Off shoot from another thread: why do we get upset if everyone doesn't love Disney?

[eliza61]

Twice in recent days, some one I know was really bummed because they invited some one to disney and the person or persons really were not into it.

I read this all the time and never understand why we get upset.

My dh and sons love to ski and fish. I on the other hand loathe, hate and despise cold weather. no matter how many times I try it, I just am not into it. So now, my dh and sons have some serious "male bonding time" skiing and fishing, and I get some face time with the king of Prussia mall without the Dh. win/win. They never get upset that I'm not into skiing.

My inlaws are not Disney freaks, they will go with us for a long weekend but most of the time they don't even go to the parks. We meet up for dinner and the kids hang out with them at the pool.

I'm totally cool with that

But if someone says they're really not into disney we take it personally. Why?

Is it because we build up the illusion of "magical" vacations with the family and when reality kicks in, we're disappointed?

Or do we think just because the kiddies go, it should automatically make everyone love it?

 

[cluvsdisney]

I don't get upset about that but I do get annoyed when people say it's childish for adults to like Disney.

 

[mommasita]

I just hate when they try to ruin it for others. It goes for anything really.

You love to buy shoes, then buy a billion, if that is where you prefer your extra money to go. It is none of my business.

If I hated fishing (and I do), I would not attend a trip, thus not ruining it for everyone. And If I HAD to go, I would but a smile on my face, and pout or whatever in silence.

 

[U2_rocks!]

If someone decides on their own to try Disney and they hate it, then it doesn't bother me (much), though I will always be curious as to why. But if we talked someone into it (i.e. they weren't going to go except for our glowing recommendation) then I do feel kind of bad. I'm not upset with them, but I may be disappointed that it didn't turn out like I thought it would, or I might wonder why I didn't pick up on clues that might have told me that it wouldn't be the place for them.

I was a little worried the first time we convinced my parents to some with us, because Mom hates crowds and confusion - but a good plan and some flexibility made for a wonderful trip, and next time it was THEIR suggestion to go again! I would have felt bad if they had hated it and said "never again!".

 

[IdesOmarch]

It doesn't make me upset or mad, just more sorry for them. For them in that they can't enjoy themselves and have a good time with Disney or Universal or any theme park. There is definitely a decent sized population among us that just don't know how to, or can't have "fun." I don't understand it, it makes no sense, but there it is.

How about the people that go on vacation or to the beach and work the whole time they're there, or stay in the hotel room. And its not like I don't take the business side of myself seriously, I absolutely do and am a go getter, trying to start new businesses and stuff, but all the work I do is so that I can spend a lot more time at Disney, or the beach, or Universal, or on a cruise. Actually my main goal in life at this point is to get one of my businesses going so well, I can be on a permanent beach/disney/universal/caribbean island vaca

 

[MushyMushy]

It doesn't bother me at all when somebody doesn't care for WDW. What does get to me is the need to be almost insulting about ME liking it -- that it's a waste of money, that it's for kids, that Disney must have somehow brainwashed me (yes, a man I know does indeed believe Disney brainwashes the masses).

There are a lot of places and attractions I don't care for and don't get why other people do like them. But if I had a friend telling me about their trip to one of them, I would never be rude about it and go on and on about why I think it's a waste of time or money. Why do people think it's okay to do that about Disney in particular?

 

[themilesfamily]

I HAD to marry a person who loved Disney -- and I did. And I'll admit I would have been crushed if I'd had a child who wasn't a Disney fan. Fortunately my DD is as much of a fan as I am.

Everyone else, I don't really care.

The thing that irks me about people who don't like Disney is, very often the reason they don't like it is because they did a lax job researching and planning their trip and had a bad time.

Some examples:

1) They go for Christmas and New Year -- fight the crowds all week -- and now just assume it's always like that. i.e. "Disney can't control their crowds and the lines are too long."
2) They don't make dining reservations and are angry when they walk up to primo dining spots and are turned away. i.e. "Disney doesn't treat their paying customers with respect."
3) They don't research room discounts, free dining, and promotions and then complain about how expensive the trips are. i.e. "Disney trips are too expensive and they just want your money."

I feel like, very often, these people miss the magic because they won't pick up a guidebook and see what Disney is really all about.

 

[IdesOmarch]

I would just guess this person that criticizes you about Disney, has probably never had a "fun" day in his life. I can't imagine this person liking the beach either, or any type of "vacation." I mean I like money and I like to be constructive with work, but I just can't understand people that aren't interested in or do not know how to have fun?

 

[minkydog]

It doesn't bother me at all--they're leaving more curb space for me. My family LOVES Disney, but almost no one else in our extended family gets it. But that's okay. I don't get why they want to go deep-sea fishing(wheres my barfing smiley?) or dress up in medieval attire or play golf. But i'm sure they don't get mad about it. Variety is the spice of life!

