OH Boy the CRAP hit the fan today!!!!

[BELLE16127]

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[Leanne1977]

OMG what a nightmare!!

I'm sorry but if she is at the limit for the Deck 7 wedding(thats the one I want too) then I would have to tell this extra guest that she isn't able to attend.
There is no way I would compromise my wedding day and move location to satisfy the latecomer, no way!!

This is really not fair on the bride. She will have her own stresses and worries about her big day without dealing with this too.

How many guests including the bride and groom are there without the extra guest?

 

[BELLE16127]

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[DisneyDmbNut]

I don't know why you are so upset. If someone waits until 32 days prior to sailing, I would not bend over backwards to make any arrangements.
I wold let them know that if they are at the max for the deck, they can go up to deck 8 aft and watch.
Just because they are in the room doesn't mean they are automatically added to the wedding guest list.

But, I am pretty sure that ONE person would not be pounced on if they attended the ceremony.

ETA - I think Deck 7 is a max of 18 guests plus B&G.

 

[Leanne1977]

15 Total including Bride and Groom BEFORE the EXTRA GUEST!!!!!

Right, I've just looked in my wedding details and it says that the Deck 7 wedding is limited to 20 people. If that is correct then adding the extra person shouldn't cause too much grief. That is, of course, if your daughter actually wants her there.

But I wouldn't go to any more trouble than that, they really should have sorted themselves out sooner. Your daughter should not feel obliged to be making welcome bags etc for them at all.

 

[29apr00]

agree, deck 7 is 20 people includeing bride and groom....she should be fine. that said...i wouldn't worry about a welcome bag for her and simply call the DCL group coordinator and rearrange the dining....shouldn't be an issue with over a month to sailing.

 

[BELLE16127]

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[Leanne1977]

DD's Contract says 15 people on Deck 7....I just spoke with her and asked since I saw all of your posts. So I dunno what is up with the difference. There has been ALOT of that with the Cruise Weddings as we have seen by posts here.

Not to be rude, but I am SO UPSET because this is my Daughters WEDDING!!!! WEDDING, not a Vow Renewal, not an Anniversary do over, her WEDDING.....she has had MANY MANY things said that are now being changed, YES I do understand that a Cruise Wedding is more low Key, and I do KNOW what she was PROMISED in the beginning and I KNOW what she is GETTING NOW!!! That is why I am SO UPSET!!!

Please try to stay calm. I can understand how this is very stressful but you have to try to stay calm for your daughters sake.

I would get your daughter to call Brianna and enquire about the deck 7 limit. I am sure it will be fine and even after all the stress and worry, you will all have a day to remember.

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

Well, acting like my ceremony was JUST a vow renewal and therefore shouldn't be as important isn't really a way to win my sympathy.

I understand you aren't happy with DCL for the changes to the ceremony, but what you posted here has nothing to do with DCL. This is YOUR guest causing the problem and DCL hasn't even said anything to you (actually your daughter) about not accommodating your additional guest. There isn't anything you can do about this guest. I don't think anyone will think bad about your daughter if this late comer doesn't get a welcome bag.

What I was trying to say is that you seem to be freaking out about something that isn't a big deal. Nothing has to change. This person waited until the very last minute to book and so I wouldn't be getting all worked up.

When you board the ship, you can go down to the club and make sure that the person is added to your dining rotation. They do this almost everyday. People meet in the terminal and want to sit together and the dining managers link you together..

 

[copper4]

one person is not a big deal and while it is rude to wait until the last minute, this is not something you should be totally stressed over. There will be other unexpected problems and a lot closer to the wedding- to think there won't be is unrealistic- at least this is a month out and you can figurte out a solution. For the welcome bagt bag- let his parents give the unexpected guest theirs if it's such a big deal to make another one thirty days out. try to relax and remember much as you want things to be perfect, THIS one is not a big deal to work around.

 

[29apr00]

DD's Contract says 15 people on Deck 7....I just spoke with her and asked since I saw all of your posts. So I dunno what is up with the difference. There has been ALOT of that with the Cruise Weddings as we have seen by posts here.

Not to be rude, but I am SO UPSET because this is my Daughters WEDDING!!!! WEDDING, not a Vow Renewal, not an Anniversary do over, her WEDDING.....she has had MANY MANY things said that are now being changed, YES I do understand that a Cruise Wedding is more low Key, and I do KNOW what she was PROMISED in the beginning and I KNOW what she is GETTING NOW!!! That is why I am SO UPSET!!!

