Oh MY God i need to vent

[DisneyFairy19]

I honestly have the worst friends EVER.. I have one friend that comes up with these lame stories that even my DF doesn't believe half the stuff that comes out of her mouth.. Then I have this other friend who got me so MAD today She was insukted that I didnt invite her to my engagement party or at least bring her some cake. I told her weeks ago that it was a family meet and greet party. I am doing a friends engagement party next month at the HArd Rock Casino.

She then tells me that Even though I want to be like her I cant..

First of all I dont want to be like anyone but myself.. She has started so many problems with me that right now I dont want to be friends anymore with her.. And it hurts b/c we have been friends since Kindergarten.

Sorry it was long but I needed to get it off my chest!!!

Thanks Dis Friends
The only true friends I believe that I have

 

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[jasnal]

I am sorry you have had such bad luck with your friends! Maybe she will come around later on!

 

[princessblueeyzes]

I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this all around wedding planning. I know what you are going through. Hang in there- it will get better and don't let her get you down.

 

[Gina Loves Disney]

I know I am new here but I deff feel your pain. I literally can only count on ONE of the many friends I have.... people stink!

 

[orangetiggs]

I understand where you are coming from!

I have a MOH that has paid no attention to any of my planning, she was even late for a dress fitting I had and it was her first time seeing my dress! She even forgot my birthday last week!

Yet my DF sister who is a bridesmaid is so much better, she is always asking me how its going and do you want me to do anything so now I wished I had made her MOH!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

I'm so sorry friends can be disappointing. Don't let them take a minute away from you happiness though.

 

[PirateBride08]

I honestly have the worst friends EVER.. I have one friend that comes up with these lame stories that even my DF doesn't believe half the stuff that comes out of her mouth.. Then I have this other friend who got me so MAD today She was insukted that I didnt invite her to my engagement party or at least bring her some cake. I told her weeks ago that it was a family meet and greet party. I am doing a friends engagement party next month at the HArd Rock Casino.

She then tells me that Even though I want to be like her I cant..

First of all I dont want to be like anyone but myself.. She has started so many problems with me that right now I dont want to be friends anymore with her.. And it hurts b/c we have been friends since Kindergarten.

Sorry it was long but I needed to get it off my chest!!!

Thanks Dis Friends
The only true friends I believe that I have

OMG! I have a friend that is the exact same way! I haven't known here since Kindergarten, but we met when we were 11...we are both 27 now. She will call out of nowhere and make up some crazy story to make herself sound oh so important! I've learned that she does this out of jealousy. Not that I have anything that anyone should be jealous of believe me! Girls can be very catty! Don't let her ruin your happiness! You keep on planning your wedding and know that everyone here on the disboards love ya!

 

[MissKris721]

During this planning process you will see friends come and go. It sucks, but you just have to roll with it. I've lost 2 friends so far. You can only do so much and then if they can't make an effort than you just have to wash your hands of it.

 

[doubletrouble_vb]

Weddings bring out the best and worst in people... But I wouldn't worry so much that your friends aren't coping well with your wedding. It's much more important how they will cope with your marriage. That's what should really determine whether or not you remain friends. So if they are goofy now just forgive it, move on with the wedding and see how they do after the fact. As you get older you discover its harder to make friends that stick so it isn't worth throwing away one you've known almost all your life over a wedding.

 

[Tinkerbelle14]

I know how you are feeling! I had 3 MOHs! I asked the first one immediately after we got engaged (I had a 2 year engagement). She then started cheating on her boyfriend, telling me about it and then denying it later on if I brought it up. Eventually the words "your marriage won't last 5 years" came out of her mouth and I said goodbye.
The second one started blowing me off to go drinking with new friends, wanting me to pay for everything (flight, hotel, food), even though she had initially said she wanted to pay for it, and just acting immature.
Finally I smartened up 6 months before my wedding and asked DH's brother's wife and she was great. Threw me an amazing wine tasting bridal shower and was great on my wedding day.
I agree that weddings bring out the best and worst in people and even though it is tough now, it is better you know who your true friends are now than down the road.
It'll get easier and your life will get better without the negative energy created by those people. Hang in there!

