me lol but our troop did all sorts of fun things in the neighborhood so everyone saw us together- often. The neighbors who live right behind me gave me the chance to be their DDs leader 
because all three rode the bus together the year before. My DD and neighbor's DD were friends in GS as well as they played together almost every day after school. We are separated by a chain link fence, they'd known one another for 3 yrs by then. They was tight, know what I'm sayin'? 
Other girl starts going over to neighbor girl's house about 3 times a week to play with neighbor girl. Other girl does not play with neighbor girl. Other girl stands at the chain link fence staring into my back yard and house if the blinds aren't closed waiting for my DD to come out and play. 
This goes on for a while and my DD didn't want anything to do with that kid. So then neighbor girl starts asking if my DD can come over and play while other girl is there. She does- once. 
Other girl gets mad and stops being neighbor girl's friend. 
cuz she's had to deal with a lot more than I could EVER fathom and told Other Mom OFF! 