You're being rather RUDE to people that are trying to offer help and suggestions to you! Betsy's Vow Renewal was just as important to her and YOUR DAUGHTER'S, not yours, Wedding is! To imply that her wedding is any more important that Betsy's is rude and will not endear you to others on this board looking to offer you help.

It is true that Betsy's ceremony was over a year ago and yes things have changed. However my ceremony is AFTER your daughters, and Brie has confirmed with me that i have 18 guests PLUS bride and groom for the total of 20 on deck 7.

Or maybe DCL is of the same mind as you. My VOW RENEWAL is more important than your daughters wedding so i'm intitled to more guests???

 

[Beep]

Oooh that's a lot of venom in your posts OP!

So this person was invited but only booked now? Is it really that much of a big deal? So what if they don't get a welcome bag? The important thing is that your daughter is getting married, not whether a guest has a bag or not IMHO.

If it takes the guest amount over the maximum amount then I'm sure it can be sorted, even if they have to go to a different deck as it was mentioned before. If the dining is a problem then the guest will have to accept that they need to make alternative arrangements as such late notice.

Perhaps the extra guest and your daughters DFi parents didn't realise that adding a person at a late stage may cause a problem. If it was a 'traditional' wedding there would be no problem adding an additional guest for a meal. If they were invited did they know that there was a time-scale they had to work within? Maybe they hoped to attend all along and only knew now whether they could or not, and thought that they were still welcome as they were originally invited.


I think you made a very poor judgement in posting that it was more important than a vow renewal. Maybe you don't consider them important but the people on here who have organised them, spent money on them and taken it just as seriously as their original wedding vows will.

My friend and her husband recently renewed their vows as one of them is terminally ill and I can assure you it is every bit as important to them and their friends and family as your daughters wedding is to you.

 

[BELLE16127]

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[kmg148]

You did imply that her vow renewal wasn't as important, by saying that it was a wedding, many times. You implied that weddings are more important than other events. They are just as important--both are about symbolizing and share love for one another.

You can be upset, just be considerate! Call them tomorrow and see what they say, then figure out what emotion to feel.

 

[ElleBren]

Not to be rude, but I am SO UPSET because this is my Daughters WEDDING!!!! WEDDING, not a Vow Renewal, not an Anniversary do over, her WEDDING.....

Excuse me if I'm wrong but this sentence to me says you feel her wedding is more important that other events. Which I feel is completely rude. No one seemed to mind you were upset but it was that statement that seemed to rub people the wrong way.

Also for her wedding I'm sure things will work out. Personally if I had gotten a late response I would have been happy that someone I invited to our wedding had been able to rearrange their schedule and add the extra expense to come to my wedding and join in our happiness. When I had my event my best friend who had replied yes to come to my wedding had to leave town 3 days before the event. Was I upset (because he wasn't able to make it), yes, did I go crazy because it caused a lot of kinks in my very thought out plan, no. I dealt with it. I'm sure your daughter will be fine & have a wonderful day even with the extra guest.

Worse comes to worse the MIL shares her welcome bag, since they are in the same room.

 

[Goldeelox9]

YOu need to calm down. First of all this is your daughter's wedding, not yours and secondly this is not big deal! It was an invited guest, who booked late! Your daughter and you should both be happy that this person wants to share your daughter's wedding with her and instead you are updset they are going.

This is minor, they can add her to the dining, just email the group cordinater. No big deal, we changed tables at dinner until the last week.

Also Betsy's Vow Renewal was HER wedding, her dream wedding and it was just as important as my wedding, my dream wedding. Even Carrie thought so and Betsy made the book. LOL

Your daughter's wedding will be perfect, it will go off without a hitch. Disney will take care of everything. Calm down!

 

[*Nessa*]

Oh Wow I can see both sides to this, and personally as a bride, I can imagine how distressing it would be to have a guest book at the 11th hour & pay all that money to go on the cruise and then potentially not be able to attend the ceremony that would be terrible what a shame they didn’t speak with your DD before just booking.

But I did have a thought on why your contract might specify 15, perhaps it's purely cost related. I know we have something similar in ours and we can still increase our number (up to the 18 or 20) but we just have to pay a little extra. Hopefully it will be something like that and a few phone call you can sort it out