 

[MagicKingdom05]

I think everyone goes through something similar to this. Sometimes people need to understand that it's not there wedding, and what they want to do is not exactly what you might want to.

 

[peel]

I'm going through a somewhat similar situation with one of my bridesmaids. She is completely unreliable, always has been. I've gone out of my way to make sure that she doesn't have too much to do, especially because she's on the other side of the country and can't participate in much of the planning. I chose the BM dress specifically keeping in mind that it had to be available on the west coast. I picked out the dresses WAY in advance because I knew she wouldn't actually go to get fitted and order it until months later. And that's exactly what happened. In fact, she told me she ordered it last week but I'm inclined to not believe her. I also hunted around online for a variety of shoe selections that met all her "criteria": inexpensive, low or no heels, available for mail-order.... I won't be having a MOH, just 4 BMs, because I've known her the longest so she would have expected to be chosen, but I didn't want to put her in charge of ANYTHING, so I decided to nix the whole MOH idea and keep all 4 girls "even". And right from the start I've been certain that she will do something to throw a wrench in the plans. I don't know how big or small yet, but there will be something.

Anyway, enough about me . I hope everything works out with your friend, but don't forget that this is your day and in the end she'll just have to live with whatever action you take. Why is it that so many friends just don't understand how much effort and emotion goes into planning a wedding???

 

[Maggimus]

Im right there with ya!! WHen DH and I got engaged I really saw who my friends were. They didnt understand why I wasnt still going out everynight with them and having fun, etc. This is a big reason we chose to have a destination wedding!! DH is the same way-- they only come around half the time and are certainly not dependable. He has one friend that will practically LIVE at our house-- we cant get him to leave, especially when he is single. But when he and his girlfriend get back together (its an ongoing saga-- 1 week they love one another-- the next they hate)-- he cant get get him to answer his phone. THen when he miraculously shows back up-- we know why!

Hang in there-- In my situation I realized it was time to let go of my past and live for the future-- new friends will come along in time. Until then just confide in your DF and family-- they are the only true friends in this world that you 'need'!

 

[Belle1981]

Don't let these "friends" get you down. If they are your friends they will understand and respect your wishes. Like many of the others said don't let that ruin your special events. This is your wedding and YOU are the boss applesauce! If they love you they will make your special time much easier rather than harder! Best wishes

 

[Disneybabe84]

Girl, don't let people ruin your happy moments. If they are your true friends they'd understand. It's times like these where all your 'friends' start to show their true colors. I'm sorry you have to go through this, especially with planning a wedding. You think you know someone and then its like you've never known them to begin with. It's happened to the best of us, and I lost a lifetime friend .. I just couldn't deal with the lies and petty nonsense. My only true friend, and practically only friend is my DB. We've been together for 5 1/2 years and not once has he shown me disrespect. I'm much happier with him, I haven't had real friends since 9th grade .. I just have a hard time trusting people! lots of 's for you sweetie! Hang in there!

 

[Ileana]

Ahhhh South Florida

Don't feel bad - I have a friend who invited herself into my Bridal Party & a Cousin who named herself my Maid of Honor

Two issues I haven't even begun to deal with

 

[DisBride23]

I'm so sorry that you too are having to deal with this kind of drama. As all of the previous posters have said, you really just have to let it go. I too have a friend who is choosing to be like that. After much crying to my DF (poor guy) he gave me some really good advice. He told me that this wedding is what I have been looking forward to. It is going to happen, with or without my friend's help and support. The whole process is going to be tough, but fun. And really, that's it. If your friend chooses to be supportive and helpful, then she will get to be a part of this happy time. If she chooses not to, then she will miss out on some happy memories. Cheer up and remember that this is YOUR time. So dont be afraid to just do whatever it takes to enjoy it!

(and remember the DisGirls are always here if you need to vent!)