 

[Toad_Passenger]

It doesn't bother me at all when somebody doesn't care for WDW. What does get to me is the need to be almost insulting about ME liking it -- that it's a waste of money, that it's for kids, that Disney must have somehow brainwashed me (yes, a man I know does indeed believe Disney brainwashes the masses).

There are a lot of places and attractions I don't care for and don't get why other people do like them. But if I had a friend telling me about their trip to one of them, I would never be rude about it and go on and on about why I think it's a waste of time or money. Why do people think it's okay to do that about Disney in particular?

This is the type of behavior I can't stand. It reminds me of when I was younger and I didn't like something for Dinner, I'd make a face like I was vomiting, or something like that. My Mom would say, "A simple 'I don't like it' would suffice, no need for the dramatics."

Not everyone has to loooovvve Disney the way my family does, but don't insult me, or make me feel like a fool because of what we like to do. I get so tired of hearing people telling me that because I'm in my 30's I should be going to the Caribbean all the time. Cool, go ahead and do that, and I'll do what I like to do.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I could care less what people are into.

I think that with the posts in question the families are getting berated to death about their passion and that is really the issue. As others are saying, people are insulting and RUDE to you about it.

Of course I would not talk Disney or bring someone on a vacay that didn't like it. I think that is silly as well.

We go boating and we often go to Branson Mo to boat. My family gives us crap for not seeing the shows. We just tell them we are not into the shows as much as boating. Now I would prefer to mix it up but my dh would rather be on the lake so I suck it up there.

Maybe, next time I go I will go see some stuff on my own.....hmm......

 

[NHdisneylover]

I think some people identify so strongly with Disney that when someone does not like Disney the people take it personally--as if in not liking Disney that person is also not liking THEM (since they see Disney as some key paart of their personality).

The above applies to those who are miffed when another person simply doesn ot care for Disney. I FULLY understand and sympathize with anyone who gets upset if someone actaully criticizes them for liking Disney (or football, or ice fishing, or underwater basket weacing or whatever). Everyone ought to show some respect for teh diversity of interests in this world.

 

[KimR]

I wouldn't get upset if someone we invited didn't enjoy Disney - different things appeal to different people. However, I would be disappointed just because I enjoy watching people I care about have fun. After all, if I wasn't hoping they'd enjoy themselves I wouldn't have invited them along in the first place. It's wonderful to share the things I love about Disney with someone who feels the same way - especially if it's their first time. However, if they didn't like it I wouldn't let it ruin my vacation or continue to dwell on it once I returned.

Fortunately, though, we've never had that problem. Everyone we've taken has loved it.

 

[Mickeyistheman]

What bothers me is when people have NEVER been there and had the experience. Disney IS an EXPERIENCE.

It's not like just going away on vacation its a very different type of vacation.

I don't take it personally, but like the PP said don't insult ME because I love it.

 

[Praying Colonel]

I don't get irritated if others don't like WDW. I don't even get irritated if they criticize me for liking WDW.

What does irritate me is when someone has no clue what they're doing and then claims WDW is horrible. For example, they go during Christmas, don't get to the parks until noon, don't know what FP or EMH is, make no ADRs and are shocked things just didn't go perfectly for them. "WDW stinks--I didn't get to ride anything and we couldn't get into a sit-down restaurant." Um, ya think?

 

[palavra]

I don't get irritated if others don't like WDW. I don't even get irritated if they criticize me for liking WDW.

What does irritate me is when someone has no clue what they're doing and then claims WDW is horrible. For example, they go during Christmas, don't get to the parks until noon, don't know what FP or EMH is, make no ADRs and are shocked things just didn't go perfectly for them. "WDW stinks--I didn't get to ride anything and we couldn't get into a sit-down restaurant." Um, ya think?

Sort of like the posters who bash Universal and they haven't even been there?

 

[Praying Colonel]

 

[hereyago]

I don't get upset. I do think it's rude for someone to go Oh you are going to WDW< DCL again, when they never go anywhere not even the beach, but like to spend money on dumb ringtones,etc.

Say if family member wanted to come along and then proceeded to whine about everything money,etc. then I wouldn't get upset that they didn't love Disney, but that same time, I would be like CYA later let me enjoy my trip.

 

[kimmar067]

Some examples:

1) They go for Christmas and New Year -- fight the crowds all week -- and now just assume it's always like that. i.e. "Disney can't control their crowds and the lines are too long."
2) They don't make dining reservations and are angry when they walk up to primo dining spots and are turned away. i.e. "Disney doesn't treat their paying customers with respect."
3) They don't research room discounts, free dining, and promotions and then complain about how expensive the trips are. i.e. "Disney trips are too expensive and they just want your money."

I feel like, very often, these people miss the magic because they won't pick up a guidebook and see what Disney is really all about.

...I have a friend at school who will be going to WDW in February - they already have picked up a guidebook - ME!

 

[Liberty Belle]

I couldn't care less if someone didn't like Disney. If they say or act like I'm wrong for liking it, that's where I have the problem.